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Becoming an adult and realizing that the debilitating panic you feel everytime you think someone might be mad at you isn't actually normal is certainly an experience

When it’s done to an adult, it’s physical assault
When it’s done to a child, it’s discipline

Shoutout for Bluey for keeping the identities of their child actors confidential so protect their privacy.

I’ve always found the powerlessness of children in our society existentially terrifying.

I was hit a lot as a kid because my parents said I was always lazy. Non of the hitting ever made me less “lazy”. I took a blood test last year and turns out that I have anemia. The symptoms of anemia are fatigue, dizziness, and being lethargic in general.

So I had an iron deficiency and instead of getting help I was beaten for it.

the way people will see out of context clips of children behaving “badly” (whether it be on tv or social media) and immediately go into how much they HATE children and how any misbehaving kid should face corporal punishment is weird. The amount of times I have seen a clip of a kid being annoying or bratty and someone in the comments saying “if I did that my mom would have hit me so hard I saw stars” is genuinely fucking disturbing. Like you think that’s a good thing???

Always found it crazy on wife swap that the new wife would bathe and dress the kids that she's just met. She's a complete stranger to them.

My whole community, including my parents, were obsessed with the "tough love" reality shows. Supernanny, DrPhil, World's Strictest Parents... If it had a bratty (severely neglected) child being "put in their place" they wanted to see it. And yes, they absolutely tried to raise me the same way. I won't go into detail, but it had some very horrible effects on my childhood.

I will always feel a seething hatred for these people who will never know me, but indirectly convinced my teachers, parents and doctors not to listen to me. Especially Dr Phil.

I think most abuse comes from a parent's inability to emotionally regulate, NOT THE CHILD. Most people try to do their best with the tools they have and often those tools came from their parents, and so on. Teaching emotional mindfulness in schools to the masses who eventually become parents themselves would greatly improve the lives of so many people.

When I was young I got separated from my family at the MET. One of the museum docents took me to the security office where they take care of kids who got lost, there was only one other kid there, she was about my age and she was really upset. When the security guard made the announcement over the loudspeaker that the girl's parents had to come pick her up, she begged him not to. She said she had gotten distracted by a sculpture of a dog and intentionally stayed there while her family wandered off, she said she didn't want them to come get her because she knew they would be mad at her for not staying with them. The security guard tried to be nice and told her "Don't worry, I bet they'll just be happy to know you're safe." but the girl kept crying and said something like, "No, they'll just hit me and Dad will take away my dog and I'll never be allowed to go to the park again!"

Back then I was so confused. I had gotten lost and was crying because I was scared and wanted to be back with my family, because I knew my family would protect me. She had gotten lost and was crying because she knew her family would hurt her, no matter if her intention had been to get lost or not.

That's what I think the main flaw of this style of parenting is. In my case, the experience of getting lost was the lesson and seeing how scared my mom was for my safety and having her there to comfort me was what ensured I wouldn't do it again. That is how it's supposed to work. Parents are supposed to assist and guide their children while they learn lessons from their life experiences. Authoritarian parents don't teach their children how to function in the real world, they teach them the rules of their own household. If a child gets lost, and then is punished when she gets back, that is not teaching the child to avoid getting lost, it's teaching her to not come back.

Can you imagine being  SA’ed by your parents on a regular basis, acting out because it is extreme abuse and then suddenly having people filming your meltdowns for millions to see?

I am sure this is something a least a few children  went through on these kind of shows

I hate when people act like childhood is such a magical and free experience across the board. To those of us who have had awful parents, we know the truth.

i was a difficult toddler, every time i threw tantrums my mum would quip "i have supernanny on the phone" and i would stfu quicker than the queen never cry baby. worked on me better than actual supernanny would've.

(but its interesting how even a toddler could register the horror of publically televised shaming)

I think it's insane that a law that passed in Australia recently that under 16s can't use social media but parents can still post their young children online, that being said you can actually sue your parents for posting pictures of you when you were young but it doesn't help the current situations of children being exploited for content

It's horrifying how often kids get punished for being kids.
Recently I was in a bus and a kid was just talking about random stuff, as kids do, but his parent screamed at him to shut up. The kid wasn't even being that loud and the parent caused a larger commotion than the kid.

This conversation really needs to be had for the children from Mtv’s Teen Mom. The oldest kids, I think, are 17 now and have had cameras in their faces since they were born. They’ve been on tv since the womb.

As someone who was hit as a child (and have watched my younger siblings grow up also being hit) the logic behind it is just not there for me. It did nothing for me besides make me even more of an anxious and timid mess. And it didn’t stop the behaviors in my siblings that they were being punished for. I feel like a GOOD amount of hitting is just adults losing their temper, or being embarrassed socially and deciding “you embarrassed me so I’m going to hurt you”

as an adult just thinking about how people ACTUALLY strike their children makes me feel sick??
if i hit my partner, that's domestic violence. if my employer hits me, that's physical assault. if i hit a stranger on the street, that's physical assault. if i hit my child, that's suddenly 'discipline'?? i can't think of ANYTHING a small child could do that would 'deserve' being hurt by their parent.
most schools will teach that 'hitting is bad because it hurts people' but parents aren't held to the same standard and it doesn't make sense.

When I was a kid, my parents proudly displayed a photo of me crying and supposedly being a brat in their living room. We didn't have guests often, but I wonder what they thought of it. The funny thing is, I remember why I was crying that day. Because my parents got irritated at me because I was being too loud while they were doing their taxes and they sent me to my room for an hour. I don't know why they thought taking a picture then was a good idea.