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If quiet quitting is the new "matching energy" than, yes

People have been ghosting each other forever. It just took a lot longer before the invention of electricity. In Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen, published in the early 1800s, one of the characters Marianne fell in with a man who made her feel like they were eventually going to get married. And then one day he up and vanished. She wrote him many many letters. It was only until they saw each other in public and he was on the arm of a wealthy Heiress that Marianne finally realized he wasn't coming back. And then that fucking guy had the audacity to write her a letter stating that their whole relationship was actually friendship. And he also knocked up a lower class woman and abandoned her.  
There are ancient scrolls and clay tablets full of people writing to their supposed beloved and never receiving a reply.
This is human behavior that has been consistent across time. Only now we're doing it on a much larger scale and much faster.

I just had a woman I was seeing tell me that she didn’t think she could commit and didn’t want to lead me on. Broke my heart a little bit, but I’m grateful for the respect and honesty she showed me

I quiet-quit the relationship with my mother after years of tolerance and trying to have sit down meetings/talks with her about my childhood experiences.

I "quiet quit" a friendship that I had for years when I realised I was the one always making plans and texting to check in so I just stopped bothering and they never contacted me been nearly 4 years now.

That first story isn't really quiet quitting... It's just what happens when a partner starts cheating. They stop being invested in the old relationship and start investing in the new one. She didn't cheat because he wasn't good enough, she cheated because she's a cheater.

Being autistic you get kind of used to this on both ends. You try and maintain contact but you eventually feel like a nuisance. You also realize that some people do something that triggers a response in you and you don't know how to actually address the situation, so you just watch it flounder.

“She’s too busy. Although I’m happy she’s trying to accomplish her goals, I want a friend who is already established and is able to enjoy life rather than fighting for the basics.”

WOW, may a friend like that NEVER find me. Do people not remember what “fair weather” frinds are anymore? i cant believe this person said this online like it’s not a judgmental, selfish mindset..

I've quiet quit relationships, and I've been quiet-quitted on. Being the recipient of quiet quitting made me realize that I owe it to the other person to at least give them a chance to make a change. Keeping things to myself and stewing over it, expecting the other person to read my mind while I act like everything is fine, isn't fair.

That being said... I still quiet quit someone after having this realization. This was a friend who betrayed me, and KNEW she betrayed me. She was very emotionally intelligent and expected loyalty from her friends, so when she did what she did, I didn't feel the need to give her a second chance.

I stopped reaching out to a close friend I’d known for 15 years now and we haven’t spoken in several months. I was tired of carrying the friendship and I’ve moved on

quiet quiting shouldn't be an okay to cheat tho

I quiet quit a friendship recently because I realized I didn’t have any meaningful feedback to share about what they were doing “wrong.” There were no adjustments to be made on their part because it wasn’t just that I didn’t like certain off hand things they did, but I fundamentally did not like who they were as a person. And that didn’t feel particularly productive to share.

After five years of intensive trauma therapy where I got in touch with my values and developed a concrete sense of what matters to me, I found that the new version of myself that emerged was out of step with a lot of the relationships I had previously cultivated.

Dr. Esther Perel has some good information on betrayal and works with couples when there is a betrayal like infidelity.  The trust/threat center in the brain is in the amygdala, which is why when someone apologizes after hurting someone it may feel like the issue is not resolved.  The amygdala doesn't work off of words, but off of behavioral patterns.  It needs to be shown dozens, if not hundreds of times that this person is safe after a betrayal, and it often takes years to see someone as safe after a betrayal.  The person who betrayed their partner needs to take radical responsibility over facilitating that process and moving towards the partner they betrayed with warmth and curiosity.  Most people don't have that in them though.

As a 31 yo, everyone feels objectified nowadays. It feels like the consumerism of friendship, if you aren’t a perfect friend to me in the way I deem it, I’ll find another. Everyone’s got this tendency now it seems. Social media brain

Ok I have quite a lot of thoughts.
While I do understand that connection is important in a relationship. But ultimately every relationship hits points where both partners are gonna get busy and its gonna take conscious hard effort to take time out to spend with each other , connect with each other , and it is valid for her to feel neglected because like he said, he had gotten busy. But at the end of day , personally cheating is never the answer. If you don't want to keep going with this relationship, you sit them down , explain what issues are , try and find ways to reconnect and find time for each other , schedule dates as long as you're still open to reviving the relationship and if that's not what you want , you end it. You don't go cheat on your partner, knowing how absolutely painful it will be for them to find out

I've quiet quit friendships before.
Usually it has to do with burnout.
A lot of times I just don't care anymore and I'm waiting to get my fire back for the relationship, but it just never happens.

The only times I've "quiet quit" a relationship, personally, was when I was in an abusive relationship and didn't have an escape route. I was too tired to keep up the roles being forced on me and depressed. I didn't see the point of trying if I was going to be yelled at, have my property destroyed, or hit no matter how hard I tried. It was shut down mode until I was mentally able to start trying to escape again and plan my exit.

When I've felt safe in a relationship, I felt sad but reluctantly comfortable sitting down and having a conversation and breaking up. There was always a tremendous amount of guilt, but I respected them and I felt like I owed it to them to try to give them closure. I didn't want to hurt them, but I didn't want to hurt them even more by shutting down completely and making them worry about me. It didn't feel fair.

In my abusive relationships, I kinda knew subconsciously they wouldn't care that I'm unhappy and that they would be angry no matter what- but they would be violently angry if I did try to break up with them without precautions in place.

Yes, I've done this with friendships. People like to vent at me because I have strong cognitive empathy and I'm a problem solver, so I attract a lot of people who need that. I've quiet quit 5 friendships. None of them asked me if I am okay.

My family and I have decided to quiet quit my sister-in-law. She’s always been a horrible person, but since my brother committed suicide, her true colors are really out and I can’t even begin to tell you the horrific things that she has done to my family. We all decided that if we just start ignoring her and we don’t invite her anywhere, maybe she’ll finally pick up and move back to her family. She has caused us so much pain.