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What Breaks the Limerence Spell

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If you’re stuck obsessing over someone who’s no longer in your life—or maybe never fully was—this video is for you.

Timestamps:
00:00:00 • Intro – What Breaks the Limerence Spell
01:15:29 • Limerence Lives in Fantasy—Not in Facts
03:55:05 • The Uncertainty
06:55:02 • So What Actually Breaks the Spell?
10:20:29 • Start Saying It Out Loud
13:38:21 • Real Love Can’t Grow in Mystery

Limerence is a powerful experience. It feels like longing, fantasy, intensity, even love. But what keeps you stuck… is rarely about the other person. It’s about how the brain responds to uncertainty and how fantasy fills in the blanks.

In this episode, we’ll unpack:
• Why limerence lives in fantasy, not facts
• What actually breaks the obsession loop
• How to start reclaiming your focus and power

This one’s personal. And it’s real.
Let’s talk about how to move forward—one truth at a time.
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20 Comments

@Tipperary757 11 months ago

If they wanted to be with you, they would be with you. The mystery is the lie.

@redwoods7370 6 months ago

Limerence is refined torture. I never ever want to go through that again.

@Kazzildo 1 year ago

The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.

@theguynextdoor4978 1 year ago (edited)

9 out of 10 times, "I'm not ready for a relationship" translates to: I'm not ready for a relationship with YOU. Not today, not tomorrow, and not in the future. In most cases they say it to let people down gently.

@Canute87 2 months ago

what breaks the spell is knowing that there is a name for it. I knew i wasn't in love with this person so I'm glad i wasn't insane. Just some childhood trauma like any regular person.

@TonyEdwards1010 1 year ago

Limerence is like../living for raindrops on your skin, when there are rivers and oceans that you could swim in, if you only could stop looking up at the clouds.

@saharaguyton 10 months ago

I have accepted the truth but it’s hurts so bad and the rumination won’t stop.

@Sim_JFD 5 months ago

Limerence sucks BADLY. Got stuck in it for 2 years about a person who wasn't even compatible with me, I just missed the potential. Eventually grounded myself and realised that they were never really interested in anything but my attention, which is a more guarded resource these days. Honesty with oneself wasn't pleasant, but it was less painful than limerence itself.

@TheSuperSpecialOne 1 year ago

What broke my 1 year limerence was confrontational truth. I finally got the other person to confirm they were NOT interested in me, and that's what pulled me out of the limerence loop faster than any other technique.

@rimabaker 11 months ago (edited)

Imagine being limerent on a nars/sadist who feeds on attention and deliberately attempts to intensify your obsession and hope for them

@anischuyler371 1 year ago

The scientific approach demystifies everything. Not being able to function on a daily basis and basically feeling like you're on drugs and have to have the next hit you have to justify that next hit, etc. it's like being an alcoholic. We have to dry out and sober up.

@andreaserisky9818 1 year ago

Love this. I wish I'd known what limerence was before it basically wrecked my life.

@zealiabella 1 year ago

“They had a communication skills of a teenage monkey “ had me subscribed to you.🤣
I’m still coming out of this and it is like a drug! All the best to you.💐💛

@scheherazadejamila 1 year ago

I sure would love to be in that place where I'm looking back and wondering how this attachment ever had so much power over me.

@tamlynn786 10 months ago

“Maybe she dropped her phone in a lake and hasn’t had money to buy another one. Poor thing.” 😂😂😂‼️

@marypatriciadomhan3853 1 year ago (edited)

My limerance experience ended with a very strange outcome. When I realized nothing was gonna happen after seven months, I pulled my energy back. Stopped looking at them, stopped flirting with them. This person actually became angry and started playing the same games that began the whole freaking Limerence trick anyway i.e. thirst testing. When they realized it wouldn’t work anymore, I got the evil eye. I knew then and there that I had dodged a bullet.

@quinnbill 1 year ago (edited)

"when the other person is inconsistent, or mysterious, or unavailable." So true. I was hooked on someone who was also interested, but she did this mystery dance, popping in sporadically. It was maddening. Over (a long) time it became clear that she's quite human, with baggage just like me.