If FIL helped his son cheat no way he never cheated himself

Bro, you do not want to piss off your accountant! They're the person that protects you from an audit!

Don’t get between me and my daily walks. Something is seriously wrong with the SIL.

"When we were younger, we just said no, and then walked to the craft store up hill, both ways, in the snow." Hilarious.

The accountant sister story, business taxes are hella lot more complicated than personal taxes. Because her sister has a wedding planning business,  she will have to pay quarterly taxes, and other filings, not to mention personal taxes. That is a lot of work!! I personally  pay friends and family for services and expect to be paid in return not in tamales. People have to make a living.

Sister should back charge her for the few years she can. Accountants are not cheap, that sister is gonna get a hell of a wake up call.

The knitting story: NTA: as someone who started crocheting for roughly 36 years, the "challenge" was a passive aggressive way around the point that op does this for their selves. I have done countless projects from simple beanies to queen sized blankets. Ive even done a 21ft replica scarf from doctor who.  The time it takes to complete a project can go into 6 months to a year. Hobbies that are a labor of love, if I choose to do something for someone else, can be insulting to be framed as a challenge just to get something they dont have the time or skill to do themselves. I get asked often why I don't do commissions, and my answer is always the same. "Taking a single string of yarn, in small loops, needs to be done with a good state of mind. Not to mention that labor time can vary day to day, so a projected timeline of completion is also ranged into varied finish date. Not to mention the mental pressure to work on it when you are not able for whatever valid reasons." The 21ft scarf took me 3 months of constant work that also inflamed my carpal tunnel. Then there is the cost of supplies needed. That scarf cost roughly $40 in just yarn. We'll this was a long winded way of me saying that the way op responded was maybe petty at best but so was the way they were asked.

I’m in accounting and I can tell you right now that the reason the sister changed her tune is because she shopped around and found out just how expensive it’s going to be. She didn’t appreciate what she had until she had already burned it down. 🤦🏻‍♀️

As a german, a 4mile daily walk is like the most normal thing in the world.

People who dont knit or crochet will never understand how labor intensive these projects are. Over the past few years, i have gifted one family member a large throw for Christmas (always a different person in their favorite colors). These blankets cost hundreds  of dollars in supplies & take months to complete. I start the project around July, august at the latest, and  its always a hustle to complete on time. The “challenge” would have taken OP weeks… MIL was being lazy & cheap…. Also, when ppl find out you knit, they suddenly want to send you Pinterest things to make them. OP was standing on business. I can guarantee OP turned MIL down many times and MIL refused to accept the denial.

NTA on the painting issue. The gallery didn't have it in a frame. If it hadn't been purchased for years it would be displayed unframed. It can be displayed without a frame until the girlfriend can frame it herself. She's the asshole for having an issue.

On the sophie scarf, I think it's important context that the sophie scarf is literally so simple and easy that if you're an advanced-beginner knitter you can just look at a finished sophie scarf and make one yourself, no pattern needed. It's just a diamond shape with an I chord edge, it's really small. OP doesn't necessarily even have the pattern bc they probably figured out how to make it by sight alone. Calling the sophie scarf a challenge for anyone other than a beginner is almost an insult on its own.

Soffie's scarf is one of the easiest things you can knit. it is kind of offensive to word it as a challenge. It is like, if you are an architect and someone challenge you to make him a doghouse.

I just love the Patrick standing next to the "I'm an a**hole" sign with his mouth agape.

Re the shoe hiding story

Even if SIL was paying for childcare, she would have to let that person have breaks for lunch / would only be there for set hours and it's unlikely that they would be doing all that  ,you was-  for her and her children on a daily basis

Why was she so upset that you wanted to take a little time for yourself? when you were doing so much for her and her family for free

Good for you for walking out over this , SIL should have understood this was important to you and let it go

Let me go out of my way to point out that in the first story, the parents were on the OP's side. That's always the best part when that happens.

In the second story, goid grief. No one is required to be someone's servant, 24/7. And a walk doesn't even take that long.   Beyond that, she wasn't getting paid.  How does someone expect 24/7 service from someone they aren't even paying.

Sister in law feels like a lazy slob by comparison. She uses her kids as an excuse for not taking a walk herself.

The Sophie scarf is not a hard challenge.  It is a easy project. Maybe the MIL has put down her knitting  hobby in the past.

My father has always said , a repeated favor becomes a vice.

For the first story, I think it may be an element of SIL not wanting to work for free, not wanting to be paid in food, and not wanting to set a precedent in the familly. But then she shouldn't have let her sister work for free for her during years

Also,  the accountant would know how her sister is doing financially,  and if she can afford to do it for free.