My thoughts on the Megan Gower situation 👉🏻 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFOYdwE6330&t=12s

The "no contact trend" isn't a trend, and believing it's about punishment just serves to reveal that woman's motivations. I went NC with my mom and dad around the same time a few years ago. I've rebuilt and reconnected w mom and healed so much through that, while I've stayed NC with dad because he's a narc who isn't capable of growth. That NC with dad gave me the space to heal enough to reconnect with my mom and separate the hurt I had from each of them. That woman just doesn't want to face the inconvenient truth that NC IS about healing, just not hers.

My dad frequently says how he doesn't like his children. My grandmother says the same about my dad and uncles. Good thing they all decided to have so many kids hey? Definitely not a trend. Most of us are just realizing we no longer have to put up with it from these people anymore.

My father is 67 and he's low contact with his 97 mother over how vindictive and down right cruel she's always been to my mother and my brother and me. My mother became disabled partly because of genetics and her pregnancy with me. She told my dad then that there was no shame in leaving his disabled wife and two children under two and he was young enough to start over. I'm 37, so no it's absolutely not a 'new thing' or a 'trend'

I’m Gen X and have no contact with some of my family.  I tried for over twenty years with these people, and I finally had to walk away for my sanity.

The fact that people can get fired for taking their kids to dr appointments too much is disgusting

Some parents earn their punishment.

It's not a trend. I've been no contact for 5 years. I spent years trying to set boundaries.

One side of my family is a "we don't speak out against the family" "you don't have to like them but you do have to love them"(they say even as you describe abuse) they blame the children in the family, for being abused by the adults in the family while they emotionally abuse said child for opening up about the abuse.

Needless to say, I've progressively gone no contact with them for the past decade before it was a "trend".

The last straw was being laughed at for asking my PA aunt what she knew about a life saving treatment, being told it was "for the real bad cases" and that I didn't need it.

I had already been approved for it.

By two different doctors (which is standard to be able to start the treatment)

She was considered the "nice" aunt.

wtf I’ve got six grandchildren, I’ve babysat all of them, I’m a boomer, even now at 71, I help my daughter with her autistic son, willingly, love my grandchildren. The oldest graduates this month from high school, I’m so proud.

Going no contact took years of suffering, not only suffering my mother’s abuse but also the egregious amounts of guilt and shame that come with just wanting to get out. After a lifetime of feeling like you live only for your parent, it feels like committing a crime or deciding to be a terrible, irredeemable person.

And on top of that! Being able to get out and go NC is actually a privilege! I had to be strategic about it bc I had no actual help to cut contact: I had to figure out where to live, if I could afford it, ensuring that no other family members or ppl in proximity to my parent knew where I was going, accepting that I would be on my own when I had never truly been before and then taking that plunge when everything inside of me was screaming not to. There are so many people who can’t make it to that point due to financial, social, cultural and interpersonal issues and it hurts my heart to think about.

So how dare anyone call Going No Contact with Abusive Parents “a trend”. It’s not a snap decision and it doesn’t come without pain, sacrifice and more trauma.

It is still hard for me to say my mom was abusive to me. She would tell me she wished she hadn't adopted me. She'd call me... how do I say this without my comment being removed... a "large" 🐄. Most people say that my mom was an amazing mom who loved her kids. My sister was always the smart, pretty one who was treated much nicer and never called names. Like, my mom did a lot for me, she helped me though DV, homelessness, etc. Yet she also said HORRIBLE things to me, and even physically harmed me multiple times. I remember when she finally found out that my dad SA'd me from the age of 6 to age 16 when he passed away, she didn't hug me, she didn't ask my why I never told. She literally said, "I can't believe you let your dad F you!" And she never spoke of it again. Who does that?! But to anyone else, she did nothing wrong, and I'm dealing with the trauma of it all. So no, no contact isn't a trend, it's necessary.

"no contact is just a trend" Several versions of Cinderella from before this century would disagree

3:06 not to call estranged children animals, but these parenrs are the same types of people who will cross an animal's boundaries, ignore all of its warnings, and then cry because that animal "bit/scratched/kicked them for no reason".

I am an elder millennial. I stayed in contact until this year (I am 43). It was not easy and I kept giving chance after chance until it was finally just ENOUGH. Enough pain. Enough guilt. Enough shame. I'm done. Until he dies though I won't be relieved. I still feel the heaviness on my shoulders

Don’t excuse it based on “lack of resources”. All you need is love for your child. Play with them, love them, talk to them, ANYTHING.

I hadn't seen Sarah  klait's satire before.  I really enjoyed it.

(18:30) I usually agree with you but not this time. I'm going to laugh at her because the instructions ARE ON THE PACKAGING. 😆

“Would he do that if it were a group of cowboys?”

Maybe my dad is the exception but he absolutely takes every opportunity to show people pictures of my daughter and my niece.  Men, women, anybody.  He’s a proud pap.

You are not burning bridges, you're cutting off access to your peace