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Healing from Narcissistic People | The Minimalists Ep. 431

The Minimalists

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The Minimalists speak with Dr. Ramani Durvasula about recognizing narcissists; whether the term “narcissist” is overused; the roles of self-righteousness, complaining, and comparison in narcissism; and how to walk away. Watch all 2 hours of episode 431 on The Minimalists Private Podcast: Patreon: theminimalists

Discussed in this episode:

Intro (00:00)

How do you know someone is a narcissist, and is the term overused? (00:41)

How can I tell a narcissist that they’re the problem? (21:25)

How do you let go of your feelings if your emotions are tied to your ego? (36:32)

How can you mentally let go of an item you’re keeping just for when? (41:03)

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20 Comments

@TheMinimalists Creator 2 years ago Pinned

How many narcissists do you know?

@thomashenryanderson 2 years ago

“There is no such thing as a healthy lack of empathy” thank you! Enough said!

@atmiles88 2 years ago

Some people ARE beyond redemption. The sooner people realize that, the better.

@fkdifikno 2 years ago

Until i found Dr Ramani's channel, i didn't know what was wrong with my father. Watching her channel and learning about narcissim, i learned my father was a narcissist. Everything a narc does, describes my father. If you're lucky enough to never know a narc, you're lucky enough to not know the damage they will do

@andreimj 2 years ago

This woman has went to a couple dosen podcast and she's still is not repeating herself. Absolutely outstanding

@nugget6635 2 years ago

Selfishness is in fact just 1 of the eggs that make the narcissistic cake. Narcissism a whole lot worse than selfish people.

@wiser1254 2 years ago

You are featuring the best expert in this complicated subject. I have been listening to Dr. Ramani for at least five years and she has saved my life from a 37-year marriage to a covert narcissist. I’m waiting for her new book to arrive. My healing will be ongoing for the rest of my life! I’m 78, and I want the rest of my life to be narcissist-free! ❤❤

@joegradojr 2 years ago (edited)

The world desperately needs more awareness of Narcissism. I believe it’s at the root of most of the problems in our society. From the members of our own families all the way up (or shall I say down) to the politicians in positions of power especially in the U.S. It’s very simple, a Narcissist has no empathy and zero remorse. A normal person feels guilty when they do or say something wrong or hurtful. They apologize!

@jennifermizrahi98 2 years ago

I love her. I was married to a narcissist for 21 years; completed five years of therapy. Finally in a healthy relationship with myself AND with my partner. The grass really is greener on the other side. Get out, get some help and move on. Thank you guys for a great conversation.

@RebeccaJadee 2 years ago

Something I learned that is common among people recovering from a narcissist is that they develop habits and sometimes an obsession with overly cleaning or decluttering, which would lead them onto their minimalism journey. The reason for this is because a lot of victims tend to hoard stuff during their time dealing with the narcissist because it's the only aspect of their lives that they feel they have any sense of control over and gain validation from.

@justasimplesomeone 2 years ago

Thank you so much for calling out this generalised view of narcissism - a narcissist is a very particular animal with very particular markings - not just a person who is selfish or vain .

@qoqopepper 2 years ago

When people show you who they are, believe them the FIRST time. Maya Angelou
Words to live by

@Just_Iris25 2 years ago

You don’t heal from narcissistic people. You heal that part of you which makes you vulnerable to engage in relationships with them. Always go to the source of your pain, when you work from that space this enables you to make healthier choices around who you allow to access your ❤.

@purna2081 2 years ago

Dr. Ramani is the relentless trooper saving the world from the narcissist tyrants….she has my eternal gratitude and high regard
Thank you for bringing her on the show…❤

@deeh5048 2 years ago

This interview is so good!
“They try to keep their shame and insecurities at bay and they’re not in touch with that. And if you point it out to them, they will rage at you.”
This is a narcissist in a nutshell.

@rhondabrown3877 2 years ago

Dr Ramani is the best! All her books and videos are spot on

@espressoshot21 2 years ago

Love the woman in the background laughing her butt off 😂

@SandraLemenaite 2 years ago

Dr. Ramani saved my life ❤

@yukio_saito 2 years ago

Actually, I got into huge chaos after I pointed out a narcissist. 😆

@TheZagrean 2 years ago

Dr.Ramani I admire and thank you very much for all your work and what you do for us all. Sending you my best regards from Eastern Europe, România! So happy you guys invited dr.Ramani! Wonderful!