As a parent with a daughter who fell into rapid onset, I think this speaker is correct regarding grappling with reality. I would only add that teens no longer have to resort to approaching their parents when they feel distressed and confused about reality. Instead. they take this distress and all their questions to the internet, and ask strangers who they think may have answers. Often the strangers belong to online communities that are biased towards harmful ideologies. Couple this interaction with a history of difficulty making friends, and the black and white conviction style of a teen on the spectrum, and the parent really has very little power to get in early enough to intercept the delusion and help the teen to confront reality slowly and compassionately. I feel like my role as a mother was hijacked by social media... it was more enticing, novel, and confirming than plain old mum. Social media is the coddling parent for teens.

The underestimation of the rank influence of hardcore porn on children(!) is the shame of psychology medicine and social work for 25 years.

"Loss is the prerequisite for appreciation..." Spot on.

This is your best episode since Gurwinder in my opinion. As a gay man who grew up in deeply homophobic 1970s Soviet Union, I relate so much to JVZ.

Great to see our erstwhile compatriot on Beyond Gender. Jaco is outstanding.

I think kids have gotten used to not assembling their thoughts and conclusions, and AI will only make it worse.  We're effectively losing right-to-repair on our own thoughts.

And they're losing track of anything about themselves that doesn't show up in a mirror or a video.  Their lives and self-images are not about what they do or know, but about what they are and opine over.  And you can "be" and "opine" and never have to get off the couch, risk failure, or learn anything.  Doing and knowing requires effort.  😕

Fantastic interview. I love listening to Jaco and I think what he’s saying is hugely important for all of us in these times.

My God. This guy speaks brilliantly and is very inspiring. Congratulations.

Such a wonderful analysis - I could listen all day!

Thank you.  For years I have been saying "we've had it too good for so long and no one is grateful."

"Too good parenting" - i remember my mom saying the parents in her group wanted to "do everything" for their children and me thinking "maybe they shouldn't...?" Somehow, as a teen, it struck me it wasn't the best idea, as devoted as it appeared,  but I had no way of knowing if I was onto something or it was just a kneejerk reaction.

This was such a great episode.   Resilience is one of the most important attributes that needs to be developed and encouraged in all of us especially our children as they come of age.  Some kids and people are more innately resilient than others, but somehow society is working against the cultivation of this most valuable human characteristic.  Without it people and society collapse.

This guy is spot on.
His ability to zoom in on the psychology of the individual and then zoom out to the family and society and the historical and evolutionary context - is the best explanation of humans and human societies I've heard so far.

Hello Australian parents. Where do we go to find community like this???

Wow!  Whaat a soulful interview!  Thank you so much!

We have created monsters.

Gosh it’s refreshing to hear a psychoanalytic perspective articulated so passionately. Thanks everyone 🙏🏽❤️
Ha! Imagine this guy in a dialogue with Jordan Peterson (the ol’ behaviourist personality guy).

I love this talk!  So enlightening to hear this explanation of how our times have gone arwy.  Made so much sense

As usual, those people who should listen to this won`t.

The therapist in the middle is just dropping truth bomb after truth bomb, great discussion, thanks!