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Watch This Before Your Next First Date | Flirting Tips That Work

Dating Intentionally

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First Date Tips & How to Flirt!

Whether you're nervous for your next date or it's just been a while, this episode will help you get your head in the game. I'm sharing a first date pep talk to remind you that a first date isn't a test or a performance. Then I cover your actual mission on a date, how to stay in control of the pace, and what to do when first-date nerves hit. You'll also hear my best flirting tips, from the basics to more advanced moves. I also talk about how to flirt over text after the date, and why "good morning" texts don't count as flirting. Plus, I tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who wonders whether she should DM a guy she matched with on Bumble months ago.

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02:36 - first date tips and reminders!
03:53 - how to lower the stakes on a first date
05:00 - the 2 things to focus on during a first date
06:50 - how to approach first date conversations
08:46 - tips for managing pre-date nerves
10:48 - what to do AFTER a first date (reflection questions)
13:40 - getting into flirting tips for a first date
15:18 - basic flirting tips to try first (warming up)
17:55 - the key to flirty conversation
19:32 - more advanced flirting tips
21:00 - breaking the touch barrier
24:08 - flirting after the date (texting tips)
25:12 - dating dilemma - should I slide into his DMs??

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20 Comments

@alannorthcarolina1776 8 months ago

Be equally ready to be accepted and rejected and be ok and have a game plan for both: relationships, jobs, etc.

@chrisherber1635 8 months ago (edited)

Great advice. I also hate good morning and good night texts lol. I just like continuing the conversation from the day before as if no one went to sleep lol

@ScottH-e7y 4 months ago

Show your crush honest interest

@ReturnToCinda 8 months ago

5:55 OMG! “You are not going to trip and fall into the wrong relationship,”
THIS!!! They come on so strong and I get disoriented😂 it’s hard to slow it down without killing the vibe. When I reject, they don’t accept the rejection and I feel trapped.
Wow! No one has ever
Articulated for me this before.
Thank you!!!! 🙏

@ellenmykkanen3865 5 months ago

I'm finally learning how important it is for me to know what I want. So often I've kept going with anyone that I didn't find completely unacceptable. I don't want to be over-picky and am flexible when it comes to looks and social status, but I've learned that there are a lot of red flags that I wasn't noticing about before.

@alannorthcarolina1776 8 months ago

“Your last relationship that ended. What was your contribution to it ending?” Shows if they’ve done the work to know who they are.

@renxula 8 months ago

Sounds like good advice, thanks!

But I must cast doubt on your claim that a guy would definitely know if you're flirting. On a date, sure, but I mean if we've just met? We guys don't see subtle cues, or if we do, we think we're imagining too much or maybe we're in a hidden camera show. If it's not yet clear to us that we have a shot with you, we may explain away any number of flirty signals as coincidence or accidents. "Wow, she's nice, but I don't know... I don't want to be a creep..."

So here's my advice for the ladies: if he hasn't worked up the courage to flirt with you, stop trying to signal, and use your words. "You're looking good" is perfect, it's something one might say to a friend and it's just a fact about the present moment, but it's also a green light for further interaction. If you say it, don't shy away like it was a joke, but own it and watch for the response. Guys rarely hear that compliment. It pretty much prompts the response "you look good too", and that's a good start for the conversation.

@alannorthcarolina1776 8 months ago

The right relationship will adjust to your speed/slowness. He/she will wait and be honest with you if you’re going too slow/fast.

@LouisSpectorCMT 8 months ago

Fantastic. Very well done. Thank you. Love your personality.

@starcatcher3691 5 months ago

Great advice

@AjedrElx 8 months ago

Thank you

@For-information-Only 8 months ago

Good solid advice just relax and have fun? :-)

@alannorthcarolina1776 8 months ago

12:45pm on a work day or 11am on a weekend are great times to touch base the day after. Remind them of a moment/emotion you both enjoyed the night before. When they reply make a second date plan. If they don’t, then it’s over.

@SwitchUnboxingParty 1 month ago

Starts 1:43

@alexbethke87 8 months ago

Ask fun open ended questions too

@fabiosuccess2895 8 months ago

Don't forget to tease ;)

@DavidEtheridge 2 weeks ago

Sit close soft touch looking into the eyes.

@RelationshipUnfiltered-v6h 7 days ago

That first blond lady is living in LALA land.

@Figuringitout2026 5 months ago

Can I suggest a video? How do you slide into somebody’s DM’s with intentions and not just to text back-and-forth? I’ve been out of the dating world for 25 years and I’ve heard you can’t just go up to a girl and say you’re cute because she constantly lives in worship. Any suggestions?