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Why You’re Scared They Won’t Love The Real You | Dead Poets Society

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Why are we so afraid that the people we love won't accept who we truly are?

Welcome to Story Psychology—where we pause throughout stories to unpack the characters, relationships, choices, hidden details, symbolism, and themes that have the audacity to feel so personal.

Today we're unpacking Dead Poets Society (1989)—exploring why becoming yourself can feel terrifying when the people around you expect something different, why seeking approval can make us lose sight of who we are, and why this story continues to hurt because so many of us know what it's like to wonder if the real version of ourselves will ever be enough.

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Discussion Question:
Have you ever felt afraid that being your true self would disappoint the people you love?

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@AtKimsPlace Creator 1 year ago Pinned

Hey everyone! 💛 Just a heads-up — I had to do some editing with blurs and audio tweaks to avoid copyright, so thanks for sticking with me! I hope you’re enjoying it. 🙏

💬 Question for you: Which character from Dead Poets Society stayed with you the most, and why? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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@stevenniehaus8635 1 year ago

This movie was meant for your review. Your high perception, your sharp intellect, your empathy. This movie is the lifeblood for people like you

@charlier711 1 year ago

Well done Kim. In 1989 when this movie came out every graduate had "Carpe Diem" on their caps. Robin has said in interviews that this was one of his favorite roles because of the message, and it's definitely my favorite. Some of the cast, including Ethan Hawke, have said in interviews that they could see some of Robin's mental struggles even back then. What a verse he contributed. RIP Captain my Captain.

@lesgrice4419 1 year ago (edited)

I was in Paris when I heard Robin had passed, back home I bought a DVD of Dead Poets having seen it once. After the movie there were extras one of which spoke to many actors in it asking what effect that movie had had on their lives. Kurtwood Smith said he's sometimes asked why he acts, its a precarious profession, he said re Dead Poets, he went to the opening, with him was one of his male friends who happened to have a relationship with his son as he had with Neil. The lights went down, the movie played, the lights went up and his friend was sobbing, he'd recognised his own relationship with his son in the movie. Smith said that from that moment on he changed how he treated his son, so this acting thing can and does change lives.

@mirr1984 1 year ago

People need to see this film more than ever in this day and age.

@kengibson3677 1 year ago

The characters from Dead Poets Society stayed with me the most; was Mr. Keating and Todd, the shy guy turned poet. Todd shows the most growth throughout the film. In large part because of Mr. Keating's inspirational teaching methods. 👍

@DanknDerpyGamer 11 months ago

When Neil is shouting "I got the part! I'm gonna play Puck!" the one kid shouting "Puck you!" is hilarious. 😂😂

@darrylmitchell7619 1 year ago

Knew you’d love this one! To have that level of impact and inspiration on those young lives, is more important than money or prestige.

@imsnowedn 10 months ago

Im a poor bloke. I grew up in a large catholic family. We had no money, and I didn't know it. But my Uncle was a track champion at Cornell University(he was an Irish kid from NYC who was Ivy League Champion at 400 and 800m) and he knew the Deans and Athletic Directors at the school. As a Track guy and good student, I soon found myself a Freshman at Cornell. Surrounded by Private School grads, I suddenly discovered I was actually a poor boy that didn't belong. I made myself belong. And after completing Biology, Chemistry, Advanced Algebra and several other requirements, I took a few English classes with authors and renowned English professors. It was the greatest experience to study poets and playwrights. Robin made the importance of discovering life so tangible in this movie. It's a masterpiece. Thanks for exploring this subject and film. And yes death is a necessary part of the richness of life. Thanks again.

@pyrofan80 1 year ago

O Captain! My Captain!

@nostrildamit 1 year ago

For me it was Todd. Because I could relate to him as I was like that when in school as well. I love how smart and funny you are. I look forward to all of your reactions.

@zeezee9670 5 months ago (edited)

@44:23 He knew that Todd was struggling with himself & to express himself.
Yes. Keating also knew, being a former student at Welton, that Jeffrey Anderson, Todd's elder brother was a famous star student at Welton, & that both the parents and the school always compared Todd unfavorably to his elder brother (we even saw/heard the principle Nolan telling Todd, in front of his parents, that he has big shoes to fill in the opening minutes of the movie). Todd was always reminded that whatever he does it can't shine against the big shadow of his older brother.

@kainkornegay927 10 months ago

Best reactor on the platform. You have insight, a pool of wisdom, and empathy. I cannot wait to watch along with you on your journey. Fare thee well for now. O Captain! My Captain!

@tomm2907 1 year ago

Outstanding reaction Kim. I'm looking forward to the deep dive on Patreon. Neil definitely impacted me the most. Its a shame that his parents, especially his father, that couldn't see the joy his son had. His love for the school and the friendships he made. Making the new guy Todd feel comfortable and wanting him to join the gang. I don't think he meant to make his parents sad by taking his pwn life. He obviously felt trapped and wanted more than a predetermined roadmap for his future. Robin Williams was outstanding as usual and his character of Mr. Keeting not only changed the way his students thought, but also some of the staff.

@DrC4Prez 10 months ago

The lesson Keating gives on discerning between moments that call for daring and moments that call for caution to me is emblematic of the film's central conflict. While Charlie/Nuwanda makes the mistake of choosing daring in a moment that calls for caution, he unintentionally paints a target on Keating's back, while Neil—who was also a leader among the Dead Poets—chose caution in moments that called for daring by refusing to stand up to his father which eventually led to the final nail in the coffin for Keating's termination. They are both cautionary tales of what happens when you don't commit to both freedom of thought and the responsibility therein.

@johnnybates7580 7 months ago

Wow. You're dissection' of this movie is among the best movie reviews I've seen. I was a boy before I watched this movie. I was a man after it was over. This movie actually impacted the way I raised my kids. Thank you for a review fitting for the story. You did it justice! Thank you.

@waywardwanderer8888 1 year ago

Robin Williams knocked it out of the park in this role. Kurtwood Smith (Neil's father) also has to be mentioned because he spun me into a level of seething hatred I've seldom reached, and that's the sign of a truly fantastic actor. I'd rather spend an afternoon with Joseph Stalin than a minute with his character. Many people grew up with parents like those depicted and we've dealt with it in our own ways. My father will die old and alone because of his actions and I literally don't care about it. He resembled a lot of what Kurtwood's character depicted in this role. It's awesome that a lot of people had great childhood upbringings. That wasn't the case for me. This also brings about the conversation regarding teachers and those who actually influence us. I'm 51 years old and how many teachers did I have that I even remember, let alone believe positively influenced me? Three. Mr. Uhl, Mr. Platt, and Mr. Goodnight. Three, out of however many teachers I've had in my life. The rest were so unremarkable as to have never made an impression at all. If ever there were a school filled with the likes of teachers like Mr. Keating, it'd be the greatest gift to the students the country has ever seen. I doubt such a thing could ever happen though. Kim, thank you for reacting to this film. Your in-depth analysis of films is a breath of fresh air. Take care and have a great day.

@neek1276 1 year ago

I SAW THIS MOVIE IN HIGH SCHOOL IN THE MOVIE THEATRE YEARS AGO AND MADE ALL MY FRIENDS GO BACK AND SEE IT WITH ME AGAIN. I STILL QUOUTE IT TO THIS DAY. GLAD YOU SAW IT AND HOPE IT SPOKE TO YOU :)