Trust your gut. It never lies.

When you know, you know. There’s the gut feeling that can’t lie to you

When you find evidence and they still deny deny deny... It is maddening. When your eyes have shown you the truth and their words make you feel insane.

When you know you know.

I had a gut feeling. Then I questioned her, she denied it, then I caught them together. The denial continued for ten months. Always go with your gut instinct.  Totally devastating,wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy

That gut feeling something is happening forces you to take a closer look. Once you discover something is wrong, their behaviour changes in trying to rock you back to sleep. "It's in your head" is the common one.

My wifes affair destroyed me.

Women will never admit an affair

It's because they know the marriage will end for them once they get caught

I don't buy that they hate lying, have remorse and take responsibility for their actions. That's such bs!

A cheater has already given themselves permission to deceive and lie to their official partner and they have chosen and renewed many times the same choice, so you need to anticipate this. f you have the guts feeling there is an inappropriate relationship, it is very likely you are right. They will deny it and, knowing you are suspicious, they will delete any evidence. So you have to play the game unfortunately and FIRST you look for and collect the evidence and only THEN you ask the question. If they are honest, you talk, if they are not and they will lie and gaslight you, shove the evidence in their face.   It is THEIR FAULT if you had to play a dirty game you really would have never chosen.

What about when they tell you it is about you and your inadequacies.
Or rub it in before you know?
These are people who get everything they want with zero consequences.
They’re always so pleased with themselves but they’re like less moral versions of smash-and-grab burglars.
Bad people.

Happened with my spouse, 4 years. Still struggle with dealing with resentment. Not sure if they’re still doing it, but the damage is extensive. 😢

Trust your gut

I'm almost 100% sure my wife is having an affair

I have finally got to the bottom of my ex partners cheating. I’m a heartbroken mess and my family is in ruins, I have young children and it kills me to know they won’t have the stability my parents provided for me. At least I know the only way is up from here.

Nope they are one step from going all the way . They always say ( I dont have the time ) they are seeing someone else .

When someone cheats the relationship is over. Anything else is different and not real

No reason or excuses, words can trick the gut feeling.  Period

If your gut is screaming at you that she's cheating. She's definitely cheating. And what's not mentioned here is that she doesn't want her family, friends and co workers to find out either. That's why she can look you straight in the eyes and lie so convincingly. Just like her life depends on it. Plus she's been practicing her deception and lies for years.