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You are such a valuable component of my healing. You have no idea…

"Being loved by anyone for any period of time metters immensely"

When my wife of 32 years died suddenly 2 years ago, I just wanted the pain to go away.  I now realize that it never completely goes away, but I am learning to live with it.  It's very counter-intuitive to lean into it and "befriend" it, but I can see that it could be very helpful to learn more about the nature and roots of it instead of trying (in vain) to rid myself of it.   Thank you for shedding some light on this for me.
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For me, I wasn't enjoying the relationship when I was in it but once it was gone I felt really heartbroken. Which has been so confusing for me to process.

I really appreciate how you don't simply tell us to "reframe your thoughts" or "change your perspective" instead of running from our emotions when we experience a setback or loss (I'd heard this so often before). You actually take the time to walk us through how we can do it ourselves and (in my case, at least) posing questions I hadn't thought to ask myself. Hearing your personal anecdotes of how you came to regard heartbreak as a teacher rather than an enemy in your own journey makes me feel like I can do the same. Thank you so much again for helping us through your talents.

When Heidi Priebe uploads a new video it is the equivalent joy of having one of your favourite artists drop an album.

After my last insecurely attached relationship dissolved, I found my mind drifting back to him over and over during the first 6 months after we separated. I was trying to wipe and/or erase the whole relationship and him from my life.  Yet we had some very real, tender loving moments and a lot of fun. It wasn't all bad or all good. So I had a hard time reframing the experience.  I finally told myself one night when I was laying in bed with thoughts drifting again to "us" , "OK, you have 15 minutes to think and feel about that relationship.  I am giving you permission."   That approach also worked after my sister took her own life.  I was trying hard not to be angry with her and squelching down those feelings, when I decided to make a "Blame List" of all the people I knew that I thought had a hand in her depression that caused her to take her life.  That helped immensely.  I left no stone unturned.  Just being with my anger and hurt to the point of itemizing a list was very therapeutic.  So, call it counterintuitive or reverse psychology, it works! Thank you., Heidi.

You are not just opening windows in my mind you are blowing down walls with dynamite analogies and explanations of these teachings. I feel so thankful to have found your channel!

I greatly appreciate how well-organized these talks are. A lot of work went into them, and it shows.

Im at the gym and sobbing because of the thought of carrying the thing i loved most from that one person as a part of myself.

I so often get stuck in waiting for the moment where it'll "all be okay" but I'm reminded by videos like this that that point is never coming. We move from one loss to another, one heartbreak to another, one grief to another, until we die. But we also move from one joy to another, one thrilling surprise to another, one mercy to another. The surrender to that reality is so hard but man it makes life more fulfilling to face it head on rather than to avoid it. Thanks for sharing these thoughtful and wise words.

Grief is love with nowhere to go.

This was incredible.

Two years ago, a relationship which was dear for me went downhill, and eventually terminated. It took me months, but I recollected the fragments and can now think about this experience in a positive light. I learned a lot of important things about me, and even though that person is no longer in my life, I hold no grudge  and would welcome him back if he expressed that wish. The way things ended make this extremely unlikely, and it's ok, because I managed to make peace with the version of that person I had in my mind, and the fact that he was never as I portrayed him.

It took a while, but I feel whole again, and I want to say your videos played a part in this, so thank you.

Brought tears to my eyes and gave me immense hope for the future. Thank you, Heidi.

I've been feeling very depressed lately and had just started looking up things related to this on your channel, when I stumbled upon your latest upload and this one hit me hard.
When I got to 12:35 - 14:02 found myself crying and finally understanding why I've been feeling so empty, realized that I miss deeply my ex partner and allowed myself to feel gratitude and grief.
Cannot express how grateful I am for you explaining so beautifully and helping navigating this process.

Going over a year heartbroken with the betrayal of how my ex girlfriend left, and the lack of accountability she displayed, just wanting to be friends, but never apologising for cheating.
A part of me has been angry and I've needed to find my dignity in acknowledging my boundaries that "I won't be treated badly, and I deserve better". There has been a lot of shame for loving someone who hurt me, and shame in not putting my best foot forward in the relationship, or even getting into it and not listening more to my reservations. However it's a mix of my part and her part. Acknowledging that they brought value is fruitful. It is said to let go with love, and your talk really encompasses this.

I had a heartbreak in 1987 when I was 19 and the girl of my dreams left me. I never got over it well.  Life was no longer something I wanted to go through.  I got high education but there was nothing I really wanted to do with it. I viewed everything was a distraction.  This view came up strongly again a couple of years ago, and since then I've been watching lots of psychology related youtube videos, including yours.  I found a lot of videos helpful, but this one is among the best that I came across. Thank you.

Don't look away. One step at a time. Don't look away.

Heidi to the rescue again! This is exactly what I needed to hear. And now I understand the work that I need to do. But my heart already feels both fuller and lighter. Thank you ❤