All great points.  They fall asleep while you’re in tears. They feel good when you don’t.  And so so jealous!

Yes they are addicted to negative cut downs and you explain it so well !

I fall asleep with my little ones by accident when I put them to bed. Narc kicks me in the morning when I accidentally sleep in. Instead of being able to depend on them they point out I’m irresponsible. I stay up late cleaning the home washing dishes doing loads of laundry every night. I get four to five hours of sleep. But being exhausted doesn’t compare to theirs.

So so true . My covert narc , wife , used to pick fights at least every 3 days , during the discard phase . I always thought it was my fault until I found the help and info from YouTube clips ,like this one . One particular time we sat and chatted and I got emotional, the next fight , she initiated ,  ended by her saying " I thought we were getting somewhere , what with all the tears the other day ! " .
I managed to get a really good contract at work and she wasn't interested .
Another time I bought a second hand bike from a mate . She told me she always wanted a bike and I was selfish for buying this one . Obviously I felt bad about it so I bought her a new bike , it's been in the shed with flat tyres ever since , never  properly been on it . ! .
The mental abuse is very damaging , not to mention the couple of physical attacks .
I've only just realised you can't change them ,  just leave and rebuild yourself. As hard as that is .
Learn and move on .

Wow that going to the gym and getting fit take was spot on to what they say!

It’s demonic really 🤮 I used to be like that negative and hated most all things and everything seek one true only living God be right with Him be changed by Him be protected by Him  be saved before it’s too late.

The only way to deal with a narcissist is to speak up for yourself and create distance

They pick fights because they think they are better than me 😢

Envy. Total envy from a family member.

“Forgetting to turn on the washer” and I’m in hell for forgetting.

Accountability I’m constantly reminded…that I apparently don’t or that I make excuses for everything. It’s so hard.

Mine called the other day to pick a fight after no contact for over a year. I blocked his new number and then he called from another one to continue the fight and I blocked that too. I really hope this doesn't continue

Why Electric Eels HAVE to ... shock you.

Yep this video really hits home and I can attest that this video is so so true and accurate and I should know as I am married to a grade A Narc and toxic Woman , Narcs really cant stand anyone getting any form of attention or praise and have to bring everyone down to their levels of  misery , they are never happy and never will be happy long term , you really cant win with these people they will always find something to complain and moan about ( got moaned at this morning about using too much water when I am doing the dishes , and then on the other hand I get moaned at for not doing the dishes properly  ) . I really feel like all I am to her is an emotional punchbag to have it taken it out on when She is having a bad day etc , and I totally agree about the complete lack of accountability if something goes wrong it is usually twisted round to become my fault 👎👎👎👎👎 and then Wives wonder why the Husband checks out and stops putting in effort , which of course is a vicious circle as the lack of effort just gives the Narc more to complain about . Which is their fuel and gives them more supply , I notice that when my Narc has a go or a moan She is usually in a really good mood after 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 and the really hate it when you call them out and label them as a Narc .

It took me a few years to put together most of the reasons of deep-seated hurt but I finally began to realize I married a covert as you say, narcissist and I'm here to honestly tell the truth, after enough sometimes explosive outburst of anger & control issues my deep-seated baggage was rising from the ashes. Area's that I thought I'd forgiven someone from their mistakes were being uncovered and I realized I also need to do some work on myself which I won't deny. We cancelled a 1st time marriage counseling session & I haven't rescheduled yet because the wifey doesn't seem interested & is super busy totally consumed with computer games that have scheduled times each day that have to be met & then there are competition's. She works this gaming thing way harder than most people work a good paying job. Then all of the fantasy tv shows. There's no time to better ourselves. If we do anything I have to join her in her world & I better not complain any or her nasty anger issue blow's through the surface & she begins hurling any and all factual & fictional faults & male human imperfections at me...🥵 sorry. I digress. Anyway, oh yeah, I've unfortunately learned what a narcissist Is even though she was the nicest girl in our 8th grade class which she told me I just didn't know her. Fortunately people love her. I'm determined to help her, us, to improve the quality of our lives especially since our marriage has gone downhill so bad over the years. I began counseling sessions myself as I realized as I stated I had areas I must tend to. She's always gone to counseling. Pray for us. I'm not giving up! Sorry for the spill.

I’m guilty of saying both things about the gym .. “must be nice” and “reasons for working out to attract attn” now this could make me question if I’m narcissistic.. 🧐 then I remember .. he was working out along with never being home, always “helping” his friends, working, selling drugs, drinking .. while I’m home with two toddlers .. so yeah “must have been nice” to have time to work out and then when I finally started working on my body he said “ it was just a phase” and never acknowledged how I looked,  and any opportunity he had to take his shirt off In public .. he would .. soooo 👀🤷‍♀️

My mom SPOT ON!

Wow holy shiznit, and i thought it was me, thank you

My ex boyfriend was a narcissist who abused me for three years. It was horrible. I was halfway across the country and couldn’t leave.

That made me cry a little bit, thanks