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Heal From Family Enmeshment: 6 Steps to Defining YourSELF as an Adult

Jerry Wise

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Ever wonder how you become yourself and lower your reactivity and anxiety with others? In this video, I discuss six steps we practice over and over to lower our anxiety and become more of ourselves over time.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

***DISCLAIMER: THIS VIDEO IS NOT INTENDED TO SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. BE SURE TO CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL TO HELP YOU INTEGRATE AND UTILIZE THESE CONCEPTS.***

20 Comments

@jerrywise Creator 3 years ago (edited) Pinned

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇
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@RenukaSakhare-e3v 2 years ago

Stay calm...
Respond...dont react
Observe.. don't obsorb
Be self focussed,not other focused

@serenapiccinini392 3 years ago

We begin detaching we choose aloneness and we understand FINALLY who we are

@Godlywoman88 5 years ago (edited)

My relatives don't really respect me or my boundaries much so I won't be going home for the holidays or maybe any other time.

@realhumanitymatters 4 years ago

I'm glad you mentioned personality disordered families at the end because they respond in unhealthy ways to boundaries and others belief systems. Love your channel. Thanks for your insight and education!

@Terrard_I_Am 2 years ago

This brother said “borrow some Self.” I almost fell OUT!

@texaslovelylady 1 year ago

I don't believe I can remain in contact with my family and remain sane. 😢

@karenkasteler942 5 years ago

You are great.....it"s so good how you take is through the ABC's and basic principles of family dysfinction...you SPELL IT OUT SO CLEARLY....and being STUCK in the mud of it....we need that clarity.....and your ability to relay the principles without judgment is extraordinary.....Thank you again.....plus you're naturally funny.

@marquesmarchand722 5 years ago

Jerry Wise, you are a genius!!! I get more out of watching your videos than any therapy I have ever taken. My sobriety date 11.26.01. I am 42. I have worked the ALANON, AA, ACA, CODA, SAA, FA programs. I have written 2 books on addiction, recovery and dual diagnosis but what Jerry Wise is talking about blows my mind everyday.

@FJV610 11 months ago

Why is focusing on myself so hard? So many unaddressed problems and events that still hurt

@marcellaacone7085 7 months ago

Define and separate toughts from feelings. It's a thing I've never been thinking about.

@awesomeshizy 5 years ago

ive watched this multiple times..its so life giving..i wish i could snap a finger and change my emotional field especially around my family but ill keep doing the work..jerry your work is invaluable.thank you

@Cyndia1969 5 years ago

I can't thank God enough for you Mr Jerry!❤️🤗🔥🌈🔥

@Α.Τ-ι7ξ 2 months ago

This video is a gold mine of knowledge and understanding of family dynamics. Thank you for sharing it with us!

@Oldie1983 5 years ago (edited)

Thank you so much Jerry. I am listening to this and understand that thanks to you and many other great people out there I have been able to build my Self over the years and learnt to define it better. Your work in particular helped me so much in understanding which people I would like to stay in my life and who I decided to part ways with. In the past it has always been about them. Now it is about what I want, and how I choose to be treated and what I want this life to be. What also helped me a lot, and what you highlight in this video also as point 6, was becoming more of a self in my primary relationships with my parents and family. This is probably the most challenging, but it has influenced all my other relationships immensely. It is still challenging and scary to be myself, 'cause some people may not and do not choose to be around the true me, but I can handle that. 'Cause I am "home" now.

@Sata-q3e 5 years ago

Being a no person from present yes person with lots of calmness is the hardest task

@kareemmohammed5270 4 years ago

very difficult and uncomfortable to process and hear, always have to rewind back and forth and pause the video to absorb, process and have uncomfortable insights in the moment which is key for me internally for real change and progress. much appreciated as always Jerry. this is very difficult work i must admit for myself but like you said i never regretted it.