I'm pretty sure you figured out some things a lot sooner than many others.  I spent 20 years in the military, and we all accept that as a system based on merit (meritocracy, at least it used to be) and we had a saying, "respect is earned."  But you've come to a core truth: before anyone else respects you, you have to respect yourself.  This means that you respect yourself enough to improve yourself, to gain skills that are respectable, to influence others in a positive way, to do better for society.  You will even hear clues, like when you were young and you did something for your dad, and he tells you, "son, you did a respectable job..." This is an affirmation and a clue.  Have you ever watched someone do something amazing and think, wow, I would love to be able to do that, in essence, you have respect for them.  You respect the hours and hours, maybe thousands of hours they have spent honing their craft.  It could be cooking, handling weapons, playing an instrument.  Any vocation.  I was always in awe of people who handled horses well and I tried to emulate them.  Respect shown is a positive for society, respectful people don't do wanton harm to others or animals or property, respectful people contribute, and respect is society's feedback for a job well-done.  Some earn respect in unusual ways (innovator), some in more traditional ways (sports star), but it is a feedback loop.  Most importantly, it is a give and take.  Someone who has no respect for others will certainly gain none for themselves.  What some think is respect that they garner is actually fear, and fear is the opposite of love.  Do no harm, and much respect to you, sir!

I also noticed that when I treat people so nice they tend to treat me as rubbish.

“Self-respect is the root of discipline. The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” 🙏🏽

Some people choose not to respect us because of their own insecurities. I know I get respect from the people that deserve to be in my life. Those who know my worth like I do.

Being too nice means being needy. Needy is repulsive.

This entire video in one sentence: “People don’t respect you because you don’t respect yourself.”

“Disrespect invites disrespect.” — Meryl Streep

“Not telling people what they want to hear” That honestly just completely changed the way I looked at thing.

Respect is a word that does not exist in our society anymore!  How can someone respect you when they don't even know what respect is

remember guys do not be nice so much with others
specially those who just met

Saying yes to doing everything for everyone? Yes, that is a big mistake! People treat you like crap if you always say yes.

People tell me that "there are a lot of good people out there" but then when they see you insecure and weak they destroy you completely. Where is this goodness?

Happiness doesn't result from what we get, but from what we give.

That part about letting go of what others think is so important. I think a lot of people trying to gain more respect assume that ALL of their social interactions should be buttery smooth, but even for people with natural charisma, that's rarely ever the case.

Now I understand why people never respected me. I was a people pleaser. I had so much of love to give and they took advantage of it to a point that I never got time for myself and I ended up sacrificing my life for others. And when I was broken and dead inside no one even cared. This time I'm giving my time for myself to respect myself. Thank you. I needed myself now more than ever.

Those who know me deeply respect me. Those who dont... cant live with their assumptions as I am not living to live up to their admiration.

I had some people that didn't reciprocate, talk over me, ask favors,talk down on me . I pretty much let them know that I'm aware. Some ol them stopped talking to me, but most had started respecting me. It's the name of the game.And some I let go too.

6:04
First of all sorry if i mess up my writing, i am not that great at Eng.
So that's not true at all, sometimes you have to tell your boss NO i am not gonna ....... Because! i have a story to tell you guys.
So back then around December i fractured my right arm ( Humerus ) and before that, my bosses are like " do this, do that etc etc" and i always did what they ask from me ( even when it was a stupid idea or had no logic behing the idea )
After i recovered i came back to work ( half recovered but i kinda forced to come back ) with the statement that i don't have to lift heavy weight ( only administrative work), i am allowed to rest as much as i can if i feel pain in my hand etc. then weeks past and every day some more work started happening, like first week is just clean up the place, then the next week i had to carry iron rods, then the next week i had to carry heavy sidewalk bridges, and those things started bein overwhelming after 2-3 mounth. my hand started to hurt real bad.
So overall, i realized that my work atmosphere ( bosses and co-workers ) are realy manipulative and try to use you everyway they able to, currently i quited the job yesterday, and about to find a new one, because this situation is overgrowth the way, that i am not able to say no anymore bcz i think they just get used to it that i say yes for everything.
So imo if you want to get respect from your boss, and he/she try to use you (like mine did ) and force you to do things that can harm your body or mental health, just say no and fck it.
If they don't respect your health and try to use you like a "yes my boss machine" who do everything they want, go find a better place with a better community.

“Here is the manliness of manhood, that a man has a good reason for what he does, and has a will in doing it.” –Alexander MacLaren.

5:10 - Don't be the people pleaser learn to say no and setting up boundaries.