9:40 "She's absolutely right!"
Steven: "Fuck" 😂

In relationships the little things are the big things. Being kind, giving each other a hug or kiss when you see each other, take some time to check in with each other. Thats what gives the relationship its beauty. If thats absent you cant fix it with bold things like expensive gifts

People STRONGLY underestimate the importance  of attunement and tiny bids for  connection.

It is so refreshing to find an expert who condenses the problems and solutions down to the essentials. Esther is amazing. 🙌

People treat their friends better than the people they are intimate with, which is wildly reflective.

That’s why I put my phone away and really listened to my friend. That’s how we fell in love. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The "She's absolutely right"
"Fuuck"
got me :D

Putting creativity, attention, and effort into the relationship, as she says, goes a long way!

Her Ted Talk on infidelity, Cheating is so insightful.

I think a scary idea or reality for many is do we have time for love anymore? To slow down for ourselves and with our partners? Especially in our fast paced economy.

I really appreciate Esther Perel! And whilst most people take relationships for granted, it's our interpersonal relationships that offer the greatest opportunities for personal growth. So yes, make the effort!

That girl Esther is very articulate and very good at getting her point across.

I am supersensitive to being ignored, and I consider it very rude when somebody suddenly whips out a phone and retreats into their own world in the middle of a conversation. I don't really understand how anybody can do something like that without being aware of how it is perceived. I am old though, didn't grow up with mobile phones.

There is just so much in the modern society that demand attention that relationships just get the lowest priority.

Yup exactly, a lot of people take relationships for granted! I used to believe in true love but I don't anymore. I do not think you can truly love someone unless you are able to communicate and work through not only the good times but the hard times too.

I saw my great granny devoted to her husband and even after he died she prayed for him every night before bed until she died herself like 16 years later. Their life wasn't easy, they had 8 children and a small 1bed house in the Caribbean, but they obviously worked through their issues and had a big loving family as a result

From all the relationships I know the only one who just happened it’s been going strong for the 24 years is my sisters. Everyone else I know worked very hard to make it happen and they’re either divorced or still struggling and working very hard on a daily basis. There’s no recipe for a functioning relationship. You’re either lucky to meet the right person or you’re not. It’s as simple as that. It needs to be mutual attraction, respect and commitment which most of the time is not and is one sided. That’s why people end up frustrated in hard working relationships.

She makes me proud to be Belgian...rule#1 to feel loved you must feel seen and not in competion like with a phone for example

esther is so so beautifully poetic and allegorical in how she explains her advice; i absolutely love learning from her

She just described my marriage. 😢

Phones are not just relationship killers. But they are also destroy relationships with peoples children

Esthel is by far the best relationship expert there is! Many coaches have shared and followed her wise words.