The "Will you marry me?" and "Can we be open?" is a proposal...an Indecent Proposal.😂

The guy who proposed with an open marriage-I wouldn't trust him again. What an awful man. OP deserves a man who loves, respects, and wants, only her.

The thing that stuck with me in the 'Friend hosting diner friend, and asking for money" - was, that the friend was craving that specific dish and invited the OP to join. So really, she wanted to satiate her own craving with OP money.

About the open relationship: GOOD THING he asked like this because imagine they got married and THEN you get this ask !! Ewwww...

So,  some scents will trigger an asthma attack for me.  My coworkers don't wear scents that bother me because we work in a small room with no windows.  But if a scent does start causing breathing issues,  i remove myself from the area.  I don't try to control what other people do.  Someone microwaved a peanut sauce in the break room,  so I left and ate somewhere else.  I did not confront them and try to control their food.

ALWAYS hide any leftover cake.

ALWAYS.

The grad school thing:  oh, she's super snobby about people who didn't go to college,  that's what this is about.

As someone who legit has a problem breathing around strong scents I still think the coworker is going to far. I did have a coworker that tried to explain away a strong and highly powdery hand lotion that I was having trouble breathing around by saying "but it's expensive ". I had to go home that day but normally I will just keep away from anyone with strong scents. For context it was in a call center with small desks so all really close to each other. The no scents rule is understandable though.

I would be pissed if someone tried taking my leftover cake. I love cake. Mother in law ruined this poor guy's love of cake.

If i loved someone who was a carpenter, i’d be SO impressed and thrilled w everything they made. It’s a combo of art & engineering.  I wd never again help, support anyone who belittles me. Not only wd i NOT be generous, I’d be single. DUMP HER NOW.

Open marry guy is likely already sleeping with someone else.
The best time to suggest an open relationship is during the first 3 dates.

I was gonna say that I feel so bad for OP not being able to keep the last of his cake. I mean if there were three slices left and he wanted to give one to the nephew that would still leave him two slices for the next day. It would be a different conversation if it was the wife’s birthday, because she’s from a culture that does that is used to taking any leftover cake.

About the: MIL taking the birthday cake.

Buy a second cake. Unless the store that sells the cake is a long drive away, buy a second cake. Cut the cake into 12 slices and have 2 each day for breakfast. HAPPY BIRTHDAY WEEK. Use this as an excuse to eat more cake.

I think the open proposal was a cover cause he already cheated so he needed to justify and or make himself feel better for doing it. Smh

Cake: "Lady, it might be where YOU'RE from, but here in CANADA and THIS family, I want my own birthday cake right here. If I wanted to give the cake to someone, they would be here. Now kindly leave my house. That's not yours."

Re the story about the affair:
Am I the only one getting hung up on the fact that OP’s soon-to-be BIL still got to go to college when he had a baby at home that he should have been helping with? If I’m reading the timeline right, he started hooking up with OP’s sister when the kid was less than a year old. So, he left the mother alone at home to deal with the child? What about her college education?
Sorry, I get that this is not the point of the story, but that was something that immediately jumped out to me…

My family is in construction. They make bank and never went to college. They followed our step dad into construction out of high school. She needs to learn not to bite that hand that is offering to feed her. My daughter is a teacher is always in school. And pays her own bills.
You don't invite people to your home for dinner then charge them. That's absolutely rude and mean.
People need to learn a very important life lesson. Just because you consider someone a friend doesn't:t not mean they feel the same about you. If people treat you badly, the are not your friend.

48:47 I think the wife was the jerk for warning her husband and giving him a chance to decide ahead of time if he was willing to comply with their culture or not. Not his culture. He gets to decide how to handle it. Do not blindside him with that. Yes, maybe she just didn’t think about it, but since she didn’t she absolutely should not expect him to apologize for being blindsided.

I had a friend with the opposite problem: He was happily in an open relationship for a long time, and then his girlfriend asked him to close the relationship when they got married. It ended the relationship for a similar reason; he felt super blind sided by the sudden change wrapped up in an already emotional conversation about marriage. Very manipulative.

I had a professor in college that had a sensitivity to smells to the point that when you registered for her class, they gave you a bar of soap and a non-scented deodorant, you got it when getting textbooks and everything else for her because it was mandatory to take the class and it had to be the soap and deodorant, she specified!🥴