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Usually it’s a 2 for 1.  If you find that your partner is a narcissist, it is pretty assured that you’ve dealt with narcissism in a parent or caregiver or close relative before. That is why you are desensitized to abuse cycles.  No way you would stay with someone who continuously puts you in cycles of abuse without a familiarity to it.

Pack your bags while they are out, just take what you can. If you want to have that discussion, you should have it over the phone.

This is invaluable information that would typically costs $$$ to get.  Thank you Mr. Fletcher!

Like Richard Grannon says, you must reduce the significance of the narcissist.  I am cringing hearing about people who want to talk to the NPDs about healing (I feel for the past me who tried for decades to have a healthy dialog with parents, siblings and 2 exes.  What a waste of my time, energy, and health).  Either enjoy people exactly as they are, or get away from them.

Was married to narcissist for 38 years, married him twice because they will real you back in like a fish. This video is spot on 100%.

Don’t engage, don’t react, remain calm. If you’re in an entanglement with someone with a narcissist personality style get out. Narcissists don’t change. These individuals are toxic. Attachment Styles. The mask. The core self comes from a place of fear and shame. Therapy? Those individuals with this type of personality style rarely if ever present for treatment.
Patrick Sicard, Psychologist &Trauma informed therapist.

The only way to cope with one of them...is to live apart from them..just visit for a day...then lead your own life..away from the frustration of them..

And when they see me change for the better and they just get worse, is that my sign to GTFO?

Some therapists are narcissistic.

No other family or relatives. When my parents got sick and then later passed, I did take care of them. I did set up plenty of rules and boundaries for them. One thing that did work is since they were helpless, they were much nicer to me because they knew there was no one else to help them. I still had to separate myself emotionally to do it. It was a lot of work, but no regrets. And I know I honored God in the process. It is cool to see the healing God has brought into my life since.

The narc is an actor every day of their lives.

They draw you into their game without you realizing it. They will change the rules constantly.
When you make your own rules and create new solid boundaries, they will freak out and display new levels of abuse.

I want to give encouragement to those who are just realizing they have some traits that need to change. I grew up with two traumatized parents,  my father a grandiose narc, and my mother, a covert 'victim'. Neither one has ever been truthful or tried to understand their role in how they affected us kids.
As an adult, it took me a few years for my mind to finally drop the shame and fear and realize I can change for the better without my world collapsing.
Thats what it felt like initially. My world would collapse if I was vulnerable. It turns out it only improves.

I have followed your teachings for 3 years and it's a big blessing to me.

Why would you want to suffer from their horrible behavior. Run!!!

I walked the Love Dare book (1 Cor 13) daily, it turned my exhusband around and "changed" his behavior from divorce mindset to learning give and take. But now ten years later, he is back in divorce mode looking for relevance. I just turn my back now. I am no longer compromising. I respect his boundaries, giving him as much privacy as he needs. There is inability to mature. I do not engage with him, I do not debate or explain anything anymore. He has a twisted tongue and a questionable logic. Why bring up a child who is already an adult who is accountable for his own decisions and actions. Waiting for assets and debts division agreement for divorce to finalize. Regression is a cyclical pattern. It's time to cut off the wickedness.

This might sound trite, but people only change when the pain is more than they can bear.

Tim is right on! Warning against sharing your therapist with a Narcissist.

They will NEVER change. Watching their victims change just makes them try harder to abuse then or they'll drop you cause you're now useless to them.

Don't give false hope to victims. Thinking they'll change will keep you entangled longer and more damage will be done