When the narcissist is devaluing you, you will notice they will grow distant, they'll stop engaging in conversation with you, even when you try to have a conversation with them like you normally would,. They'll shrug their shoulders, raise their eyebrows, and spread their arms open, palms u, like they have no idea what you mean. Continuing the devaluation process, they will get snarky with you, they'll start to treat you like you're stupid, they'll scoff at what you say when you ask what's wrong. They won't take anything you have to say seriously because they're no longer listening to you. And if they are listening to you, they will completely dismiss what you have to say in order to reply. They don't listen with the intent to understand what you're saying, because they don't care, they just want to reply and put you down. They will start mumbling about you undertheir breath, but just loud enough for you to hear what they're saying so that when you respond you will be accused of starting the argument that will definitely follow. They will make mountains out of molehills, and just generally act disgusted with your presence in their life. They will ignore you, they will go for days without speaking to you even if you live in the same house. They will brush past you like you're not even there. And when you have something to say they will act like it's a huge deal for them to respond and they will disagree with every single thing you have to say to them whether it's true or not. If you say the sky is blue they'll say it's black. If you say you feel like there's something wrong between the two of you, you will get that classic narcissistic pose of them raising their eyebrows and spreading their arms and say something to the effect of well you should know what's wrong you're here. What do you think is wrong? And whatever it is you say whether it's how you feel they're distancing themselves from you or they don't want to spend time with you anymore you'll get that classic narcissistic pose again and when you question that they will either just flat out ignore you or they will twist it around to where it is your fault that they're not speaking to you or that they're speaking of you in an inferior way. And they will make you feel inferior, you can't do anything right, you can't say anything right and you definitely cannot understand them the way they want you to understand them. You will catch them in a little lies, that will make you second guess yourself, and by the end, you'll be second-guessing everything you ever knew them to be, everything they've ever said to you, everything they did for you you won't be sure of anything. You will have changed so much of yourself to make them happy that you won't know who you are when you're left on your own and they still won't be happy they'll just want you to change more.

They'll start spending more time away from home, and when they get there they'll act like they want to be anywhere else but where they are. They'll stick their face in the TV and it will stay there and they will tune you out like you aren't even there. They'll ignore what you have to say any questions you have to ask will never get answered, and so you will be left to fill in the holes the best you can with what you're being given.

They will start calling you names, putting you down, treating you like you're a gnat that keeps flying in their face and they can't swat you away. You're a nuisance. A pest, and all they want to do is get rid of you

If you dare ask why they're treating you this way, they will turn it around on you and say that you've been treating them that way and they're just giving it back to you, even when they know they're the ones being mean and nasty and hateful to you. They can never be the guilty party, they must always play the victim and will announce it to the world how horribly you treated them. The thing they don't realize, in their infinite narcissistic wisdom, is that True victims don't generally announce to anyone that they are a victim. True victims are generally too ashamed and embarrssed to be a victim of anything or anyone. But the narcissist has to get on that smear campaign and beat you to the punch to safeguard that bullshit reputation that they conned everyone into believing. They don't tell people that they are a different person behind closed doors, only that you are a terrible horrible person and they just don't understand why youve become so awful towards them. This way they know that no one will believe you when you tell people how they treated you, and think you're crazy for leaving such a swell, upstand Ing guy like them.

Devaluation is the beginning of a confusing and detrimental nightmare, but is not as bad as the Discard phase that will soon follow.

And, of course, it's nothing they did to you. It's always twisted around to where nothing is their fault, and everything is laid on you.  Additionally,If you’re dealing with a narcissist and suspect they’re cheating, Send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com to get the evidence you need discreetly.

I can watch dr Ramini for hours and not want it to end❤ Sometimes, only hearing dr Ramani's voice can be so healing, without even having to know what she's talking about. This podcast is just beautiful. Thank you so much for the work you're doing.

Depends.  Some narcisists are worse aging... They will always need a scapegoat.

I totally agree to everything Dr. Ramani said.❤ Thank you for inviting her to your platform to have a meaningful, insightful, and informative conversation.🍀🌸❤

In the Film Gaslight, starring Ingrid Bergman and Herbert Lom, the Lights go dim because the Husband is in the Attic turning the Light on (causing others in the House to dim), so he can search for Jewels that were hidden. When his Wife starts to question him about the lights he comes up with a plan to drive her mentally insane, get her committed, thus giving him all the time in the world to look for these Jewels.

Exactly.  It is not just what is going on in your head but what is going on around you.  I am 73 and I knew when I was a teenager that something was wrong in my family but no one addressed it.   Most counselors, friends etc kept trying to get ME to adjust to an insane narcissistic family in which I was the scapegoat.   If only you try harder .....

There’s such a darkness in them. Especially when it’s getting closer to psychopathy.  My husband has 0 empathy! I could be bleeding in front of him and he’d get mad that blood was getting on the floor.  He has a sick look of satisfaction on his face when I’m in pain or hurting. It is chilling.  It’s so dehumanizing to be married to someone like this. I’ve never experienced heartbreak like this in my entire life.i am on the complete opposite side of the spectrum and feel everything and love deeply. It is torture.  I always thought I was strong enough to handle anything or anyone.  But these people plant small seeds in you that slowly grow over time and before you know it your lost in a maze of thorn bushes with no way out and every which way you turn or try to reason or make sense you get pricked over an over.   Death by 1,000 cuts. In my case 1 million!!!! 💔

ThankYou Dr Ramani and Sarah it was enlightening.

I think the reason the medical community has been so hesitant is because it seems to be one of the only conditions that they don’t make a pill for and even if they did make a pill, they wouldn’t take it. They can’t make money from it. Learned so much from her in a hard time in my life. Helped me connect so many dots

She went to all your schools!  I saw sooo many kids, and their parents, who  I knew were on the path to psychopathy.  But you can’t point that out to those parents—they will retaliate.

It is a nightmare when is your sister. Very very difficult

Learning about Narcissm all those years ago when I was struggling in the relationship and needed help, took me to Hell and back, but it also saved me. 🍒

Great video.  Thank you

Love that you are a CSU gal dr Rhamani

Thank you for this video. I do wish that adult children can be narcissistic would have been mentioned. It seems that the parents are always called out about being narcissistic and many times it's the other way around.

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Some of these aren’t just bad relationships- they are criminal level injury

Thankyou

I just wish that Mark Vicente gets all the recognition he deserves. His work was impeccable I had to watch 2 times because it was so good. This has to come out in every platform and those big names on your National TV I see here on yt all the time gorl they need to speak up!!!

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