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Don’t Move In With Your Boyfriend (Especially If He’s Older)

Bert Simon

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Moving in with a boyfriend can feel romantic, practical, even “mature” but when there’s a significant age gap, the power dynamics shift in ways people rarely talk about. Financial stability, life experience, social capital, and emotional leverage don’t distribute evenly just because the relationship feels good. In this episode, we unpack why cohabitating with a much older partner can quietly reshape your independence, decision-making, and identity. This isn’t about shaming age gap relationships. It’s about asking better questions before you give up space, freedom, and negotiating power in the name of love. Slow down. Think long-term. Protect your autonomy.

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20 Comments

@ItsBertSimon Creator 7 months ago (edited) Pinned

NOTE: Obviously the title was meant to bring you in. You can move in with your partners (trust yourself) BUT MAKE SURE IT IS FOR THE RIGHT REASON. Do not do it because you are desperate. If you need help with rent, get a roommate, not a new boyfriend off tinder you don't know. Stay safe! :_Bulma:
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@rouka120 7 months ago

“When they’re 19 you can train them.”
Oh wow
OH WOW
OH 🚩WOW🚩

@themelonsoup 7 months ago

I hate when people say "it's legal" because it seems like they would go much younger if there weren't legal consequences.

@agcsggc 7 months ago (edited)

That first man who was saying you can “train them when they’re young” is literally describing grooming.

Edit: damn, yall I’ve never gotten this many likes on a comment

@JadeKovach 7 months ago

It’s funny when the younger person says people their age aren’t mature. That older person isn’t either! It’s an act 😂

@c38585 7 months ago

"Guys my age are not mature enough." The older guy you're dating isn't either. That's why he has to hunt younger women, because women his own age won't touch his immature ass.

@kaih.6141 6 months ago

3:10 if the “youngest you’ll go” is the minimum legal age allowed, you are the reason why that law exists

@thevelvets2023 7 months ago

The reason older men date 18yr.is because they can’t go any younger!

@ansleypayne9870 7 months ago

im a 21 year old lesbian and i dont even like seeing 18 year olds on my dating apps. the idea of being THIRTY????? and dating 18/19 year olds????? thats so weird

@jessy8445 7 months ago

Another trend I have noticed is how- at least in my personal internet experience- when I see girls talking about how great their dads were, they highlight how well their dads treated ALL the women in the house, me, mom, my sister, etc. When men talk about their moms, it’s almost exclusively about mom’s treatment of them personally

@jiliciar.1423 6 months ago (edited)

Me seeing this when I was gonna runaway to my boyfriend early this morning... I'm safe at home, I didn't go.

Edit: I'm 22, he's 38... I am in a dysfunctional home and I felt so desperate to live anywhere else other than with my parents. I am inspired now to find my own safety.

@sneugimaleinad 7 months ago

in case anyone needs to hear this, being single and living alone with a cat is the BEST arrangement in this world, girlies!

@pleaseverifyrecaptcha7757 7 months ago

“Mature for your age” is so predatory in so many ways… A: its flattery B: it’s dismissive of the persons actual age and C: it acknowledges the fact that the “mature” individual is STILL YOUNG ENOUGH to be considered typically immature by society’s standards. It’s so gross

@leslie5066 6 months ago

1:32 He’s literally telling her to her face how he’s planning to manipulate her and be controlling over her and she’s laughing it off, I genuinely wish her luck

@lorabell_98 7 months ago

The way bro wouldn’t reveal his age but said 18 is fine 💀

@pkxx22 7 months ago

My 42yr old cousin dated a 16yr old from Laos and just married her at 18.. It's gross. 🤮

@isabelamer86 7 months ago

A 40 year old has very little in common with an 18 year old.

@ko123-g3k 7 months ago

“You can train them”?? Like a dog???

@MxGood69 7 months ago

Oh fuck man. This hit close to home.

I was 21 my 34 yr old partner wanted to move in after 3 months. He was guilt trippy as fuck.
Made me feel cruel for feeling that was too early. So almost said yes.

Thank FUCK I trusted my intuition, wish I'd seen this sooner. Thank you for this 🙏

@angelofsiryu 7 months ago

My ex is actively dating girls that are barely legal. The fact that he's doing this after I divorced him makes me realize I made a good decision. I was with him from 17 to 31. Some of these men peak at 16, never change and, unfortunately, will manipulate and abuse their way into these relationships with girls.