I released a video update about Your Reality feature film: https://youtu.be/tf1x0olu4uI

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If you're struggling to break free from a narcissist, here is a guided daily meditation to help regain your self-belief: https://youtu.be/_AzQzMtusEA 💪

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For everyone who’s been asking me about the Official “Your Reality” Soundtrack Song - the artist asked me to share this link with you: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/echowantshervoiceback/your-reality-original-motion-picture-soundtrack-feat-blu-mo-special-version

On another note - here's a video that I hope some of you might find helpful: https://youtu.be/JIylmyN4sAc
It's about how to learn to love ourselves ❤, because when we are in an abusive relationship (no matter if it's romantic, family, or platonic) the narcissist often convinces us that we're worthless and no one will ever love us. And if we end up falling into their trap, it takes considerable effort and a few useful techniques to change our mindset.

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Here are some useful resources if you feel like the film hit a nerve:
https://www.refuge.org.uk/ - domestic abuse charity
https://lovefraud.com/ - great resources and a forum to get advice from people in similar situation
https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/ - incredibly insightful blog posts on narcissists and gaslighting
"When love is a lie" by Zari Ballard (such a powerful book)

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Red flag number one is the confusion. A good relationship doesn't include confusion. Someone who cares about you won't ever play games with your head and heart like that.

I love how in the beginning of the film, author included how her own mother calls her selfish. It all starts in the childhood with narcissistic parents

Narcissism should be discussed in classes starting in middle school. It will save a lot of lives- literally.

A best friend that takes the word of the boyfriend isn't a friend.

Definitely a red flag when they constantly make you believe your memory isn’t good. They want to make you feel like you’re crazy.

I told my daughter, it starts with backhand compliments. If they give you a compliment and back it up with an insult, RUN.

Sometimes being In a bad relationship can make you feel even lonlier than when you're single

So spot on! Even the part where she doesn't remember all of the abuse as it happened because trauma causes the brain to be unable to remember things properly.

Dr. Ramani said the minute you feel like you have to start recording and saving messages like you're building a case....you're in trouble! And that is so true!!!

Going to someone’s house for a first date is insane

Moral of the story:little things really matters and one should never ignore little signs.

The muted colors, her moving the wine glass on the coaster, he’s always kind of just… behind her, making belittling comments, or completely ignoring her. He literally haunts her.

It's really telling that I recognized EVERYTHING he was doing:
1)  Silent Treatment
2)  Pre-planned smear campaign
3)  Projection
4)  Moving too fast
5)  Waiting for a milestone in their relationship(moving in, marriage, pregnancy) to show his true colors.
6)  Ignoring her boundaries
7) Negging
8) Devaluing
9) Gaslighting

EDIT: take a screenshot of how she looked in the beginning and then at the end. I always tell people in relationships to examine themselves in the mirror: if you look worse than you did before you met them then you’re not being treated properly!

Edit: Thank you for the likes, I’m sorry that you all going through this and I’m glad you’re recognizing the signs. I’m proud of all of you! 💕💕

It needs to be taught at school because some children never see a normal functional relationship in their lives , so there is no comparison

The constant little jabs, the backhanded compliments, the niceness followed by coldness. Oh so familiar.

Narcissists first make you doubt for yourself and then cut you out from your friends and family. Of course to the outside world they seem sweet angels.

The fact that my gut just immediately reacted when he mentioned that she's late on the first date, made me a little happy to have developed  a good intuition by now.

People. Dont be afraid to be alone!! This is a super power. When people see that you don't depend on their companionship,  its less bullshit to deal with. This video is gaslighting but its also  lack of self love.

His backhanded comment about the risotto being cold. I would’ve left. I’m so sorry for everyone who has gone through similar situations. Sending love to you all