The sister abusing her grandmother is the lowest of low life. I would hire a lawyer.

As someone who had an extremely healthy coparenting relationship with her ex, get rid of Anna.  She will be a constant issue and in the end cause issues with your child and the coparenting relationship you have built.  And wait until she has kids, it will get worse.  These parents are doing what ALL ex’s with children should do, making their son the priority.

As someone that was raised by my grandmother, i have no respect for anyone that takes advantage of their grandparents. If people have money issues, it is up to them to deal with it. They should not use their grandparents to get them out of trouble.

He needs to dump that controling gf! His relationship with his ex is none of her buisness! He sounds like a stand up guy the way he looks after his son, and knows carrie  well enough.  Dump anna now, while shes still a gf not married!

Regarding the sister exploiting her grandmother for money…
That’s called financial abuse of an elder.
Big sis needs to go through EVERY CENT that was sent to her sister and get it on a ledger.  
Then she needs to hand all the info, including texts to a LAWYER!  
This will force them to make an agreement to get all that money paid back or face elder abuse charges!

He needs to ditch Anna. If she can't see the value in what a good dad he is he can do better

Wow.. "Anna" is very insecure. My mom, my dad, and my step mom were friendly with eachother and they made sure I was taken care of and didnt keep score. It made my childhood much more secure than ones who would fight over every little dollar

17:12 this woman needs to mind her own bloody business! And he needs to break up with her. He’s a good parent and he is amazing. Jealousy is a dealbreaker.

29:21 she hasn’t though. She said she was "ignorant" with her words, she was fully malicious!  Ignorance doesn’t wish death on your daughter that’s insane

Anna gotta go. BYE! She needs to find someone without a child.

No see I'm not a fighter but I absolutely would have lost my mind if my sister or any family member dared treat our grandma like that. It is so sad and heartbreaking how awful and manipulative some people are. I hope she pulled the police and legal help into that situation immediately.

I was my grandma’s caregiver and my aunt would constantly bug my grandma for money. It got to the point where one day, she called my grandma again for money and while on the phone, I told my grandma “tell her you don’t have any to give her” and thankfully she listened. My grandma even gave my aunt money for a car for my cousin and the car sat for a bit til they sold it and didn’t pay my grandma back. We also took in their dog who was underfed especially as an English bullmastiff and grandma told them they better not get another dog since we took their old one in…. They got another dog.

All of these stories were insane 😭 my heart totally goes out to the OP whose mom is completely unhinged and said that she hopes her and her fiancé die in addition to everything else. I hope she completely cuts contact indefinitely. I’m not normally one to do that but it’s absolutely the only way to have the peace that she deserves. 🥺

15:59 its got nothing to do with his new girlfriend. What he does with his money. OP needs to be careful if she is doing this now after a few months what she gonna be like in a few years

Last story, depression does not make people abusive. This is not a mental issue, it's a choice and it's about control.

The Mom sounds like she’s struggling with alcohol, and was just caught in her drunken feels, wheeling WAY off course. I’m sorry it happened to you, and I hope she takes steps to do better.

I would be praising him for being such a wonderful father and thinking holy cow. If I marry this man and we have children, they'll never have to worry.

1. Oh yeah, the husband will regret this. Though I'm wondering if he's going to go around and slander OP's reputation because he wants to look better.
2. This is elder abuse.
3. Yeah, it's a good thing the relationship ended before Anna tried something to Carrie and OP's son.
4. Op needs to protect herself, take steps to protect her wedding, and the sister needs to shut up. The mom is abusive and will not stop hurting others.

Last story, lived with a mother like her and no it won’t change. I was abused and even neglected. She refused to bring me to the hospital only did it because a doctor said he’d call the cops on them. It almost killed me. Never heard I love you, I’m proud of you or that I did well. When I went to her apartment to introduce my boyfriend she looked him up and down seemed not interested. He had brought er flowers and said nice to meet you. Afterwards he told me when I went to the bathroom about his paycheck! He didn’t answer that knowing from me she would demand money. Second visit went to the bathroom and she did demanded money for her to allow him to marry me. He said that it isn’t normal to demand it. When I went alone to visit her she said he’s no good, he doesn’t want to give me a little bit of money and he was a rich kid considering he had his own car and no siblings. I told her he works hard for his money and his not a rich kid just from working class family. And I didn’t want to discuss any money because does she ever loved me outside the possibility of gaining money? We are in Belgium and I’m not from any background of elites where it’s probably costum to discuss money and prenups. She got angry told me I wasn’t worthy of any man and he would beat me, let me get hungry and take advantage of me. So I had enough and told her are you now saying what you and stepfather did to us? I left never looked back. Later when I reconnected with my half brother I heard she claimed I was dead. He was surprised I was alive and well. He never told her we met but yes she was asking for money every time they met. I got married to that bad boyfriend and it’s 33 years still happy and he’s never lifted his hand nor made me unhappy by hurting me in any way. He sure doesn’t have it easy with my ptsd and anxiety attacks. He always says he loves me for who I am and the mother of his kids, that it was the most beautiful moments of our live and that we have a lot to explore by traveling and my creativity. He call,me his little feral lady. Because I’m not the traditional sweet woman. I can curse like a sailor, defend myself and family if needed, he told his supervisor at work don’t squeeze her hand. That man asked his colleagues what’s that about. They said don’t you know she looks sweet but she’s not afraid to hit you or step on your foot when you hurt her and you’re lucky she won’t make you her jester of the night. When they told me that I was godsmacked I said but I’m nice! So no, I wouldn’t allow a person that cursed me to dead and than blame it on mental health. My mother had mental health issues too but if she abused her medication and took drugs and alcohol it was even worse. For sanity I would go very low contact or none at all.

I don't know what made her think it would be okay to tell her husband about a tape.....  Secondly, it should have been deleted