I am not diagnosed but you just described my entire life.

Diagnosed Schizoid here. This is the most accurate description of what being schiz is like that I've encountered on YT so far. Thank you for this.

People are draining 😮‍💨

Didn't know they made psychologist that insightful. This is objectively gold.

Who are you and why have you been watching my life for the last 40 years?

65 year old diagnosed Schizoid here.  Well done sir, well done indeed.

Very perceptive. Still do not have a good reason to try to connect with others. The downsides are greater than the upsides even in the best case.

Framing this as an intelligent adaptive strategy is empowering , it removes the victim mentality

It's kind of surreal/shocking to hear someone non Schizoid (I assume) describe it this well. I appreciate the dedication you clearly have to deeply understanding these personality types.

"You'll find someone" I hope I don't 😊 "You just gotta put yourself out there" No, I don't think I will 😊 "Why don't you talk to us?" I'll bum you out 😊

Smart people tend to enjoy socializing less than the median person. Additionally, it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.

Im not diagnosed and I started watching these videos regarding avoidant attachment styles. Now im watching schizoid ones. I dont know if im one but I often cannot comprehend how people maintain friendships when they are constantly disapointed by it. I live a peaceful drama free life and I love it. I have had relationships but realized they bring nothing but drama. I live alone and have everythibg I need. Why should I bring another person in to shake everything ive build? I know many people know what I mean

other people ARE demanding, intrusive and exhausting...not you, though...you're a delight! :-) thanks

This is possibly the best description of SPD that ive come across on youtube! Thank you for mentioning the "schizoid dilemma" of simultaneously wanting but fearing connection, and for realising that it still affects many schizoids despite the fact that it was removed from our dsm definition in order to attribute it to the [at the time] newly created avoidant pd. Also thank you for understanding that some of us actually are capable of feeling incredibly deeply, but that we struggle to maintain that connection and invariably end up emotionally numb and disconnected again regardless.

You mentioned object relations theory, and i wouldve liked for you to have gone further into that. I think it was Guntrip who wrote about how Schizoids create strong internal objects as substitutes for unsafe/unreliable external objects, and thus we end up very much stuck in our own inner worlds, totally adrift/dissociated from external reality. Iirc, isnt that why the term "schizoid" was coined? Due to the schizm between the inner world and external reality?

Edit: i think what i was struggling to say but most wanted to convey, is thank you for making this schizoid feel seen, and, more to the point, seen in a way that feels safe-ish and pleasant - which for someone who spends their life trying not to be seen, is quite a feat!

With Artificial Reality glasses, schetzoid may become the number one mental state.

All I'm saying is, if someone is hurt, abused physically, threatened and harassed long enough by other adults, every moment of connection will forever become a calculated risk. It seems lazy  to me that the onus is supposed to be on the schizoid - why aren't other human beings taught to prove they are safe and trustworthy? And why is abusive behaviour tolerated, glorified and normalised?

I was diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder (SPD) and Autism and being female, I feel like it's much harder because we're way more harshly judged than men for walking around with a flat affect and being very blunt in our speech. When women walk around not smiling or looking neutral, people take it as something personal and it's pretty insane. But yeah I feel like we get questioned a lot more than men. The diagnosis definitely made sense because I have been extremely introverted my whole life but maybe liked my alone time a little too much. It sucks because there's no actual treatment or cure, but I feel like some kind of parts work, I forget what it's called IFS or something can help at least try to feel physical sensations or get in touch with our fleeting emotions a little bit on the inside and try to get past that void. But it's hard because emotions are pretty fleeting a lot of the time. So when a therapist sits there and asks how you feel as a schizoid, it can be really frustrating for both parties because most of the time we can't identify what we feel or pinpoint any emotions because they're so muted most of the time..p I don't even know how to begin to do any trauma work for my CPTSD because it's like if I can't identify my emotions. How am I supposed to do EMDR therapy for the trauma? Also don't get me started on the dissociation. It's constant and daily and it's like there's apparently no cure for that either. They tried low dose naltrexone for the disassociation, but I believe the brains and sensitivities to medicine especially is very harsh for sensitive nervous systems that schizoids typically have. So of course I couldn't even handle low dose naltrexone. Plus I have chronic medical conditions like insulin resistance that are contradicted by a lot of psychiatric meds that make insulin resistance worse. So it's hard to really take any medication. If you ever want to interview a diagnosed female Schizoid, please let me know!

My apologies, original video down because of a glitch that appeared in the middle! I've edited it out and re-posted.

It means this lovely comment (by someone called @DimitriDesormeau) has been lost! Mea culpa! (and  ευχαριστώ πολύ, Dimitri)

I have studied clinical psychology for over ten years. I have studied schizoid personality disorder incessantly, finding it a deeply fascinating topic, and this is by far the best explanation I have ever seen on this topic. I am so happy that I found this gem of a channel. Please do not stop making content. Your knowledge is invaluable.

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Excellent. Thank you.

10:30 I suspect that I‘m schizoid and I had that happen to me often: People underestimate my emotional needs because I self regulate well. In the past I often liked people not because that showed that they cared for my, not because they were genuinely kind, I liked them because I could self regulate around them. I could manage a person or at least I could drift into my fantasy world while they were in the room.
To the other person it comes across as: „She doesn’t need much from me. Very self sufficient“.