Relationship Expert: Should Men And Women Be 'Friends"?
Begin Again with Davina McCall
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Why Do Relationships Really Fall Apart?
In this episode of Begin Again, couples therapist and Netflix’s Blue Therapy relationship expert Karen Doherty opens up about what really causes couples to drift apart, lose intimacy, and stop feeling connected. With over 25 years of experience working with couples, Karen explains why so many relationships do not end because of one dramatic event, but because of a slow, quiet disconnect that grows over time.
Karen explores the hidden patterns that can damage a relationship: unresolved triggers, contempt, poor timing, emotional shutdown, infidelity, loss of trust, and the everyday resentments that slowly wear away at love. She explains why couples often fight about the surface issue, like the dishwasher, sex, money, or tone of voice, when the real problem is usually feeling unseen, rejected, criticised, or misunderstood.
This conversation also dives deep into intimacy, and why it is about far more than sex. Karen breaks down the different forms of intimacy, from emotional and physical closeness to humour, curiosity, micro-connections, and the small daily gestures that help couples feel chosen again. She also shares why scheduled intimacy, honest conversations, and understanding each other’s triggers can be powerful tools for rebuilding connection.
At its core, this is a conversation about love, repair, and what it really takes to keep a relationship alive. Whether you are in crisis, quietly drifting, rebuilding trust, or simply trying to understand your partner better, Karen offers a hopeful and practical reminder: relationships need care, attention, and intention but there is almost always a way back to connection.
Sometimes, the choice to begin again is the clearest sign that love is still there.
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00:00 Intro
00:34 Karen's Background: 25 years of couples Therapy
01:38 The biggest problem facing couples
04:27 Working with couples and Beginning the process
06:48 Is hope for couples in crisis? Couples who come to therapy to break up
08:27 "independence vs autonomy"
11:47 4 essential components of love
13:12 Contempt in relationships, and managing couples who are breaking up
17:21 the different forms of intimacy, and the importance of "micro-connections"
21:47 5 love languages and managing each other's differences
24:20 The external pressures Facing Your relationship
26:35 Saily Ad
27:32 Shopify Ad
28:33 Different types of triggers in relationships
34:01 Why You Should Be scheudulling intimacy
36:29 Managing differing sex drives, and negotiating "couple deals"
39:52 Understanding each other's triggers
44:39 Karen's rules for arguments
46:50 infidelity and can male/female friendships work
52:55 Karen answers your questions!
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It seems to me that there tends to always be one who isn't into or invested in the relationship.
Relationship Expert: Should Men And Women Be 'Friends"?
Begin Again with Davina McCall
45,227 views
Why Do Relationships Really Fall Apart?
In this episode of Begin Again, couples therapist and Netflix’s Blue Therapy relationship expert Karen Doherty opens up about what really causes couples to drift apart, lose intimacy, and stop feeling connected. With over 25 years of experience working with couples, Karen explains why so many relationships do not end because of one dramatic event, but because of a slow, quiet disconnect that grows over time.
Karen explores the hidden patterns that can damage a relationship: unresolved triggers, contempt, poor timing, emotional shutdown, infidelity, loss of trust, and the everyday resentments that slowly wear away at love. She explains why couples often fight about the surface issue, like the dishwasher, sex, money, or tone of voice, when the real problem is usually feeling unseen, rejected, criticised, or misunderstood.
This conversation also dives deep into intimacy, and why it is about far more than sex. Karen breaks down the different forms of intimacy, from emotional and physical closeness to humour, curiosity, micro-connections, and the small daily gestures that help couples feel chosen again. She also shares why scheduled intimacy, honest conversations, and understanding each other’s triggers can be powerful tools for rebuilding connection.
At its core, this is a conversation about love, repair, and what it really takes to keep a relationship alive. Whether you are in crisis, quietly drifting, rebuilding trust, or simply trying to understand your partner better, Karen offers a hopeful and practical reminder: relationships need care, attention, and intention but there is almost always a way back to connection.
Sometimes, the choice to begin again is the clearest sign that love is still there.
🌟 Like, comment, and subscribe for more honest conversations about identity, growth, and beginning again. Tap the bell to stay connected with new episodes of Begin Again.
Follow us here:
📸 www.instagram.com/beginagain
🎥 TikTok: beginagainpod
Follow Karen: Instagram: karendohertycoaching
✨Sign up for the Begin Again newsletter for all your behind the scenes access, recommendations and much much more at: https://linkly.link/2g2xm
00:00 Intro
00:34 Karen's Background: 25 years of couples Therapy
01:38 The biggest problem facing couples
04:27 Working with couples and Beginning the process
06:48 Is hope for couples in crisis? Couples who come to therapy to break up
08:27 "independence vs autonomy"
11:47 4 essential components of love
13:12 Contempt in relationships, and managing couples who are breaking up
17:21 the different forms of intimacy, and the importance of "micro-connections"
21:47 5 love languages and managing each other's differences
24:20 The external pressures Facing Your relationship
26:35 Saily Ad
27:32 Shopify Ad
28:33 Different types of triggers in relationships
34:01 Why You Should Be scheudulling intimacy
36:29 Managing differing sex drives, and negotiating "couple deals"
39:52 Understanding each other's triggers
44:39 Karen's rules for arguments
46:50 infidelity and can male/female friendships work
52:55 Karen answers your questions!
Sponsored by:
Saily - Download from the app store and use code DAVINA at the checkout for 15% off
Shopify - Shopify.co.uk for £1 a month trial
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