Hayden’s mom and dad are currently battling it out over a pair of earrings that she still had on when she passed away; absolutely ghoulish and disgusting behavior.

Would you please consider doing the dark psychology of the Cindy Crawford/ Randy Gerber family? what in the world happened to their son?

Oh wow Julie, the production!! I love it 😍 also the editing, you go girl. Very proud of you 👏🏽

Thank you so much for doing this! 💛 May Hayden rest in eternal peace! 🕊️🤍

I know this is gonna be a good one

This sounds like my relationship with my mom... and hearing you say having one abusive parent means you had two abusive parents.  So true, my dad was the abusive/alcoholic/addict, verbal and physically abusive.... and my mom is so codependent.  I cant ever critic her, I cant ever disagree, I am constantly "responsible" for her feelings... she exhausts me and does not understand that we will never be close because she never protected me as a child.... and she never takes ownership and instead blames me for all the issues in our relationship.  She is just exhausting.  but yet I try and try because i love her and I wish she could see the truth... because maybe then our relationship could be easier.

Can't wait! Also: would you ever consider covering Shia Labeouf/Amber Heard/Selena gomez and her relationship with her mother regarding the Wonder Mind issue 🤔

Thank you for this video, Julie! Love your content so much. I've learned so much about myself and recognizing the mother wound has been an eye-opening experience for me. To anyone else who relates, you're not alone ❤

I am definitely struggling with being self-aware to the point that it’s painful because I am not getting better in the way I know I should be. Thank you for sharing

7:42 Alyson Stoner talks about this too in their memoir. It is REALLY good. They were absolutely distraught about Hayden’s passing because they were friends & voice actors for the same character. They do a lot of advocacy for people in the industry to be better taken care of & have more transparency, especially for children.

Omg I did not realize there was a term for the emotional parentification! Speaking straight to me, girl 🤯 so glad I tuned into this one ( I watch them all☺)

🌟🌟🌟👌 exceptional analytical and most of all personal centered.
Emotionally intelligent and empathetic. Thank you for telling Hayden’s life story from a place she can be very proud of. 👏

May this serve as a warning to humanity as to the level of empathy and vulnerability this world desperately needs to survive -
Evolve. Self Aware. Care. Compassion. Grow. Open our hearts to the fragility of life itself. Our time is short.

JULIE: I simply LOVE 💕 the way you approach this work, the deep respect and care you take with each and every story. Your expertise in the field reflected in this milestone achievement: 100,000 Subs. Most worthy and well earned.
Congratulations!

Much appreciation from Australia 🇦🇺

Thank you for mindful interview. There is actually a problem of a compassion. I am thinking lately constantly. I found myself having similar patterns and survival mechanisms as Hayden. The think is people really do not understand how they can help. There is certain skill we miss out. We are not tought communication skills how to help other person feel safe next to me. We do not really know how to give good questions, so we it would not feel overwhelmed, danger of an urgent need to their fix emotions or be ready give an advice. We also lack of knowledge and awareness how addiction and trauma works and what we do is we hear: u have to be happy, look what u have; just do some yoga; just walk in nature; just get some help; I tired of negative people, they like to complain and dont change. Outside image becomes a label for inner experience. Negative feelings becomes a label for people as being a lifestyle as it they love to complain, be depressed.
And its scares me.
Because definately people do it because or  they are afraid of their feelings and its their coping mechanism; or they have many safe zones inside still not to trigger nervous system yet or they lack of knolwedge and awareness.

If a person publicly says his struggles, we think wow how strong person is. If person is strong as says I finally take away all darkness, it doesnt mean that somehow magic happens and when said it out loud all bad dissapears.
What then happens we create an image in head she will deal on her own.
So she comes back to the same guy longer then this summer time as neighbor told; her mom reacts as always and her friends also act safely as always.
For sure what we all do: we talk via messages with friends; we say if u need something let me know.

What we dont have is a skill of good questions so we would go behind the walls; we lack of knowledge how to show up physcally for other person. We dont understand that we can ask more people to join to show up for such people to show love. Somehow we all learned figure out ourselves, leave it for institutions to fix.
We baceme very busy living perfect life, but we forgot how we as society as community have to lean to each other.
I do really think that is what is missing.
We afraid to help to get a fight with them; we afraid to be proactive because lack of knowledge what to do next if we were right; we afraid to do something because then it means we need to sacrifice our time and really show up.
I wish we could keep continue speek up about it.  Its a real issue we as collective society still dont understand how to do better really. We all need awareness about it.

This whole story breaks my heart, all of it. She suffered so much...

Can’t wait to watch this one! ☺️

LOVE all you have to say and I really think it will help people!  We have super similar family backgrounds, and I also have my master's degree in the mental health field.  I think the BEST moment of absolute irony for me was waking up with a a new BF who said it was "totally cool that I was in AA becasue sometimes people gotta do that" when I told him I had to leave in the AM for my group therapy.  I was the therapist! LMAO It still took a few years for me to get out of all of that but - YES- we date them, we want to fix them, we are comfortable with suffering -  totally!! Losing the shame on that is EVERYTHING but is a hell of a process.

19:24 I don't think I have ever heard anything that I could relate to more than this.

I have seen dv abuse in my close circle and they are thankfully survivors but I have no doubt had Hayden never met her loser of a guy in her life she would still be here with us. He literally sucked the life out of her. She wanted to heal and be better but when you have someone around that isn’t uplifting and encouraging you to be better and want you to stay stuck so you can be more vulnerable for abuse it’s so heartbreaking to think she couldn’t find better in time before this happened. Such a sweet soul now an angel taken way too soon. I was cheering her on so much to have the life with her daughter she desired and she prayed for. Sometimes we just don’t understand why someone can’t be a survivor instead of a victim who loses their life. She needs to be remembered not for the decisions that were costly but her courage and hope she could get better.

amazing video!

55:26 thank you so much for pointing this out. I’m so exhausted from people saying how resilient I am as if there was another choice 🥺