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8 Signs You Were Raised by a Narcissistic Mother

Jerry Wise

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Ever wonder why the harshest voice in your head still sounds like your mother? When you are raised by a narcissistic mother, her judgment does not stay in childhood. It moves in, sets up house, and starts narrating your adult life.

A narcissistic mother teaches you to watch her face for approval before you trust your own feelings. Over the years, that constant monitoring becomes second nature, and you grow up doubting whether anything you feel is even allowed.

In this video, I walk through 8 signs you were raised by a narcissistic mother, and what each one has quietly cost you as an adult.

✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
🔹 The 8 signs that point back to a narcissistic mother
🔹 How her voice became your self-critical inner voice
🔹 Why you still feel responsible for her feelings
🔹 How to separate her judgment from your own

Through self-differentiation, you can turn down that inherited voice, get the family out of you, and come home to the real self that was always underneath.

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About Jerry Wise: I'm Jerry Wise, a family systems coach with over 45 years of experience helping individuals break free from narcissistic family dynamics. My approach to self-differentiation empowers you to let go of the guilt, shame, and emotional entanglements that have held you back. If you're ready to heal, I'm here to guide you every step of the way.

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⌚ CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro
00:58 "We Need to Talk" Triggers Instant Panic
02:09 Panic When Someone Doesn't Text Back
03:16 Making Decisions in Her Voice
04:10 Compliments Feel Like a Trap
05:31 Responsible for Everyone Else's Moods
06:37 Over-Explaining a Simple "No"
07:35 Tracking Rooms & Emotional Wi-Fi
09:00 Calling Yourself "Too Much"
10:02 Here's What Actually Matters
11:06 Join the Road to Self Program

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20 Comments

@jerrywise Creator 3 months ago (edited) Pinned

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@chrishackworth5745 2 months ago

I will never understand how a mother can hate her own child.

@sam-bd2ko 2 months ago

No praise was ever forthcoming. No compliments. Only criticism.

@noname-cw5mi 3 months ago

There was never a pleasant, friendly conversation. She complained, she was a victim and she was never happy. She was never a mother. I can't relate to people who miss their mother.

@Junegarden0988 3 weeks ago

“Love can be withdrawn at any moment.” It is absolutely like that.

@angelawhetsell758 3 months ago

"I don't remember that..." Makes me want to jump in front of a train.

@eleanam4835 2 months ago

The hardest part for me is the wanting and craving for the unconditional love from my mother, but knowing I’ll never receive it💔

@sue5158 3 months ago

I didn't learn this till my 50s. Decades of life wasted. I pray others learn earlier and have the full lives they deserve.

@aussiebel 3 months ago (edited)

The abandonment feeling.... they never wanted you there and behaved as if you're weren't there.

@Indegosurvived 2 months ago

This horrible behavior is the long way of saying ‘I didn’t want you’

@TheDeplorableVisigoth 3 months ago

Nothing like being ghosted in your own home.

@santacruzdz 3 months ago

This man knows what he’s talking about.

@Angela-0071 3 months ago (edited)

My mother was very narcissistic with me, but she was a codependent with my father and my sisters at the same time. It's very hard to have a narcissistic mother who has problems of jealousy and anger. You can't never share your private life and celebrate accomplishments with your mother because she's always competing with you. I don't talk to her anymore, but I grieve the loss of the mother that I never had. Thank you for explaining our pain, Jerry! 💖🙏💛🦋

@DMKey-r6g 3 months ago

My mother could turn anything into a pity party for herself. If there wasn't anything going on at the moment she would bring up something from the past.

@darkangelkate3950 2 months ago

I would walk into the house after school and know before I even saw her, what mood she was in.

@DisposableEgo 3 months ago

What my mother would do is compliment one of my siblings, then look at me with the face of disappointment.

@EvanFrenchMusic93 3 months ago

As scared and alone as I might feel at times, I know I'm better off away from my abusive narcissistic mother.

@Ocultboss 3 months ago (edited)

She’s dead 2 years and I didn’t shed a tear but the damage is on a loop… Spot on Jerry..

@stevestruthers6180 3 months ago (edited)

I experienced a double whammy growing up. I had a narcissistic mother and alcoholic father who was also likely a narcissist. I remember the time when I had my first summer job working as a dishwasher in a newly-opened pizza joint. The place was popular, so the work was crazy, and hard. I was only 15. One day, in August, I went out to a department store and bought myself a nice sweater as the new school year was coming up, and a new album. I bought this all with my own money, which I had worked very hard to earn.

When I showed my mother what I had bought, she screamed at me and called me 'irresponsible'. In her mind, I was supposed to save everything I earned and only spend a tiny little bit of it on myself. But the real problem wasn't what I bought, or that I had spent any of my own money, but that I dared to engage in a little autonomy and independence, and she couldn't tolerate not having any control over me, or me not running any of my decisions through her first to get her approval.

The experience was so demotivating that I quit the job less than a month later. Why work hard when you'll only be criticized later, called lazy, and told you're still not working hard enough? The work was hard and probably more than a 15 year-old should have taken on. I later learned that food service industry work can break even strong, experienced adults. I also learned that one of the hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a need to have complete control over others. Furthermore, I learned that narcs are extremely insecure people.

After she died, I grieved her death for a long time. But one day I realized I wasn't grieving the loss of my mother, I was grieving the loss of the mother I needed and wanted, and didn't get. I am actually somewhat relieved she is gone and I haven't had to deal with her or her bullshit for several decades now.