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the teen tradwife trend is a warning sign

Cara Nicole

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this won't end well...

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20 Comments

@Mockingbirdblow 1 month ago

These women aren’t trad wives. They’re influencers. They work. They influence you to become vulnerable while they rake in the cash.

@chelsey8828 1 month ago

Young women, please read this. I loved that man with every fiber of my being. I took his lead in finances because he was older and “better with money.” I supported his dreams and convinced myself it was for OUR future. I prioritized our marriage over all other relationships. And he loved me. I know he did. But ultimately the marriage ended. And it did so on almost the best of terms. Even still, I lost a decade of prioritizing my own career growth and financial security. I cannot get that back. The women that warn you against centering a man are not wishing you ill. We want so badly to save you from making the same mistakes we did.

@Hotaru9 1 month ago

My grandma was a stay at home wife with 8 kids, a HS education and an alcoholic husband until she died at 91. She wanted every one of her grand kids to go to college so they wouldn't end up like her. No propaganda from anyone will ever override what she told me herself.

@sacrilegiousheathen 1 month ago (edited)

My mom drives for DoorDash (in a car she "borrows" from me, and has for two years) and her disastrous financial decisions have made her dependent on us. My dad drove for them too until three months before he died... at age 83.

Friends, get your education before having kids.

Also, as a man, Jessie Watters DOES NOT SPEAK FOR US.

@elan825 1 month ago

They're saying the quiet part out loud: They want families in living in poverty, as long as they reproduce. They want women unable to vote, because they tend to be more left-leaning. They want women out of the workforce, so the men can get jobs. They want white Christian couples to have a bunch of kids they can't afford.

The "fiscally responsible party" won't help struggling families of course, they can pray or join the military. They just want people to be poor, uneducated and desperate. How can one cheer for having kids one cannot afford? That's disgusting. They said handmaid's tale was unrealistic, but now many are practically shilling for Gilead. As long as they think they can get theirs and won't be affected, they can speak against divirce, education, financial freedom and the right to vote for women. A handmaid doesn't work, yet it's the most soul-sucking thing: totally dependant, stuck at home, just an incubator.

Instead of helping the people who desperately want children, yet can't afford it, they cheer for child poverty, how disgusting.

@LordMcKrakenVonLittleBits 1 month ago

My aunt was a tradition wife. When my uncle passed away after they had married for 50 some years she knew nothing. Never drove a car, balanced a check book, paid bills, or did anything much for herself. When he passed away she was absolutely lost. At 75 years old and not know anything sounds terrifying. The one thing she had was his navy pension but if she didn't have the money he saved she'd have been done for and probably would have moved in with her kids.

@BCUZ9580 1 month ago

I'm convinced this trend is a marketing push via social media by religious groups. This isn't real 😂

@emilyfan505 1 month ago

I once told my dad I was just going to marry a rich man (before I figured out I was super gay lol) and he told me, no, you will be the rich ma. That man is a silent generation person but he’s also one of the biggest feminists I’ve ever met.

@jonnyc-p8l 1 month ago

I think it’s ironic that tradwives are trying to escape capitalism by leaning into patriarchy.

They’re the same thing.

@NomadOverNormal 1 month ago

years ago, I helped a girl I was dating start her first IRA and max it out that year because she was really successful in her own business that year. She was nervous because investing was scary, but really excited to better save for her future. Her mother was a bit appalled, and said, "money is the husband's job." and the girl kinda, felt ashamed. You can sort of see why it didnt work out.

@julianbenabides5974 1 month ago

Something not mentioned here - the tradwife culture attracts predators.

@fog10101 1 month ago

we need dual incomes just to survive. good luck trying to live the tradwife life.

@birdpaladin9332 1 month ago (edited)

"I could have gone to school and been a doctor." Girl, were you a prodigy but dropped out of medical school? Were you accepted to a med program early? If we're talking hypotheticals with no foundation, you could also be struck by lightning or win the lottery. Instead you're married at 18.

@sarah345 4 weeks ago

If those women don’t want the right to vote, they can go ahead and not vote. I’ll keep my vote, thanks.

@iTzDritte 1 month ago

Ambition is the best contraceptive

@Mockingbirdblow 1 month ago

If a man can feed, then he can starve you. These type of men seek out vulnerable young girls to control them. Being a stay at home mom is work. But it’s unpaid. Once, he gets tired of, no longer finds you attractive or dies you’ll be left to work a minimum wage job because you have no education and no work history. At least work part time to keep your resume up to date! Are you saving for your retirement? Are you the beneficiary of his life insurance policy?

@jack_the_stripper 1 month ago

As a male I find this trend concerning due to a single question: what will my wife do I get sick or worse and won't be able to sustain the same quality of life for her and kids? Kiss me goodbye and start looking for another provider (and failing miserably because no one wants a woman with kids whose motivation is money only)?

@maethuu91 1 month ago (edited)

As a man one of my biggest turn offs is someone who wants to be a tradwife. I come from an asian culture where the woman are typically submissive and it annoys the hell out of me. I need a partner to call me out on all the dumb shit I do. Thankfully I'm married and shes been keeping me in check for the past 15 years.

Sidenote: Cara you should do a deep dive on how kids dont free lunch in all but 9 states.

@the_agate_gate3782 1 month ago (edited)

Bottom line: Don’t depend on anyone else. As an adult, you need to be able to stand on your own and take care of yourself.

I have no sympathy for the women who are choosing this path, especially those who are trying to drag others with them. They deserve what they will get.

@sestoft 1 month ago

I feel like you are fighting a hard fight. I hope you succeed. I'm really scared for what the future brings for both women and working people in general and I think your analysis is spot on. I'm glad we're getting your input.