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How Human Predators Choose the Right Victims - Dr Daniel Jones

Brad Carr

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00:00 In This Episode
00:34 The Dark Triad and Seduction
01:57 How Understanding Emophilia Protects You
06:06 The Dark Triad and Relationship Vulnerability
08:33 The Three Traps of Toxic Relationships
11:50 How People Are Trapped in Toxic Relationships
15:13 Never Too Late to Get Away
17:23 The Stages of Manipulation
19:09 Identifying Toxic Romantic Partners
24:08 The Cocaine Analogy: Attraction and Manipulation
27:39 Emophilia and Cognitive Biases
29:25 The Importance of a Safety Network
32:51 Navigating Difficult Conversations with Loved Ones
35:54 Self-Assessment Our Vulnerabilities In Relationships
37:53 Debunking the Myth of Love at First Sight
42:38 How Predators Pick Victims
49:07 The Lie of the 'Bad Boy' Archetype
53:32 find Dan Jones
54:26 Forewarned Is Forearmed
56:23 Further Recommendations

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Dr. Daniel Jones is an expert on deception, unethical behavior, and the Dark Triad traits of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism. In this episode, he explores the dark triad and their influence on romantic relationships. He discusses traits like emophilia, red flags for manipulation, and strategies to recognize and avoid toxic dynamics, providing valuable insights for self-awareness and healthier connections.

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How Human Predators Choose the Right Victims. - Dr Daniel Jones

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@BradCarr_ Creator 4 months ago Pinned

Dr. Daniel Jones discusses emophilia, red flags for manipulation, and toxic dynamics. SHARE this episode to raise awareness. Time stamps below.
00:00 In This Episode
00:34 The Dark Triad and Seduction
01:57 How Understanding Emophilia Protects You
06:06 The Dark Triad and Relationship Vulnerability
08:33 The Three Traps of Toxic Relationships
11:50 How People Are Trapped in Toxic Relationships
15:13 Never Too Late to Get Away
17:23 The Stages of Manipulation
19:09 Identifying Toxic Romantic Partners
24:08 The Cocaine Analogy: Attraction and Manipulation
27:39 Emophilia and Cognitive Biases
29:25 The Importance of a Safety Network
32:51 Navigating Difficult Conversations with Loved Ones
35:54 Self-Assessment Our Vulnerabilities In Relationships
37:53 Debunking the Myth of Love at First Sight
42:38 How Predators Pick Victims
49:07 The Lie of the 'Bad Boy' Archetype
53:32 find Dan Jones
54:26 Forewarned Is Forearmed
56:23 Further Recommendations

@StopNarc 4 months ago

People with bad behavior often seek out vulnerability, isolation, or difficulty setting boundaries.

@JqueenAr 4 months ago

Machiavellian can hide bad intentions for over 10 years. They are scary.

@jodiburnett6211 3 months ago

“You learned not to be with an abuser.”
There’s the investment!

@MedicineBear555 4 months ago

Survival is a powerful force

@daphneduryea9136 4 months ago

Do not ever, ever, ever let anyone know how much money you have!

@Lilly-xg5xw 4 months ago

Behavior of anxiously attached individuals can be incredibly dangerous😢

@annekenney6914 4 months ago

Being too open and truthful about any struggles in your life is a chain that they can hook onto. I'm not saying to be dishonest, but saying something's personal or not discussing tough things in the beginning is better.

@boomshankaneil 4 months ago

Avoidance all roads seem to lead to Avoidance

@MultiLuc37 4 months ago

Really like how you now appear visually on the same level as your guests. Your new background, appearing for longer on screen and joining in the conversation whilst still providing your great questions, I think, is really hitting the mark.

You two speak so easily together too. It makes it all so useful and so enjoyable at the same time.

Bravo, Brad. Loving your podcast even more.

@TheDevineFempress 4 months ago

I have only felt that “love at first sight” with one person, while recovering from a brain injury and he was with a complete narcissist!

@CL-lo4wd 4 months ago

Thank you so much for inviting this guest back! I love starting the week listening to incisive, intelligent, instructive, and respectful dialogue! I always learn for your interviews, Brad.

@Dualityoflife11 3 weeks ago

Please bring him back again. Learned so many things. Thank you.

@dorothymaria8711 2 months ago

I believe that people with a high tendency towards emophilia were robbed of their autonomy as children by their caregivers.

When a child is rewarded for abandoning themselves and their needs, this leads to automated emotional coping behaviours, and consequences in unsafe adult relationships. I see this theme all the time in my adult clients.
If you struggle with boundaries, autonomy, healthy sovereignty, learning to reparent yourself is a good starting point ❤

@barbstotter7288 4 months ago

You’ve done it again Brad. Decades of reading, listening, studying, and you still bring me something new AGAIN!??? How are you doing this? Mind blown. Thank you!!!!!!!

@dpegy 4 months ago

Excellent guest. His knowledge and understanding of the topic are impressive.

@Djangofootball 4 months ago (edited)

This is so true. That was me. I became a bait for 2 narcissists. After they extracted over $700,000 from me over the course of 10 years, I have finally awakened!
The manipulations were real and hurtful. But I survived!
No more trusting or falling in love quickly anymore. Actually, no more falling in love!

@Jay-op9is 1 month ago

Telling the truth is sometimes a weapon too, if you know you own a weapon

@jrnate4ver 3 months ago

19:09 🎉proud of her too!!! These toxic people deserve an academy award for how good they play these roles to make you feel guilty, shame, etc….

@thedecayingman101 4 months ago

Just on the point of a conversation turning to anger or crying, my ex used to constantly ask me if I really loved her more than I've ever moved anyone. I usually answered "of course!" but one time I calmly said "you know, when you ask me that, it makes me think I'm doing a bad job of loving you". She immediately broke down, on the floor like a toddler crying, stabling feet. She led there for an hour. I tried to comfort her and she shook me off, and it was so intense and so out of the blue that I had to leave the room. She packed up some shit and went back to her parents for two days. That shoulda been when I left, or more accurately let her stay away. I didn't though. But I felt that was quite a mild boundary or conversation to have. We'd just move into our apartment, I'd spent quite a lot of money making it nice, and we'd not long got back from a lovely holiday. Id just started a new job. I cooked and cleaned and stuff and we still went for date night every week. I just wasn't sure what I could possibly have done for her to ask me that. It wasn't like I never told her I loved her. I told her multiple times a day, and I feel like it's much nicer if you express love naturally, not constantly being quizzed on your love.