Non è Amore, è Limerenza: uno Psicoterapeuta Spiega la Dipendenza Affettiva
Enrico Gamba
57,687 views
Limerence isn't love: it's an emotional dependence that tricks the brain. Find out what it is, why we fall for it, and 3 ways to overcome it.
Have you ever wondered why you can't stop thinking about someone who, you know, doesn't make you feel good? Why do you constantly check your phone, live in anticipation, and every silence sends you into a crisis? What you call love could be limerence: a specific mental state, studied by psychology, in which the brain treats the other person as a veritable source of dopamine, just like addictions.
In this video, as a psychotherapist, I'll explain what limerence really is, why intermittent relationships create the strongest bond, and what the profound difference is between love and emotional dependence. We'll look at what happens in the brain (dopamine, reward system, intermittent reinforcement), why this pattern often has its roots in childhood attachment, and, most importantly, how to overcome it.
I'll leave you with three concrete practices to start today: the unsent letter, the fast from checkups, and the inventory of the five people. Because behind obsession, almost always, there's an alarm system that's only trying to calm down and thrives in isolation.
I combine psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality to help you understand how it really works and return home, within yourself.
👉 Go to enricogamba.org and join the community: practical materials, guided exercises, courses, and meetings.
📖 My book "If You're Here It's Not by Chance" (Bompiani) is available in all bookstores.
This video is for educational purposes and does not replace a personalized therapeutic program.
20 Comments
Esco fuori da una storia potentissima, con una donna stupenda, di una bellezza disarmante, da lasciare senza fiato. Dovevo però accontentarmi delle briciole, di quegli spazi che creava lei, mediamente 2 volte a settimana con orari stabiliti da lei.
Quando provavo a chiedere spiegazioni, mi veniva rinfacciato di non capire le sue esigenze.
Ne sono uscito distrutto, ma adesso ci sto lavorando per bene, solo ed esclusivamente per capire e salvare me stesso.
permettimi di dirti che sei una Persona di valore inestimabile nella chiarezza, onestà e completezza della tua testimonianza professionale.
Grazie
tratta il focus della questione con determinazione e precisione. Grande.
Non è Amore, è Limerenza: uno Psicoterapeuta Spiega la Dipendenza Affettiva
Enrico Gamba
57,687 views
Limerence isn't love: it's an emotional dependence that tricks the brain. Find out what it is, why we fall for it, and 3 ways to overcome it.
Have you ever wondered why you can't stop thinking about someone who, you know, doesn't make you feel good? Why do you constantly check your phone, live in anticipation, and every silence sends you into a crisis? What you call love could be limerence: a specific mental state, studied by psychology, in which the brain treats the other person as a veritable source of dopamine, just like addictions.
In this video, as a psychotherapist, I'll explain what limerence really is, why intermittent relationships create the strongest bond, and what the profound difference is between love and emotional dependence. We'll look at what happens in the brain (dopamine, reward system, intermittent reinforcement), why this pattern often has its roots in childhood attachment, and, most importantly, how to overcome it.
I'll leave you with three concrete practices to start today: the unsent letter, the fast from checkups, and the inventory of the five people. Because behind obsession, almost always, there's an alarm system that's only trying to calm down and thrives in isolation.
I combine psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality to help you understand how it really works and return home, within yourself.
👉 Go to enricogamba.org and join the community: practical materials, guided exercises, courses, and meetings.
📖 My book "If You're Here It's Not by Chance" (Bompiani) is available in all bookstores.
This video is for educational purposes and does not replace a personalized therapeutic program.