One thing I’ve come to realize is that chemistry is not compatibility. You can feel chemistry within a few hours. You don’t know if you’re compatible with someone until months-years of knowing them.

Sounds like narcissistic abuse, and I don’t use that term lightly. His behavior points more toward control than basic incompatibility. Been there. Glad you saved yourself 🫶🏻

Mad props for being so open about your experience. A video like this can be genuinely helpful to people. Also, it's great that you pointed out the competence gap and recognized that you were the one lacking in that department. Being able to see some of the ways in which we need to improve is a strong sign that we've actually done some processing of the very difficult emotions that arise from divorce. The side comment that you made about how your ex husband could have been nicer about how he said it when he pressured you to go to the gym is an important point that people sadly often overlook. Lots of people will recognize that they need to talk to their partner about a flaw and then put no thought or effort into approaching the topic in a loving way. They believe that simply caring about their partner enough to point the flaw out to them is enough. It's not. Being confronted with our flaws in hard for all humans. If you are not willing to reassure your partner that you still love them and are their number 1 teammate while you point out their flaws, then you're not willing to be a good partner.

Its a doubled edged sword honestly. I've sceen marriage's that have worked from a super young age. My best friend got married when he was 18 and they are still happily married to this day. I'm glad you were able to get out of a bad situation though and you were able to learn from your experiences. I hope you'll find the right person who'll treat you well and how you deserve to be treated.

Oh wow this video showed up to me randomly I was impressed to see the small amount of views. You speak so well! Props to you for the honesty not only when you talked about your partner, but also about your own “weak points” in the relationship.
I was in a similar situation to you a couple years ago, I didn’t get to the marriage part but we were living together, ring in the finger and all that. You’re totally on point on about talking to your close friends and parents about your partner problems. My partner was such a “perfect guy” for everyone meanwhile I was suffering for months by myself before discovering a “good enough” reason to break up (a LOT of cheating).

hi. This thumbnail and title absolutely terrified me, the more i watched the more i realized that my relationship is not like yours, so thats good

The constant state of anxiety is something I can relate too. My mind was never at rest when I was with my ex. I was constantly anxious and questioning if we were meant to be. But since he was my first bf, I didn’t know if that was just normal anxiety or my body telling me something. But now I know that when it’s meant to be, loving them is easy. You don’t feel anxious about them

Hi, found you on TikTok and immediately loved your content

Im a big fan of your tiktoks and reels when you talk about dogs, and I really enjoy learning that your ideology of not making decisions in the hopes that you will be the exception to the rule is something that you carry and follow in other aspects of your life as well

Amazing watch, can’t relate as I’m not in a relationship and an introvert lol, your very entertaining! P.S. def a 7.7 on the yolked Index. Very nice bicep definition.

Thank you so much. Needed this information.❤

Definitely not the target audience because I’m a black guy but you raised some very valid points on this one. You are very wise and communicate your ideas very well.

Heavy on the trust thing you brought up. I’ve had several relationships where some form of either overt cheating or micro cheating has occurred. Even my current LTR (2 years) has had a violation of trust (not cheating) and one long term situation I was not happy with. Once someone shows their true colors, just do yourself a favor.. choose yourself and leave.

I got married at 20, divorced at 23 and I agree that this experience feels very unique. I’m grateful to be out of it young and childless, it’s just hard to relate to anyone. Hearing your story makes me feel less alone!

Also the married/divorced young to dating older men pipeline is unfortunately real :/

Also you look 8/10 yolked🤣❤️

I am 5 years older than you and I am very happy to to have found your channel.
Your wisdom on these topics really reasonnares with me and my personal experiences, to a degree where not many, if any at all, of my peers and friends and family can. It is very refreshing and somehow you make me feel very understood. Thank you for being so open and sharing such vulneranle parts of your life with courage, strength and resilience.
Keep it up girl I am here for the long ride !!! :)
A hug from Italy.

were you in an age gap relationship?

He didn't divorce you. You divorce him because you were always overexpecting from him than what he can give 😂😂😂

Bibi Noseringyahu back with propaganda

I left this comment on the second to last video of yours, just wanted to leave this here as well:
Ecclesiastes 9:7-10
Proverbs 31 ofc
Matthew 6:33
Ephesians 5(:17) the whole thing but verse 17 is the point.
James 4(:13-17)
Matthew 19:6
There are of course many more.

My own opinion on this is just to make God the base of everything then things will work out. God is like a life advisor on speed dial. Ask him before you do anything and everything. James 4 speaks on the sin of omission and the grave mistake of telling yourself what you are going to do instead of doing what God wants you to do.
Ecclesiastes and Proverbs speak of married life, but don't actually say what it means to be a woman alone. This is where Ephesians comes in telling people of God how to be people of God. Then Matthew, seek first His kingdom then the other things like relationships will be added on (if it's in His will).
Lastly, one major thing I wanted to point out about Proverbs 31 bc it's thrown around so much. Note Proverbs 31:23, the husband counterpart to this kind of woman sits with the elders at the city gate. The elders are wise people with spiritual wisdom to guide others to God. If he is not that kind of man, idk.
On divorce, as long as you tried to work it out, if you ask for forgiveness and repent from the heart, you are covered by his grace.

He didn't divorce you. You divorce him because you were always overexpecting from him than what he can give 😂😂😂