I went to a Christian college. I met my husband at the church that sponsored that school. They almost kicked me out for asking to let a fellow student stay at my apartment during Christmas. She got pregnant and the school kicked her out of the dorm. She and her boyfriend had no where to go. So a Christian college told me to deny shelter to a young unmarried woman and her boyfriend... At Christmas. Does anyone else see the correlation to Mary and Joseph?

At my christian university (ACU) they banned dancing on campus, and the students would joke about it all the time.  If someone bobbed their head or shook their hips a little, there was always a student who might say "Woah woah, that's not allowed lol."  We had a funny saying: "The reason we can't have premarital sex is because it could lead to dancing."

"I'm not ex gay I just used to be gay" is..... an interesting take....

I thought college was an opportunity to become a responsible adult. These schools sound like authoritarian middle school to me

Being raised as a pastors kid in purity culture is probably why I am such a kinkster today. These rules are hilarious now.

When I was a senior in high school, my parents' friends naturally assumed I would be attending a Christian college. I was concerned about over-the-top rules and attesting to a faith I had already walked away from. It sounds like my concerns were spot-on.

The biggest thing I took away from going to Christian college was how desperate they were to treat us like children. Heavily monitored, but also encouraged to get married asap. Totally bizarre.

After graduating from high school I took a gap year as an exchange student and was put into an all boys Christian school in a very religious country. I have been an atheist for my entire life so this was a big change for me. Two moments stand out to me from my time there. First, my history teacher once asked my class to raise our hands if we were not Christian, and I was one of two people who raised our hands. She then had both of us explain our beliefs for the class. I was terrified that I was in trouble cause corporal punishment was a thing there, but that teacher loved to ask her class somewhat invasive questions and she was just genuinely curious. A little later in the school year one of our teachers came out as gay and it was a huge scandal, like front page news scandal, and he had to resign. The same history teacher from before asked our class what we thought of homosexuality and this time I was the only one who thought there was nothing wrong with it and who actively supported the teacher who had resigned. Got a lot of weird looks from the class but otherwise didn't face much backlash. Some other teachers in the school were physically reprimanding students who were pro LGBT but my history teacher was pretty chill and I probably got a pass from the others cause I was international. Both were very uncomfortable situations but helped me get better at voicing my own opinions, even when in the minority.

“Getting married at 21 is a nice middle of the road age” and “25 is kind of late to be getting married.” LOL! That makes me feel like my wedding, when I was 28, was a “geriatric” marriage. 🤣

As someone who narrowly avoided attending a christian college, I am SO glad I dodged that bullet.

My ex went to a Christian college like this. Hours for genders in dorm halls, required chapel, and lots of homophobia! It is so damaging and also infantilizing to be treated like that! Glad you both made it out together, and keep up the great content! 💙

It really fascinates me how little they trust their students. You have this supposed crop of wonderful pious kids... and you have to mandate chapel, mandate sexual purity through all these rules, and so on

“Holy Sexuality”?

My sexuality always centers around one hole or another….

No sex standing up...
It could lead to dancing.
It's just good sense.
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I think part of the reason we love having Drew on the channel is you two are so adorable together. Love your dynamic when you're chatting together and how he looks at you when you're talking.

7:12 in middle school, there was a former escort that came to a Wednesday night youth group service.🤯 I don’t remember a lot about the conversation. As an adult looking back, it was completely inappropriate. But I do remember she told us how to jump out of a moving car safely because she had to do it a couple times….

As a french person who has never been religious, I am so far removed from all of this and all it's making me think is that the culture you guys are describing is OBSESSED with sex ! I cannot imagine as a teenager having to be so constantly aware of how sexually I'm behaving or how promiscuous I'm being and how my body language could lead to sex... that just makes everyone think about sex more, what's the point !

I will say that my experience at this exact school was less than rosy, but my real grief comes from a student who got deported with his pregnant wife because of the school. They were both kicked out for having premarital relations and it derailed their entire life. While I have plenty of trauma and some legitimate PTSD from certain experiences with professors on power trips, nothing I experienced compared to what happened to them. To give a school the power to ruin lives over these rules is truly mind boggling. And just a few years later a guy only received a brief suspension for threatening his girlfriend with a gun while on campus, with witnesses. There can be good in a small university experience and even good at this school, but there are a lot of more complex questions to ask about treating adults like small children (the no drinking for anyone even over breaks at home with family still stands) and welding enough power to essentially derail entire lives for petty things like "I don't think you should be allowed to express your sexuality"
The school also fired a staff member for being gay in a really dramatic manner.
I hope that others have been harmed less by going there, but so much of it looking back was just indoctrination and getting us to go along with it to earn enough points to be worthy of a god we were told could never actually love us.

I toured a colleg that had the chapel requirement. After being told about it my twin and I immediately started brainstorming ways out of it. When we started discussing them on the car ride home my parents laughed and just told us we didn't have to apply.

I'm glad my parents didn't force the religious college thing. They would have been excited if I chose a Catholic school. But, I was so done with the church at that point.

I can't imagine being treated like that as  an adult. I mean I experienced this in church events in high school but college. Gross.