How to Win Back a Leaning Out Spouse (Live Q&A with Therapist)
Monika Hoyt
2,209 views
Welcome back to my weekly live Q&A, where I answer your real relationship and marriage questions in real time.
In this episode, we cover a wide range of topics: how to win back a spouse who's leaning out, what it means when you're attracted to someone outside your marriage, how to get clarity from a partner who keeps stalling on "the talk," what to do when your spouse says they miss you after months of silence, and how to support (or not over-support) a partner who's working through shame and guilt after an affair.
We also dig into one of the biggest relationship killers: resentment. I talk about why it forms, why it takes time to melt even after real change has happened, and why detaching from the outcome is often what finally lets a leaning-out partner feel safe enough to come back.
If you're going through separation, considering reconciliation, or trying to figure out whether your relationship still has a chance, this episode is full of practical, compassionate guidance you can start using today.
0:00 Welcome and how to join the private Facebook group
2:30 Is it normal to be attracted to someone else while married?
6:09 How to get clarity when your partner won't commit to "the talk"
7:41 Coping with uncertainty while you wait for an answer
15:47 She said she misses me after 6 months of emotional detachment
19:49 I gave my wife the divorce and now she wants to work it out
22:26 My wife announced a new relationship on social media
24:36 Supporting a husband recovering from an emotional affair
31:25 How to talk to a partner who feels shame and guilt without making it worse
36:13 How do you melt resentment when a partner refuses to look inward?
42:13 We're separated but she only stayed at her new apartment once
44:26 How to initiate reconciliation after 11 months apart
47:36 He texted an apology after saying he wanted a divorce
53:31 Should I try again with someone who won't take accountability?
58:25 Why taking 100% accountability for your part changes everything
Want personalized support for your marriage? Book a free call with my team: https://www.monikahoyt.com/talk
Book a paid deep-dive consult with Monika: https://www.monikahoyt.com/session
Ask your questions privately in my Facebook group: facebook.com/healthyauthenticmarriages
Email us anytime: info@couplescure.com
I'm here live every Tuesday at 4pm Central in my private Facebook group, and every Thursday at 12pm Central here on YouTube and my public Facebook page. Come with your questions.
#MarriageCoach #SaveYourMarriage #Reconciliation #MarriageAdvice #TheCouplesCure
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"I understand you are frustrated but it just feels like a lot of pressure from you, I know we need to talk about everything but I really cannot handle so much pressure, I know it’s not your intention and I know you want to try to sort things out but it just feels like a lot, before you even give me chance you start stressing.
I hope you are ok and enjoying time off? How’s your sister and family ? How have you been spending your time ?"
How to Win Back a Leaning Out Spouse (Live Q&A with Therapist)
Monika Hoyt
2,209 views
Welcome back to my weekly live Q&A, where I answer your real relationship and marriage questions in real time.
In this episode, we cover a wide range of topics: how to win back a spouse who's leaning out, what it means when you're attracted to someone outside your marriage, how to get clarity from a partner who keeps stalling on "the talk," what to do when your spouse says they miss you after months of silence, and how to support (or not over-support) a partner who's working through shame and guilt after an affair.
We also dig into one of the biggest relationship killers: resentment. I talk about why it forms, why it takes time to melt even after real change has happened, and why detaching from the outcome is often what finally lets a leaning-out partner feel safe enough to come back.
If you're going through separation, considering reconciliation, or trying to figure out whether your relationship still has a chance, this episode is full of practical, compassionate guidance you can start using today.
0:00 Welcome and how to join the private Facebook group
2:30 Is it normal to be attracted to someone else while married?
6:09 How to get clarity when your partner won't commit to "the talk"
7:41 Coping with uncertainty while you wait for an answer
15:47 She said she misses me after 6 months of emotional detachment
19:49 I gave my wife the divorce and now she wants to work it out
22:26 My wife announced a new relationship on social media
24:36 Supporting a husband recovering from an emotional affair
31:25 How to talk to a partner who feels shame and guilt without making it worse
36:13 How do you melt resentment when a partner refuses to look inward?
42:13 We're separated but she only stayed at her new apartment once
44:26 How to initiate reconciliation after 11 months apart
47:36 He texted an apology after saying he wanted a divorce
53:31 Should I try again with someone who won't take accountability?
58:25 Why taking 100% accountability for your part changes everything
Want personalized support for your marriage? Book a free call with my team: https://www.monikahoyt.com/talk
Book a paid deep-dive consult with Monika: https://www.monikahoyt.com/session
Ask your questions privately in my Facebook group: facebook.com/healthyauthenticmarriages
Email us anytime: info@couplescure.com
I'm here live every Tuesday at 4pm Central in my private Facebook group, and every Thursday at 12pm Central here on YouTube and my public Facebook page. Come with your questions.
#MarriageCoach #SaveYourMarriage #Reconciliation #MarriageAdvice #TheCouplesCure