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Addiction is when you give up everything for one thing.

Recovery is when you give up one thing for everything.

I hate the fact that we need to struggle with the addiction of our children.  I have dealt with it with a spouse as well. An adult child is worse in every way.

This woman knows her stuff...She is a great therapist! And yes...the way the addict see life is way different then us on the other side of it...me? I'm so tired of it I've stepped way back and decided to mind my own business...and hope one day...they get it figured out.

They actually BLAME their family for their drug abuse. Zero accountability for their choices. No, addiction is not a choice but using is a choice…as is recovery!

Great show today! I think this is a very important topic because we often take it personally when our loved ones choose an awful addiction over us! I have been on both sides of this coin and it doesn't feel good on either! I remember the days of my own addiction and I chose drugs over them. I also remember watching in  the window, waiting for my father when I was a kid and he didn't show up because he chose his addiction over me. I remember crying by the window to this day and still the pain can become overwhelming! I wish I would have remembered that when I was doing that to my own family! It is truly heart breaking! I have been sober for a couple years and try to reach back for anyone who wants recovery over that life! Thank you!

my brother has been in AA for 35 years.  has not drank. BUT, hes abusing adderall & has spent everything gambling at the casino.  Its heartbreaking, ive been dragged into his crazy life, bailing him out of jams, taking verbal abuse offering meetings/rehabs, etc.  i am done! i pray i really am DONE, as it is making me mentally & physically & spiritually ill.   BTW, i am clean an sober 29 years.

I was with a beautiful soul 12 years w/ 12 rehabs, an additional 5 planned detoxes and many hospital intakes due to seizures and unplanned detoxes.  I am an expert in this area — living every phase with this addict.  We loved each other and probably still do.  From day one until the final days together last month…he got in fist fight with his roommate, got fired for drinking on the job and crashed his truck the same day he got fired (after drinking at the bar…). We went from madly in love to the most miserable relationship — with me being unable to even talk to him as his behavior became belligerent and verbally abusive.  He is now with a new woman who’s a 23 year old woman (he’s 54) he met online and I’m ok with it.  I finally let go.  I can’t control him…I can only control myself.  I am on an upward trajectory in my life and I pray for him every day.  I love his soul.  He’s not that person anymore.  Thank you for sharing this important information.  Very helpful.

This channel is so helpful. Thank you JESUS for leading me here! I appreciate what you do sister, you’re a blessing!

😁...  Once my loved one sobered up, I saw how crazy my live had become.  Now my child is deep into addiction and the pain and heartache is even more intense.

This is exactly what I am living, down to every little piece including "He comes in and falls asleep, or can't even be present, or picks a fight..."

✋ I’m in the system! I say all the time I don’t like who I am in this relationship, no one else brings this panic out in me. So I am contributing to the problem by seeing the problem, reacting this way, grasping for a life together.

This comment comes from me as a recovering alcoholic and now watching my son in active addiction. You nailed it in 20 minutes. Powerful and accurate in my opinion. Thank you for your channel and effort you make to help people

I'm a rehabilitated alcoholic, everything you said is spot on. My ex is an alcolic and porn addict, my brother is an alcoholic. I see this in them, and I remember what I was like.

Years ago my husband told me "dont get between me and my pot". So for years I always felt that
he chose it over me. Hard to let go of this feeling I didnt matter.

Completely relate when my spouse chooses to stay home to pull days long drinking spell when he could have decided to travel with me to visit family and friends. However during my trip he feels lonely and wants to be a part of trip. So much so he has called (40+) times in 8 hrs. I've tried to silence phone but he then contacts who I'm visiting to get me on the phone - even in wee hours of the night. It took a lot of pushing myself to make a trip wo him. I desperately need separation to rest and escape the crazy at home.

My brother chose addiction over everything. Even his daughter. But it's not a problem for him because it's everyone else's fault... He didn't do a single thing wrong, everyone else became his enemy and did him wrong and became flaky. And he's planning on "destroying his enemies" as soon as he gets out of homelessness...

“Their reality is different from your reality.” ❤🎉

Because addictions give them something their family can't or won't.
Escape. From. Responsibility for their lives.
Families give you responsibility as an honor of participation. There is an expectation of positive contribution..  
Addiction gives addicts a break from that when holding it up feels too shamefully hard.

I'm in this right now with my spouse. Your videos are making me feel sane again. Thank you💜