Surviving Avoidant Discard: What to Do in the First 8 Weeks
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Welcome to today's episode! In this video I make a deep dive into the first 8 weeks after the avoidant discard. I help you understand your reactions and the avoidants reactions and give ideas & approaches on how to move on and rise again.
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► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
02:06 Overview: The First 8 Weeks
03:14 Week 1: The Shock Phase
08:45 Week 2: The Grief Phase
12:50 Week 3: The Anger Phase
18:30 Week 4: Integrating Grief
24:15 Week 5: Real No Contact
27:21 Week 6: Their Return
32:10 Week 7: Setting Boundaries
35:00 Week 8: Start to Become Unshakable
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
18 Comments
They discarded me in June and reached out in August with the offer of friendship because they could not afford the vulnerability of a relationship. I told them i didn't trust them like i did before because of the hurt, but somehow we fell into the same pace we were when we were in the relationship. I just wasn't safe.
It also didn't help that when they reached out in August, they said I should not put them in a position where they would not trust me. My nervous system was off the rocks with this new "friendship" because i couldn't fully relax and there was no attempt to try to rebuild the trust as well as no clarity. We were doing relationship things without the label of relationship. And I just couldn't so I blocked them everywhere.
She started a rebound with my best friend in week 4, which helped me to let go of hope and finally detach in week 8. It's very accurate but can obviously be affected by the Avoidant behavior. Great episode!
Surviving Avoidant Discard: What to Do in the First 8 Weeks
UNDERSTANDABLE
3,828 views
► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)
Welcome to today's episode! In this video I make a deep dive into the first 8 weeks after the avoidant discard. I help you understand your reactions and the avoidants reactions and give ideas & approaches on how to move on and rise again.
► Links and Resources:
Why Avoidants Come Back Video: Healed Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Alw...
► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!
YouTube: @understandablepodcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQL...
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast...
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee35...
► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
02:06 Overview: The First 8 Weeks
03:14 Week 1: The Shock Phase
08:45 Week 2: The Grief Phase
12:50 Week 3: The Anger Phase
18:30 Week 4: Integrating Grief
24:15 Week 5: Real No Contact
27:21 Week 6: Their Return
32:10 Week 7: Setting Boundaries
35:00 Week 8: Start to Become Unshakable
► Reach Out To Me :)
E-Mail: info@understandable.net
► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.