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6:24 Ppl all like "gender is a social construct 🤪" until someone actually breaks out of the boundaries defined by said social construct. Then it's "gone too far"

Ik not all the guys here are white but generally does any other trans guy that’s not white feel like all the trans mascs they see on TikTok/media are just skinny white fluffy haired dudes, more melanin please broo 😭😭

Hah, my mother cried and asked why I wouldn’t just be feminine when I said I wanted short hair, I wanted to become more fit and masculine, and I’m not even trans. Now that I’m showing interest in losing weight she says we “have something to do together.” I said I want to build muscle after I lose some weight, she goes “Well, you still have a ways to go. Don’t do that. Maybe ever.” I can’t even imagine how many people go through ten times worse, best wishes to you all, you’re all beautiful no matter what anyone says! 😭

Who else is Trans masc Agender? For me it's kinda in a "i don't really have a gender, but i'd MUCH rather be seen as a man by strangers" way

my weird chosen name story is that i had a dream that me and my ex (currentpartner at the time) were NOT long distance and i was going over to his (now her) house and their stepmum was lkke "who is this? this isnt a girl right" and we panicked and my ex said "oh uhh this is devin" as an attempt to use a masc version of my birthname. i literally remember giving them a look like "huh-??" but their stepmum was like "oh oke u boys have fun" and evem tho it was a dream and not at all real it stuck with me like "huh... hmm... what if i changed my name to that?" and its beem my chosen name ever since lol

So I’m a trans guy (in the closet because I don’t feel safe coming out to my fam yet) but I’ve started to see a pattern where we all like to wear button up shirts and leave the first button open please tell me I’m not the only one

11:23 THIS BRO IM A BLACK TRANS BOY AND I FEEL LIKE WE DONT EVER GET REP IN MEDIA AND IT MAKES ME SO SAD :(

dude I remember there was this ski instructor that called me "sir" when I was like 11 years old and when someone corrected him he was like "oh...what? you should wear brighter colors if you're a girl, you're wearing too much blue"
and it really bothered me, but not the "sir" part just the part where he was telling me what to wear and that I couldn't wear my favorite color 💀💀 and no one seemed to understand what I was actually upset about

5:35 He actually passes so well considering he has long hair, as a trans guy ik it can be difficult to do that :]

3:49 he passes so well

2:30 my "the haircut" was a karen haircut
Cause I realized I was trans around the same time I became emo but mom absolutely refused to let me cut my own hair or take me to an alternative hairstylist so when I showed the lady an emo hairstyle she just gave me a karen haircut
I was devastated
Started cutting my hair myself behind my mom's back when I was at my dads place a few years later

6:55 let them hang wat 😭✌️

can somebody explain the difference between transmasc and transman to me? Love the video btw oh and please add more poc tiktoks in these type of vids

1:50 This is so relatable to me. 💀 I'm convinced that men actually want to date men because they better understand each other but just CAN'T be together because of the preferences they were born with. It's hilarious how both the men I dated were fruity but did it "as a joke" 😭😂

It’s always “do I want to be him or be with him?” But, why not both? 😔

I'm going to try and clean my room today cuz being in it doesn't feel nice, if you feel the same way maybe put on some music and clean a corner or smth. It doesn't have to be a lot, just try and make your room feel a little better with me :D

2:45 no crying… ts is so real. Me and my boyfriend are t4t mlm. He’s a femboy and i loveeee his style so much he’s so cool!! and i’m like a wannabe emo divorced dad or something like that and we live in a red state.. Im always called a butch lesbian. 😔✌️

1:09  100% AGREED!! TRANSMEN ARE HOTTT
(In a sense I find them attractive. I’m aroace)

watching this is genuinely so cathartic, like other people understand how i feel :))