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DIVORCED WOMEN EXPOSE THE RED FLAGS THEY IGNORED BEFORE MARRIAGE😭💔RED FLAGS TO NEVA IGNORE IN DATING

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🚩 RED FLAGS I IGNORED BEFORE MARRIAGE😭💔 | DIVORCED WOMEN OPEN UP

What if the signs were there all along… but you ignored them? 😭💔

In today’s video, divorced women open up about the relationship red flags they noticed before getting married but chose to overlook — and what happened after the wedding. From controlling behaviour and disrespect to emotional manipulation, dishonesty, lack of accountability, financial problems, toxic communication, and ignoring your intuition, these are the warning signs women wish they had taken seriously.

Sometimes the biggest mistakes in relationships aren’t the things we didn’t see — they’re the things we saw but convinced ourselves would change. 🥺

If you’re dating, engaged, thinking about marriage, or simply trying to understand healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, this conversation may give you something to think about.

💔 RED FLAGS TO NEVER IGNORE IN A RELATIONSHIP:
🚩 Disrespect disguised as jokes
🚩 Controlling behaviour
🚩 Constant lying or secrecy
🚩 Emotional manipulation
🚩 Lack of accountability
🚩 Anger and intimidation
🚩 Poor communication
🚩 Financial irresponsibility
🚩 Disrespect toward other people
🚩 Rushing you into marriage
🚩 Repeated broken promises
🚩 Refusing to change harmful behaviour
🚩 Making you question your own reality
🚩 Ignoring your boundaries
🚩 That feeling in your gut that something isn’t right

Marriage doesn’t magically fix relationship problems. The behaviours you overlook while dating can become much harder to deal with once you’re married.

💬 What is one relationship red flag you wish you had never ignored? Share your experience in the comments — your story could help someone else recognize a warning sign before it’s too late. ❤️

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20 Comments

@yvettejones6702 10 days ago

Men talk about their crazy ex but never tell the truth about what he did to her. Red flag!

@user-bf7hi9wq3m 11 days ago

Some of us are so focused on being chosen that we forgot to ask ourselves, what is it that we want? Most of the time we don’t even like the men.

@tajr.2650 10 days ago

BEING “CHOSEN” IS NOT A FLEX.

@monetroshi 10 days ago

Our first argument was the sign 😭😭😭 he refused to build a bed with me cos it was too much work…
5 years later we bought a house and I did everything… I fixed the pipes leaking and cut the grass…. He told our therapist that i was just too good at everything.
I was done…

@learnwithniashow 11 days ago

I saw all the red flags 🚩 🚩 yet ignored them 😢😢😢not anymore !!! Never again!!! 👎🏿 ❤❤❤

@traceylennon1204 11 days ago

Nobody should be getting married under the age of 25, not even 25!!

@mckymcobvious3043 10 days ago

"I can fix him!" it's up to HIM to change! there's likely not a lot you can do.

@Eva-y3u8 10 days ago

Do not ever engage in a relationship with a controlling man, EVER. It is a sign of profound insecurity, which also leads to many undesirable and even malicious and dangerous behavioral patterns. He does not need a relationship, he needs deep psycho therapy. Remove yourself from such men. ASAP.

@Onceuponatime9266 10 days ago (edited)

1. He didn’t have my back when other ppl were rude to me. 2. He was like tofu, no opinions of his own on politics or anything, bc he was wearing a mask. Ppl who are too agreeable are often covert narcs. 3. Once or twice he flashed anger inappropriately. Not violence, just inappropriate insults. 4. Neediness. 5. His friends were primarily reprehensible truly awful ppl.

@itzakpoelzig330 10 days ago

If you're dating a guy and it feels like his emotions are performative, get out. He will use his fake emotions to manipulate you. Fake sadness to get pity. Fake anger to compel obedience. Fake love to win your trust. Fake tears to get you to forgive him.

Just run. Men like this seem to have no genuine substance. They are just manipulators, and you will spend years coddling his fake emotions if you stick around.

@carlab1748 8 days ago

The Lady that was describing the Red Flags by the Characteristics of different Animals, that was some really good Information, I have never heard that before.

@Tokyo_Drift-k3u 2 days ago

I thank God for social media shedding light on this topic for a lot of women. This is eye-opening.

@etaokha4164 11 days ago (edited)

Give me peace, and ill choose that peace over any man anyday. I enjoy being by myself and its literally when am alone, I get brilliant ideas and skills I never knew I had.

@mugglecatful 10 days ago

I've never been in a serious relationship. But I do have 3 older sisters. Watching their relationships has been....educational to say the least. Because they SAW the red flags from the jump and were so desperate to be 'chosen' that they walked right on past each one with a giggle and an eyeroll. As the youngest sister and the only one who hasn't paraded their attempts at love, all my opinions on their relationships are 'naive' and 'immature' and 'a bit too harsh'. I'm 33. I know a dud when I see one and all three sisters have managed to catch a dud a piece. I'm perfectly alright with dying alone surrounded by cats that will eat my fingers. I consider 20-30-40-50 years of miserable marriage a far worse end. Imagine wasting YEARS on a person that hated your guts from the beginning. What a waste of a life.

@kristenmarie9248 5 days ago

Anger, alcohol, drugs, ANY type of abuse, mama's boy, emotionally immature. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@BlaydeAlabama 10 days ago (edited)

I really appreciate this compliation. Every one i know thats divorced admitted they knew BEFORE they walked that aisle. Men & women both. This should encouge you all to know if you do this right, it's amazing❣️ 14 yrs in and it's still the best decisions I've ever made.💯 Love isnt enough & don't be anxious. Work on yourself 1st💯

@Patti.C 11 days ago (edited)

Every stage of the relationship, he changed. Once we got engaged, he became controlling and bossy. Once we got married, he didn’t want my friends around. Once we had kids, I had to stay downstairs until the baby slept through the night or wasn’t going to make any noise.
It was a huge gift for him to let me stay home with our children. However, he never let me go back to work or school. He didn’t want to watch the kids and didn’t want a stranger to do it Not even part-time. And I was responsible for everything in the house. Including being his mother.

If you’re not working together as a best friend to the person you’re with and giving them equal reciprocity and equal respect, you are not in a relationship you are being owned and controlled by someone who most likely will discard you for someone else the second you don’t comply

@jasmine91111 10 days ago

12:14 OMG! My grandfather was abusive but everyone catered to him and worshipped him at home. Even as adults there were very afraid of him but still stayed close and obedient. My father now has 5 children who are very friendly and as kids had bubbly personalities but he never got much close with any of us before his own abusive side came out. We started avoiding him and he became more and more of a workaholic. Even on holidays he wouldn't sit with us.

In his mid 50s now he has a pattern of cheating and whenever my mother confronting him he would say "well what did you think was gonna happen when I'm here feeling like nobody?". Why would a full on adult think that of himself in his own house??

When asked what was missing he was too ashamed to really say it but he wanted the same treatment his father got. He wanted all that validation means cooked for him only, everyone greeting him at the door, kissing his hand, preparing his hookah for him (something he actually said), and more...

His older brother is a joke of a man, he didn't get married and still lives with my grandma and aunt, he gets his own validation from them. This man won't even serve himself food, he wants my aunt to pour it for him, he even has her preparing his bathroom for him before he showers. Fucking sick. I blame the women who enabled this. It's better to die than worship an abuser. Look what he's done to his sons and what they're doing to others.

@297banu 10 days ago

53:30 The way he treats people in the service industry should be your first warning sign. Don't get involved with people who haven't been raised well. If his family didn't teach him common courtesy, he will age like milk in the relationship.

@alliesunscriptedlife 6 days ago

As a newly divorced woman, I can look back and see that I had my blinders on for most of my marriage. In my current relationship, my eyes are WIDE OPEN!!!