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This is what I have learned to do concerning dealing with narcissistic personality disorder.
1. Know that they will not accept any logical argument that they are wrong.
2. They are experts at twisting reality to fit their view and make you doubt yourself. Be aware it is like an illness that you cannot fix or cure.
3. Be yourself and never react or get upset--they love it, they thrive on it, they feed on control and conflict.
4. Remain calm no matter what. Concentrate on changing your emotion from anger to pity. Remind yourself that they are sick and deluded-- see them the same way as you would see someone with a major physical illness.
5. Set calm rock solid boundaries. Show them that you are supremely confident in your conviction. Do not enter into debate it will just upset you and you will get nowhere. Kill debate with "Lets agree to disagree" showing them you are unflappable, and cannot be manipulated.
6. Winning is retaining your peace of mind and sense of self. It is not changing the narcissist's behaviour beliefs or actions in any way, or getting revenge. You cannot fight darkness with darkness. You cannot make them suffer but know that they suffer continually, they seldom have peace of mind. It is exhausting and unfulfilling making so many external things essential to their happiness. It is un-sustainable.
7. If possible, cut them out of your life.

I grew up in a narcissistic family. My life was never mine until i disowned my entire family. Narcissists are literally the most repetitive people in terms of their behaviors. I can smell a narcissist from another galaxy

1:59:08 Very powerful. My ex husband used to get up while I was mid sentence and start rinsing the dishes, turning his back to me. He was home for dinner one night a week and didn’t even want to hear a few sentences. I knew it was time to leave. I’d rather be alone than be lonely in a relationship.

Spent years getting gaslighted at work until I tried the latency protocols from Do Not Read Nine by Ulric Nolven. When someone tries to rewrite what happened, you don't argue back. You just hold dead air. Watching a gaslighter realize they can't break your frame is unsettling.

“Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience”. I think the same goes for narcissists

Writing a summary of this just in case you don't have 3 hours
• Authenticity and presence are key to influence.
• Reduce distractions to improve focus.
• Handle sadness and conflict constructively.
• Being right is less important than resolution.
• Match the other person's rhythm to gain influence.
• Confident communicators control their emotional responses.
• Big emotional reactions signal insecurity, not truth.
• Controlled delivery enhances message credibility.
• Slowing down and lowering volume draws people in.
• Project confidence by acting like you belong.
• Acting calm after setbacks signals confidence.
• Authentic people aren't trying to prove anything.
• Gaslighting alters your reality, not just tells lies.
• Limit interaction with gaslighters to protect yourself.
• Narcissists seek praise or provocation for control.
• Don't chase their words; stay grounded.
• Unbotheredness stems from self-awareness, not apathy.
• Reactions determine how others interpret events.
• Laughing at insults disarms bullies.
• Emotions and hormones impact communication readiness.
• Authenticity is relatable; perfection isn't.
• Validate feelings, even if you disagree.
• Stand up for yourself to avoid future powerlessness.
• Prioritize your needs; don't concede to future failures.
• Validate feelings without compromising your truth.
• Defend hobbies and personal time; it's essential.
• Strength of will and mind is attractive.
• Define your priority to protect your relationships.
• Be real, not just "nice," to build genuine connection.
• People-pleasing conflates approval with self-worth.
• Arguments can reveal deeper understanding.
• Childhood trauma shapes communication patterns.
• Generational cycles repeat unless consciously broken.
• People judge others based on how they treat others.
• Giving time is the most valuable gift you can offer.
• Humility means recognizing your own flaws.
• Small, genuine interactions are most memorable.
• Authenticity builds trust over time.
• Reduce distractions to increase presence.
• Frequent talking diminishes message impact.
• Confidence comes from acknowledging what you don't know.
• Leaders deliver both good and bad news calmly.
• Validate others' feelings during grief.
• Don't offer help if you can't follow through.
• Validate your partner's feelings first.
• Asking for a "reset" is a powerful tool.
• Slice big issues into smaller, manageable parts.
• A relationship isn't 50/50; carry each other's load.
• Conflict can deepen relationships and foster growth.
• Repairing conflict is more important than avoiding it.
• The book addresses relatable, real-life problems.
• Authenticity resonates with readers.
• Conversation cards foster deep connections.
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• Mentors provide anchors in life.

Just in time for everyone who is going to be having Christmas with relatives.

2 men having conversations from their hearts. Just beautiful. Invisible kingdom level

Steven, I realized today that I listen to many of your episodes not because of the guest, but because of you. Your questions open doors people don’t usually walk through, and I genuinely learn by watching that happen. Your growth as an interviewer is a big part of why this podcast works.

The idea that silence has a cost hit me harder than I expected. I’ve always treated staying quiet as the safe, zero-cost option to keep the peace (especially with my family). Realizing that the bill always comes due is very useful to know. Thank you for bringing this courtroom wisdom into our daily lives, Steven.

"let me know if". that made me cry. my husband recently died and i so many people said that to me, while all i longed that people just showed me their care by doing something. i longed for my sister to just come and be with me. but she kept discussing when was the best day for me or her and so she never came. this is so true. also when someone is depressed. hold them . give them a hug. don't wait till they ask for one. they can't. but they need one.

The way that Steve always keep stuff real is just awesome, he is just himself

I am so impressed with this young man. And i am an old lady. Authenticity is so important. I hope he realizes soon how magnificent his light is and for that he deserves the great gift of respect.

The absolute perfect response to someone who is grieving, is drive to the store, purchase an item, flowers, favorite snack, plant, flower and deliver it with a card that says I love you or Im here for you. After a few days, if you can visit the person and literally just do their dishes, take out the trash, tidy up the place, change their bed sheets, heck scrub the bathroom down.

"Perfection is not relatable, struggle is"

That is one of the greatest quotes I've ever heard... 💯  ❤️  🏆

The way he explained not being offended by someone insulting you or mis characterizing you as a person was so on point!  You dont get ofended because you are confident in who you are and dont need outside validation!

On grief: In the midst of the darkest time of my life all I heard was "let me know if you need anything" and I never asked for a thing. I was so devastated that I couldn't actually formulate what I needed. I was mentally and emotionally paralyzed for years.

Jefferson Fisher's emotional maturity and intelligence is gold.

I am 40yrs old and neurodivergent. For my entire life, any time I do social events, I arrive at least 30min early to scope the place.
I do exactly what he said, walk around, feel things, make it my home. It's the only trick that helps my insane anxiety!