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Handling a Narcissist Discard

Stephanie Lyn Coaching

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Being discarded by a narcissist is one of the most painful experiences because it feels like the ultimate rejection. But the truth is, their discard has nothing to do with your worth—it’s about their need for control and validation. In this video, I’ll break down why narcissists discard, how to stop blaming yourself, and the steps to rebuild your confidence after this emotional betrayal. If you're struggling to move on, make sure to watch until the end!

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20 Comments

@NarcSurvivor 1 year ago

Narcissists discard a person when they know they can’t get anymore out of them, or when they know they are outmatched. Essentially, you have defeated the narcissist and caused their fake world to crumble.

@myutube5882 10 months ago

They're extremely immature. When they can't have their way, they leave. Think of a little kid knocking your block tower down, taking their toys, and going home. This is not a person capable of an adult relationship.

@timothymelbinger4089 1 year ago

I'd don't think Stephanie is just blowing sunshine up our a** here...She's saying that even though the discard was Hell, the discarder knew (at some level) that you could not be manipulated anymore and -- even though they will NEVER say it -- it was testament to who you were and what you could be without them. She's right. Again.

@JazzandLaughter 1 year ago

It is absolutely a compliment!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯

@KJwaggy 5 months ago (edited)

One really hard pill for me to swallow is the realization that she just mimicked my personality traits. My music taste, my goals and dreams because that’s what I wanted to hear, when realistically she just wanted to control the narrative & keep me sucked in. She fought me on damn near everything, and would hold grudges against me for any mistake I made.
Pretty much all her talk about personal growth and change was bullshit.
She literally screamed in my face one night “I FEEL LIKE I CAN’T CONTROL ANYTHING!!”

@Turin_Turrumbar 11 months ago

Man it's a horrible feeling, and U feel bad for so long, looking back it's surreal, I can't believe I was so infatuated with such a horrible nasty person, feels like such a waste of time and energy, I'm truly grateful that the grief is done, never ever again!

@AviAviOxenfree 1 month ago

This is so right! Every time I tried to set a boundary he would withhold affection and say it was my fault. I noticed the pattern and started to get less stressed out each time he did it, and now he’s in the discard process. I’m still kind, I’m still supportive, but I’m not disregulated and begging him for his affection so he’s over it 😊

@suz6239 1 year ago (edited)

The worst is when they hide they actually have new supply ready, just hidden away, but pull them in front of you, just to give that last discard an extra dig in your heart. Yes I feel sorry for the next supply, but it wouldn’t help to warn her, she wouldn’t believe it. Right now she is probably blind with manipulated “love.” I can only wish her luck.

@Curiousmind7777 1 year ago

Your mind will play tricks on you and have you thinking they rejected and discarded you when in reality you did it first. They just pulled the trigger once they realized the gig was up.

@restorider 1 year ago

Everything you said here Stephanie hit the nail on the head, you could have been describing my ex partner who i was finally strong enough to resist and allow to discard me. It was hard, incredibly painful but ultimately empowering and truly transformational. Your videos have been invaluable in helping me heal from the abuse of a narcissist, thank you.

@Mystory4Hisglory1975 1 year ago

He was so mean to me and it progressively got worse til I was the one who walked away. That a month ago but I’m finally starting to to feel better.

@MVR3K 1 year ago

Not only was I discarded she also took my daughter and has been trying to turn her against me. After 7 years of the most intense abuse anyone can imagine I was completely broken. I’m in the best place of my life now fighting everyday for my little angel. I thank god the discard happened

@kmc7062 1 year ago

The discard I have handled thanks to you. I’m still licking the wounds from the smear campaign that followed. That said I am working on myself to self-parent and continue moving in a forward positive direction. I always appreciate you and your videos. Thank you once again.

@Starrynight-q8v 1 year ago

Honestly, I don’t even know why I liked him so much. It wasn’t a need. It just happened while I wasn’t paying attention. It was the last thing I wanted or needed. But there was something. Praying I just stay focused on my future and stop all the nonsense that’s simply a waste of time and energy. I really like your message. I’ve found you to be the most relatable for me. Thank you! I’ll be tuning in weekly. 😁

@katiebarlow9771 9 months ago

I actually count it as an absolute blessing. Run while you still can. My N didn't want to put in the work that I stated they needed to do, in order to stay in relationship with me. So they discarded me while still hovering. Check mate. Disrespect equals distance for me. I see through it and have for a very long time.

@bnickless 1 year ago

Wow, You put this out at the perfect time. I experienced the discard in the last few weeks and today, because I did not react the way he wanted, he said some of the ugliest things to me to try to intentionally hurt my feelings and make me spiral but I did not take the bait. I would love to work with you!

@QueenBbetterthanb4 1 year ago

Thankyouthankyou. It's been 2 years and my divorce was recently finalized. It blows me away how every now and then, that doubt will creep in. So, thank you for this amazing and solid reminder of my true worth. ❤🎉

@ZovaBe 1 month ago

What hurts the most is we have two children together so even though I was discarded I still have to see him and see him flaunt his new perfect life showing me that I was the problem

@cathypiggins2904 1 year ago

I love this video. Thank you so much. I was discarded by a narcissist about 2 weeks ago and I’m super annoyed with myself because I’m still thinking about him! I have told myself 1000 times that it’s because I’m lousy supply, and I didn’t fawn, and so forth. Hearing it from you instead of myself helps so much ❤

@Andrea-lp4bb 1 year ago

Once again you nailed it Stephanie! It's been almost 3.5 years since my Narcissist ex husband discarded me. After having yet another affair. He has addictions incl a certain one involving a computer. Thing is he always swore he wasn't physically cheating. Then he admitted to his final affair before walking out. I always maintain he left because he knew he couldn't cover up the rest. I was sniffing around asking questions. So he fled the scene. Started on the next victim...not the affair partner but someone he met online. She sounds just as nasty as him so I'm not sure how that's working out...