Fantastic subject! I have noticed a lot of “Self Aware” folks can give detailed colorful descriptions of their emotions and experiences in retrospect, looking back. It all sounds very impressive, until you realize that in the PRESENT, they are disconnected from themselves and often re-enacting variations of the same patterns they claim to be aware of.

i spent so much reading every book about trauma and attachment i could find, taking notes, understanding exactly why i froze during conflict. i could explain my own nervous system better than most therapists. and nothing changed. i'd sit across from my partner during an argument and feel absolutely nothing, like watching someone else's life through a window i couldn't open. the frustration was unbearable because i had the map, i had the language, and my body just refused to cooperate. then i found a life changing book called "For those of you who feel invisible" in a reddit thread and there's this part about how your mind can be fluent in the language of feeling while your nervous system is still locked in silence. the difference between knowing about your body and actually living in it. i realized i'd spent all that time building a perfect theory of myself while staying completely disconnected from the actual sensations underneath. my thoughts were talking about emotions, but nothing was actually moving through me. the shift came when i stopped trying to understand myself better and started noticing what my chest actually felt like during those arguments. not analyzing it. just naming it. tight, cold, stuck. within weeks of staying there with those sensations instead of escaping into explanation, my partner said i seemed more present than i'd been in years. i'm not calm during conflict now, but i'm actually there. that's a completely different thing.

I keep watching this over and over. For Autistic people, knowing what you feel, or even being aware of the sensations in your body is very difficult.

I so appreciate the quality of information you bring in your Podcasts, it has helped me immensely !

Yeah, the gap between knowing my patterns and actually being different was years wide. I could explain exactly why I was anxious and stayed anxious the whole time. Naming it turned out to be the easy part

I really appreciated the point about grieving the body. As a yoga instructor, I strive to do no harm in people’s relationships to their own bodies, and that gave me some things to chew on 😊

What I learned to do was use body scans to locate and feel my emotions. That sums up this entire episode. These two are beating the subject to death. It’s pretty easy to learn how to do a body scan and locate and feel emotions. Once you’ve located them, you take your awareness and put it on them, feeling until the feelings dissipate.🌷

Great interview. One of the best I’ve listened to. Thank you.

OMG the collab I never knew I needed/wanted! Love Simone’s TikTok’s, such a great Ep!❤️

You ask such good questions a listener would be curious about. first time here and I think I'm staying

Functional freeze 😮 super helpful to
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I enjoyed this so much ❤

Great convo. I can relate to being told I’m self aware and reaching a block in therapy. And as an ADHDer (who has two masters degrees) a lot of the behaviors described- ignoring if you’re hungry, tired, etc are common as ADHDers, especially if we are have tried to outperform our neurodivergence (aka mask). But I’ve also heard that ADHD is just CPTSD and though a different lens

What a rare gift to see Miss Simone. The book has been bought. A very forgiving, patient, compassionate tube. 😢

Τhis is what weve been saying with my therapist

Thank you for an enlightning vision about disconnecting and trauma. I would love to read this specific book. Can you add please its references. Thank you!

Different entry points - it's so useful to categorize that way 👍

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I love how everyone is connected. Do you think a lot of people get sick for. A while when they try to "heal" because they are resisting feeling anything?