Before you marry ask yourself this question. “What problem exists that only marriage can solve?”

I think you may have been too focused on your own expectations of what marriage should look like. Marriage is complex, and many things happen behind closed doors that outsiders may never fully understand.

Sometimes it's better to focus on your own role and match the energy you're receiving instead of trying to control every aspect of the relationship.

It takes a lot of courage to open up like this.
You are an inspiration my brother.

I'm a 67yrs old single mum, a grandma, too. My personal lifelong observation: A man marries the woman he loves. He won't marry a girl just because she loves him crazy. If and when two real and sincere lovebirds meet, that's a rare gem.

"Desire cannot be negotiated "hapo ongeza volume

I am so sorry you went through that man. I completely relate - having gone through similar things. I know what it’s like to feel physically drained, lose interest in everyday life, and just feel totally pessimistic about everything.

Take it one day at a time. This is a brutal season and every season ends. You have learned a very painful lesson the hard way. Take all the time you need to heal. Once clarity and peace find you, you won't believe what God has planned for you. I can testify circumstances change. I wish you all the best.

The best advice to men: Marry the girl that loves you,not the girl you love. Mostly,hatakuwa type yako but hapo ndio ndoa inadumu.

mimi mbona sioni muhimu wa kupost bibi yangu kwa socials .i did not marry for the community

Genuine desire cannot be negotiated, facts.

In Relationships, opposites don't attract. You attract who you are because you can see yourself in them. So one has to sharpen their self awareness.

Alikaa na wewe for several years because you are a provider.

You deserve peace and happiness. Keep going, you’re stronger than you think 💪 Akali

Based on the advice of my dad and mum, I stayed for 8yrs after my graduation before i got into a relationship.

When i finally did, i was ready to accept the fact that a lady is a different individual from me, she had different goals in life and so do I.
I respect her and doesn't expect anything other than what she is comfortable doing out of her own will.

Boy child alikapitia.
Pole sana bwana Akali.
Brave of you to open up like this.
One take away from this, you don't marry a degree, you marry a person.
All the best in your future love endeavours.

One mistake people always make is entering marriage without consulting God,we should always spend time in prayer and ask God if the person you want to marry is His will for you,that is the only secret.God knows our hearts,and He knows the right person for you.Before you make a big decision like marriage,learn to consult the Most High God first.

Pole sana Giddy, I pray that God heals you fully. In the meantime as long as we are alive there is hope. You are very brave to share your story.

Never rush or be rushed, being rushed is a big red flag   Someone has own interests not you!

I know this season of your life is not easy. Divorce can bring grief, uncertainty, and many emotions all at once. As you walk through this journey, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the time and space to heal.
Remember that the end of a marriage is not the end of your story. There is still hope, purpose, and happiness ahead of you. Take each day as it comes, celebrate small victories, and lean on the people who genuinely care about you.
May you find strength when you feel weak, peace when your mind is troubled, and wisdom for every decision you make. Wishing you healing, restoration, and brighter days ahead.

Akali, this story is almost my story. I realized I married someone who didn't love me. I suffered in the hands of that lady. Whilst ours didn't end in divorce, she one day blocked everyone in all her socials then two days later I realized she was in another country. She sneaked my kids out of Kenya. Some women!!!

The guy was in love. Nice story though.