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How we try to avoid the narcissist’s wrath

DoctorRamani

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What do you start doing differently when you’re trying to avoid a narcissistic person’s wrath? In this video, Dr. Ramani breaks down the subtle ways fear of their reactions can start changing how you behave.

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20 Comments

@cinisesigurio4 12 hours ago

I still remember the exact moment when I realized how badly I had humiliated myself. I was checking my phone every 4 minutes like some addicted lab rat waiting for a reward. One unread message from him could change my whole mood, and that’s honestly disgusting to admit now. Then one night, completely drained, I bought The Obedient Boy Protocol. I didn’t expect anything...but the book hiIt me like a psychological brick. It didn’t tell me to heal or be patient. It told me to wake up. To stop begging. To stop over-explaining. I applied the techniques the next day and suddenly HE was the one refreshing the chat, leaving double-texts, asking why I’m “different.” Babe, I’m not different. I’m just done being pathetic

@fernflett942 18 hours ago

This sounds like so much work to defuse the bomb!

@JohnEffy-m6v 18 hours ago

I don’t care. If I see somebody being a narcissist I’m calling it out

Want to act like a crappy human being?

I’m calling you out

@zmesopotamia6792 18 hours ago (edited)

The make you start apologising for no reason and overexplaining yourself.

@hello_clarice 15 hours ago

Wishing you health and recovery, Ramani!

@jrhc3827 18 hours ago

I am saddened to hear that you are going through a difficult time. I can fully relate to that immediate anxiety attack when threatened. Your whole body seizes. It is not easy to think clearly in those moments. My heart goes out to you. Wish I could do more.

@lebasietsi3061 18 hours ago (edited)

Hang in there and stay strong!!!.

@arcticshark49 13 hours ago

Cynicism isn’t a bad thing. Getting to “Oh hell no!” after all the years of smiling and swallowing your true north.

@lindahooper7658 16 hours ago

❤thank you ❤❤sharing has helped ❤❤❤

@imspeaking9709 13 hours ago

Get well soon, Dr. Ramani!

@georgirancour198 18 hours ago

was in from 15 to 55, out now 15 years, radical acceptance, but tll i found u i still wondered why, how, what i dd to set him off. i did know it wasnt my problem, but even a ocompliment would do it. "we're so lucky to have you," met with,"damn right, somebody has to pull their weight around here. must be.n nice..." now i know. thank you.

@EightyThreeKRV 18 hours ago

I'm AuDHD and don't fawn, because it feels so inauthentic. Sometimes I wish I did. My covert narc mom loses it every two or three days, and I feel so unsafe.

@HelenDower-s9m 18 hours ago

Falling in love is the most dangerous thing in the world . I know your pain . I spent too many years trying to gain traction in a relationship with someone that was constantly showing me they did not really want me, or respect me. Unfortunately when there are children involved you try and make constant adjustment's , and enable the slow decent of humiliation and degradation . It's like the Strongest Undertow of emotions , taking down to the bottom of your being , trying to get back to the surface so you can breath . Never again will I allow this humiliation and destruction of my being .

@sue-x3x3j 18 hours ago

I'm judging my new 'non-fawning self'' too. It seems cold and a little judgmental to be discerning and often determine that I will not engage in something with people. It helps to hear you voice a similar feeling. Sorry to hear of icky things happening in your life Dr. Ramani. Your work here has made it possible for me to believe in safe and comfortable people and spaces! Altho I am having trouble feeling accepted in the Healing Program chats, but I hope it is just a phase I am going thru in my healing.

@GoldenShrike 16 hours ago

The worst part is that they explode even if you do everything that they want cause they are so unstable and contradict what they say themselves, they try to find any sort of fault or make it up just to trigger themselves into exploding. Like they have nothing else going on than wanting to cause fights or degrade their partnet to feel powerful ugh

@user-on7kl8dk7t 9 hours ago

Praying for Dr Ramani’s full healing and peace🙏

@kibkac 17 hours ago

WOW! I just now connected my childhood migraines to my home life.
They went on into my late 30s.
Thank you💃🏼

@MartiLadd 17 hours ago

I've followed your channel for years, and this is my first comment. Thank you, Dr, Ramani for another gem in the ToolKit- This discussion of 'Bomb Diffusion' technique is SO on-point - and resonates as deeply as the "Grey Rock" method. These tools equip US - and have helped me tremendously.

@ChelseaGervan 13 hours ago (edited)

I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Your story really hits home and I have experienced the additional trauma that happens after the initial trauma. It becomes clear you need to have your own back.