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How to Stop Absorbing Everyone’s Emotions—Especially Your Family’s

Jerry Wise

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Are you aware of how often you absorb the feelings of others? Systems feelings cause us to react. We often absorb the feelings of others. In this video, I talk about some ways to stop absorbing the feelings of others which cause reactivity and unnecessary upset.

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@jerrywise Creator 3 years ago (edited) Pinned

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@christacoppella52 5 years ago

my mother is a covert narcissist, You have helped me so much .I would personally like to thank you 😊, no contact for 2 years boundaries , put up , I will.o ly meet her in restaurant , due to the victim hood facade ,.....I'm.. empowered and no longer look for mommys approval , by the way im 52

@jeffreyjackson5229 1 year ago

Over empathy will drive you to make unwise decisions.

@TheKingsDaught3r 2 years ago

Jerry Wise is Very Wise lol

@dianelamorticella6053 5 years ago

Michael Beckwith said worrying is like praying in reverse.

@Leafygreen123 5 years ago

A good friend of mine calls worrying “practice bleeding” and I truly think that captures the essence of worrying perfectly!

@dianelamorticella6053 5 years ago

Yes, narcissistic people project. I was told that I was expressing myself too much. Because my narc mother did not like my opinion.

@jeffreyjackson5229 1 year ago

"If we stay calm, it protects us from absorbing the feelings of others." I experienced this firsthand as I stood before a threatening, yelling, profane, and disrespectful police officer. I stood there completely empty. Eventually, he gave up attempting to provoke a response from me and walked away.

@miriamlandau1207 1 year ago

My father once asked me why I have to give my opinion so much and why I think people care about what I have to say.

The irony is I had already been a licensed psychotherapist for many years! He couldn't appreciate that people actually paid me to listen and offer my opinion as needed. So, nobody gets off free when you have a narcissistic parent. They respect no one.

@GiveItAThink-1018 2 years ago

Those of us raised in dysfunctional familes were conditioned to having our empathy weaponized against us because it is an easy get for a manipulator. Empathy is human, and healthy, but it can be hijacked by a manipulator, and when that happens it becomes unbalanced and dysfunctional. We must stay connected to our empathy for ourselves, first and foremost. A lack of empathy is dysfunctional, such as an abuser's lack of empathy for the target of abuse.

@melissad.6722 5 years ago

To my enmeshed mother worry means love " if you're not worried about me you don't care"

@paulreynolds8110 5 years ago

Love the idea of not having to defend myself against others beliefs. That's a huge relief for me, thank you.

@jennifersmithcomedy 4 years ago

If someone said I was a giraffe I would not say hay, I don'
t have a long neck or four legs? I would just laugh....Why do I justify myself? I look more guilty? I am giving this anxiety more attention. It makes so much sense....

@jazdtildawn2 5 years ago

I really don't like my tendency to over empathize. My family uses my empathy for their benefit, because they don't empathize with one another. They through too many hot potatoes my way.

@alainroger-r8b 2 years ago

EMPATHS absorbes a lot!

@sirenachantal471 5 years ago

Wow, I sometimes take notes while watching therapy-based videos. This one, I wrote almost word-for-word. I might need to listen to this video everyday for awhile. This was truly helpful!

@magdalenasteyn-durand4976 5 years ago

I've realised that I over empathise while watching this video.

@susanv1535 3 years ago

I have always had trouble absorbing others feelings, then making myself sick worrying about this or that. I get triggered when people get upset or yell. A light went off, when you mentioned these things, and now I know it is from all the drama, and stress from a child. Duh. I didn’t get that until now. I just thought I was wired to be overly sensitive. It is nice to have someone explain all this, and give some tools to use to stop. Giving us permission to not worry, ( it isn’t really unkind or uncaring) and tools on how not to react is so helpful. Staying on my own side of the tennis net, (I play tennis) is a great visual to help me too. Thank you. ❤️