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Sex after 50: What Women Think Men Want in Bed - Are They Getting It All Wrong? 😳

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What do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the bedroom. Whether you’re with someone new dating over 50, or trying to reignite the spark with a long-term partner, this is the truth about sex after 50 that no one talks about!

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Laurie Gerber is a NYC-based love and relationship coach with over 20-years of experience in helping women and men find and maintain lasting relationships. Laurie was a love expert for Match, Zoosk, and Jdate, and has been featured on the Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, and A&E, and has led hundreds of events and webinars about love and relationships. #datingover50 #relationshipsafter50 #sexafter50

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20 Comments

@Realblakemoody 1 year ago Pinned

I absolutely adore how this show thoughtfully addresses sensitive topics. Yall don’t pick sides and it is sooo refreshing and different 🩵.
1. Men DON’T just care about sex. We want a partner that is excited to be there too (enthusiasm) and doesn’t look at it as something they HAVE to do
2. Men are not as concerned about how a woman’s body looks as the woman is. It’s not even close. We wouldn’t be there if we really cared, trust me 😊. And you nailed it on the softness, warmth and curves. That is what we love
3. Communication is huge/everything

@333Alastair 1 year ago

Women… If you don’t want any kind of sex or affection in a relationship, just stay single and don’t waste anyone’s time.

@EvanDahill 1 year ago

Sex may only be 10% of a marriage, but when it’s an issue, it becomes 90% of the marriage.

@stephenkilpatrick807 1 year ago

Enthusiasm is the perfect word. That’s what men want from women.

@paulreid2223 1 year ago

Women regarding ( and treating) sex as an obligation kills the idea of intimacy and connection ..

@mackjoemackjoe9827 1 year ago

Married for 33yrs. Wife has wrinkles, rolls and mark. Sexy is not a dress size. Sexy is an attitude. A real man doesn't care about the vain things people focus on. If she's clean, smells nice and feels good about herself is most important. As a man I want honesty both ways of what we want and what turns us on.

@MichaelMackenzie-sb4hx 4 months ago (edited)

no sex = friends only or less. if women see sex as an obligation, that's a deal breaker.

@glennbarrett2183 1 year ago

53yr old man ... there is nothing sexier, physically, than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, whatever skin that is.
Own your age and experiences, Ladies. Own your femininity.

@mr.goodwrench8273 1 year ago

As a man, I actually do care about having plenty of sex within marriage. It's not the only thing I care about though. Obviously, I would love and care about her, and hopefully she would love and care about me as well. Spending time with one another. What I wish women would know is this: Don't use sex to reel me into a marriage. Sex is not to be weaponized as a manipulation tool to get what you want. It's an expression of love between a husband and wife.

@richardcoppack5357 10 months ago

Having a regular sex life with your partner is important. Without it, it's a friendship, not a relationship.

@4124301 1 year ago

Someone who is enthusiastically present over a “10” any day.

@dirtbiketrails4life683 1 year ago

I would have to say honesty would be a good start. Most real men don't have the time to waste on guessing games and wondering if no means yes or vice versa. Too many women want to play games which is a huge turn off to men especially us older men. Thanks for doing that video! It's a interesting topic.

@DrummerRick 1 year ago (edited)

As a mid 50s widower, who's had a few relationships since I lost my wife I can tell you that (for me at least) I want a connection before I sleep with anyone. The whole package is important - esp around trust. As regards body issues, extremes are bad (way too overweight, or way too thin), but anything in the middle is fine, and this links back to the whole package piece. I work hard to develop trust in relationships, and part of that is accepting all the other person is, physically, emotionally etc, and helping my partners relax in the bedroom makes for a better experience for both sides. Most importantly, learn to laugh together whilst you are making love!

@steves.9982 1 year ago

Widowed in 2017 after 29 years together: After some dark times I've been dating for about 6 years. I thought it would be straight forward to find a woman who would want to share what's good in the second half of life with a good partner. Something simple, not having the complexities of starting out as a young couple: Starting a family, buying a house, etc. I have been completely up front that I would like to be in a long term relationship but am not looking to get married. Dating divorced women between 52 and 62 I have found it's just not happening, and it's just too bad.
I would say on topic that sex is not all I want in a relationship, I want a loving partnership. When a man and a woman are good together, not much in life is better. Life is a joy. That said, if a man does not have an enthusiastic and/or sexually generous partner, nothing else substitutes for being and feeling loved in that way.

@tonykelpie 1 year ago

A smile is the single most important element of a woman’s appearance. Physical warmth is a very positive aspect of behaviour in a relationship

@glenacord 1 year ago

I agree, we mature guys (60's here) are very accepting of your body's "imperfections". I can assure you it bothers you way more than it bothers us. We have plenty to be self-conscious about ourselves. As they said, we're just happy you're there with us :-)

@pajacobmn 1 year ago

As a man, I believe men fall all over the spectrum of interest in sex, the majority in the middle just want to be wanted. Sex is such a powerful way to connect for men, and when their partners desire disappears and goes dormant, many men are emotionally devastated. Lots of men deal with this in very unhealthy ways.

@ScottDschaak 1 year ago

The best analogy for this topic is this. A thirsty man in a desert with no water will think of nothing else. A man swimming in a vast lake doesn't think about his thirst at all. If you keep your man thirsty all the time, it's all he thinks about. But then again, like the one lady said, she just basically didn't want or care, and she's one of millions.

@christopherblakeman5225 2 months ago

58yo, married 25 yrs Single 5yrs.
We're trained to not need or ask for anything, and most of us comply, but we want to be LOVED! The knowledge that we are deeply cared for by an affectionate woman who holds hands and kisses in public, who snuggles into our arms, who sits on our lap. Who is sexually playful, effeminate, and values both pleasing AND being pleased. And whether its 1st base or Home Run, it really is about softness, gentle curves and presence.

@pajacobmn 1 year ago

68M. If you consider sex to be only intercourse, you’re missing the boat. I think intercourse is only about 30% of all the fun that’s available. Variety is essential, doing the same routine over and over makes for boredom in the bedroom. But don’t limit yourself to the bedroom! After my father (WWII veteran) died at 77, my sisters asked mom what all the tiny little American flags (the ones on toothpicks) were about, they had been all over the house for years. Mom’s answer: ‘Al would put one of those up in every room we had sex in.’ They were EVERYWHERE!!