I don't know if it was said in video I've been listening while cleaning but cake smashing is inheritly disrespectful intentionally. It comes from Ancient Rome and served two purposes;

They used to break a loaf of wheat or barley over head to ensure good fertility and fortune in a superstitious practice, but also to publicly display husbands dominance and new authority over his wife. In some traditions the wife ate the crumbs to symbolize accepting her subservient role.

When the Romans took over Britain in 43 A.D., they obviously brought the tradition with them. Because of course they did, though it's variations were different. Trying to kiss each other without knocking over stacks of buns. The next variation was The Bride's Pye, which was throwing meats like sheep testicles or pine nuts at the bride (and sometimes cake), to signify fertility. Though in places like Yorkshire, brides would take small bites of a pastry then throw it over her head meaning she wouldn't have a life of want anymore.

Apparently even the original solo bride cutting of the cake meant giving up her virginity, but it slowly became more wholesome dual cutting and was supposed to look after each other. Now, it's just, right back to its origin.

over-sexualizing your wife in the presence of others screams compensating

First Lady said husband not ex ? Girl blink twice

Makes being single alone with cats/dogs look far more appealing…

If he will disrespect in front of your guests, he will definitely do it behind closed doors.

Never ignore violence.  Red flags disappear in to the background when we are wearing rose-colored glasses.  See it for what it is…violence.

they do it to humiliate you and to assert dominance/power over you there can be no other explanation

It's okay to walk away at the altar. It's okay to walk away from anyone who is disrespecting you under any circumstances, but especially on an important day.

That is simple battery

What a low-class thing to do on such a beautiful day!

For the first one, she said if she didn’t laugh, she’d cry so she’s not over it.

How hard do you have to hit your wife to give her a bloody nose? That is not a prank. It’s DV.

Are they jealous of the attention the bride gets and feel the need to make a scene and embarrass her??

If my brand new husband smashed a cake in my face so hard that my nose bled, not only would that marriage certificate not be filed but I'd also call the cops for assault. Because that's what that is. I would instantly lose love for anyone who commits violence against me.

That's grounds for an annullment.

Would a man do that to his boss ? His mother? Anyone ? Of course not so there's your answer: A total disregard for his wife.

That first lady is trapped. She knows that he hates her. She says “silly “as a substitute word for “abu$e”

Misogyny  and vulgarity and selfishness. All those horrendous vows are immortalized so that all the kids can see how daddy actually felt and acted towards their mother.

If a man would ever dare to pull out any of these "jokes" during our wedding, he and all of his guests would be kicked out immediately. And I would be celebrating my divorce from such an imbecile with my guests 🎉

I would divorce him for it