I was eighteen when a matchmaker called my parents
and said she had someone in mind for me.

I had never met her. She had never met me.
Three months later, we were married.

This is how the Hasidic marriage system works —
from the shidduch resume, to the bashow,
to the bedeken, to the yichud room
where two people sit alone together
for the very first time as husband and wife.

It's a system that has produced lasting marriages
for generations. It's also a system that has
produced real pain. This video doesn't try to tell
you which is more true. It shows you what it
actually looks like from the inside.