Please don’t come for these girls about their own experiences & opinions. They never said they were experts, they are just having a CONVERSATION. You don’t need to be an expert to have a conversation or opinion about something. They don’t need to have been with 50 men to understand them. If you are older with more experience comment and add to the conversation, we can learn from you too 🌷💖

Girl when she said once you get in a healthy relationship it may seem boring I gagged so hard cause that’s me right now 😩😂🤣
I’m 33 & my first ever healthy relationship is with my now husband and sometimes I be like you sure you don’t wanna just argue about something , add some razzle dazzle 😭 cause everyone around us be going thru drama lol but ultimately I love it that we don’t & couldn’t ask for better. He brings me so much peace and that’s all I truly want.

Gworlllll. The first couple of minutes of this video hit me lol. I was dating a guy for about a year, mind you HE WANTED ME. I gave him a fair chance. My gut kept telling me he was cheating so I stopped having sex with him. I started a new job and actually met the girl he was cheating on me with, he also accused me of giving him something but we didn’t sleep together for months. I haven’t spoke to him for almost 4 years and he recently texted me confessing his love, he thinks about me every day, saying he fucked up, he was just being a nigga (he was 33), telling me I would always be bae no matter what I say or do… but when you had me, you didn’t treat me well. I’ve been single since, I don’t date and I’ve been celibate. I’m not scared to date but I just don’t have the interest to pursue a relationship atm.

Coming to the front. I’m 22. Had a baby at 21. Couldn’t keep working due to bad pregnancy. He Thought that staying home with my son was best decision, I thought it wasn’t too bad also.
I didn’t really come from a lot. So I was naive at the time. Cooked clean still wasn’t enough. Took care of the baby still found something I wasn’t doing.But it literally got to a point where we argue so much and sometimes I feel like I just wanna up and leave, but I couldnt cause I’ was stuck. Plus he wasn’t really giving anything even when he did have. And honestly, I was scared of having somebody else watch my son because he was so young. Honestly, I didn’t do it because I wanted to I did it out of fear of not trusting any daycare to watch over him. It was truly a sacrifice for me, to my own life and career. I don’t know if that’s a different circumstance but coming from me never ever do this ladies. I did try my hardest to get a stay at home job, that didn’t work out no matter how many applications I put in. Wanted to start a business(do hair)especially before I even got pregnant. I wanted to do hair even at home with baby being home based but that couldn’t  due to other things. I do feel like I did make a lot of excuses as to why I couldn’t work but now that my baby just turned 1 , I’m getting up and never doing this again lol. Always have your own .. married or not. Never just stay at home and have a man take care of you. That’s too much of a risk, no matter how much money he has. Saria had a lot of good points in this episode. There are other things that let me know that I will never do this again and that’s unfortunate but the good part about it is that life goes on. I can still turn my life around and not gonna let that put me down cause that was just one year out of my life. I plan to have no more kids and focus on the goals that I’ve always had before pregnancy. You are just as important as a man therefore your life doesnt need to STOP to please a man. Baby or no baby. Take it from me don’t do it no matter how sweet it sounds put you first. Thank you for this episode, ladies. Every episode is a hit and wish to see more. God bless.

Oh I love y'all's content. Especially as a girl who just turned 20 I swear every video feels like a big session with my big sisters that I never had because I'm the oldest. I love y'all fr

Big on the “dont move in bc you want to save money…” It’s crazy I’ve been saying this, and yall just gave me the clarity I needed!

My story: lol I was about 19 or 20, dating this guy I worked with. Now, I had already been trying to leave him alone, changed my number & everything! one morning, around 10 a.m., I was at home, chilling, texting my friends in our group chat like we always did. Out of nowhere, I hear a knock at my door.

I tell my friends, and they’re like, “Do we need to pull up?” lol Mind you, this man had just torn his ACL, and I lived on the second floor. So picture this him struggling up the stairs with crutches just to knock on my door.

never looked through the peephole. I was too caught off guard. Instead, I peeked out my mom’s window because it had a clear view of the entrance to our apartments And what do I see? Him, driving out the complex, I’m like , “Wow y’all… this man really just came to my house.” I’m thinking ok cute I changed my number & he really trying lmao but Whole time, he had another woman that I didn’t even know about, so yeah men and women can be manipulative but we can also make ppl think we really want them by our crazy actions .

I see the comments, & I know yall are in your early 20s and of course there’s still a lot to learn. I’m 32 and still learning & of
Course these can be sensitive topics to ppl who’s currently in it but ultimately yall are right,  you’ve got to know who you are and love yourself first. Because when you don’t, it’s too easy to end up with someone who can shift the entire trajectory of your life. And trust me, that’s a lesson you don’t want to learn the hard way.

My first narcissist i thought he loved me he wanted to protect me no that man was in competition with me and purposely got my pregnant because he thought my value would decrease but sir my baby leveled me up 😂😂

I love your podcast! Just wanted to say for the advice you offer directly on patreon make sure you put a disclaimer that you’re not professionals and that it’s only your opinion so you’re not liable if someone takes your advice the wrong way. Love y’all!

this was my favorite episode thus far💗

I know this all too well had to fight for my life to get away. That thug life/crazy wasn't for me. Now I'm in a healthy relationship and loved being measured preparing for our wedding this coming up May.

another good episode 🤍

I literally be waiting for yall videos to drop I love yall so much already ! ❤️❤️❤️

Loving this podcast I listen to while im working on my business

Definitely since childhood my mom always said ask ppl how they life was at 6,7,8 ppl don’t admit but it shapes your reality to a certain extent like you said yes it stir from childhood and we grow , feel how we live is “normal “ until I realize certain behaviors are not good and then u see u gotta change but mfks know the running game and just wanna see who accessible unless they really have problems mentally no judging but a lot ppl , don’t even know they medical chart it’s sum to look at fr but at that point I feel I’m the red flag for not knowing lol that’s why I feel it’s good to take time getting to know

I remember this guy in high school used to get mad at me and break up with me everyday. One day he broke up with me because I said I wasn’t ready for a kid and go to another girl. He would just keeping going back N forth with with us and I knew he would talk mess about one of us to the other. One specific day he said in front of the whole class my  😻 stunk mind you we never had sex and I was always on my period I keep myself clean especially when I used to have my cycle. I don’t know what a healthy relationship is or what it feels like I would get cheated on in every relationship loyal or not.

Lawddd. I’ve definitely been lost thinking obsession was love. My ex would pry through my windows at night when I’d block him (mind u I had no screen) and once I was recording a whole vlog catching him on camera

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Yeah idk I really liked the podcast up until this😭 it doesn’t seem like they’re educated enough on these topics to be engaging in discourse about what other women go through. When you haven’t really been through anything, spoon fed, it’s easy to sit up and talk about these things as if it could never be you. The way they’re diminishing heavy & complex situations that women go through and just chalking it up to a woman not loving herself so you can promote the self love video is crazy. If you want to talk about things you know nothing about, have a guest on the show that actually has some experience with what you’re discussing.

How do we watch the live podcast I am apart of the Patreon