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5 Things I Had to Quit After Losing My Husband

The Redeemed Widow

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When your husband died, a part of you did too.

Grief changes you—and often asks you to let go of things long before you feel ready.
In this video, I’m sharing five things I had to quit after losing my husband so I could begin healing and rebuilding my life. Some may feel familiar, and the last one may be the permission your heart needs today.

✨ I’d love to hear from you:

What have you had to quit in your grief? Or what do you know may be keeping you from moving forward?

Share in the comments. I’d love to hear what this has looked like for you.

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20 Comments

@theredeemedwidow Creator 2 months ago Pinned

If this video found you because you've recently lost your husband... I'm so sorry you're walking this road. I want you to know that healing is possible. Not because the pain disappears, but because Jesus is faithful to walk with you every step of the way. If you're looking for more biblical encouragement and a community of Christian widows who truly understand, you'll find links in the description.

I'm so glad you're here. ❤

@libgiles8376 2 months ago

I lost my lovely husband suddenly. No warning. Just gone. After 40 years. We got each other. 2 years now. The world has moved on. No one cares. They were supportive for a,while. I feel so so alone.😮😢😢

@eleanortaylor7385 2 months ago

My name is Eleanor I am 81 but I lost my husband 6 years ago we were married for 60 years I was lost and I have never stopped crying I am crying now listening to you ,I will never get better until God takes me home.

@islewait6107 2 months ago

It will be my first full year without him July 15, 2026. Keep me in prayer. It's devastating.🦄🌧😐🙏🧩🧎‍♀️🇺🇸👈

@MM-yi9zn 2 months ago

It only no one understands what it feels like to become a widow. Not only that but people especially couples don’t even want to know. It’s a very lonely experience.

@willisgoodger1875 2 months ago

This also good and spot on for widowers. God has picked me up and saved me. My wife knew i would turn to our Lord. I owe my life to Our Lord, Jesus Christ. ❤❤❤

@debbibobetty5620 2 months ago

I promise you the happiness does come back. I've been widowed 10 years now after 45 years of marriage and God did get me through everything and gave me blessings like I've never seen before. He is there for you and he has so much more he'll replace everything that was taken from you❤

@Linda-mj2wv 2 months ago

What I say is “it’s not right for me at this time”. Instead of “never”

@coloradogirl9913 2 months ago

It’s been 4 months since I found my husband outside when he fell off of a ladder and hit his head. I tried to do CPR, but I knew he was gone by his color and lack of breath and pulse. Thank you dear lady for your excellent advice and feelings about this horrible situation that we find ourselves experiencing. May God continue to comfort and care for you and the rest of us. Love and hugs 🥰

@powerwalkwithmybaby 2 months ago

I found my husband dead on the floor, after being out running errands.. - The shock was unbearable.. - It’s only been a little over
8 months for me.. - It’s sooooo hard to continue without him… - Tried grief group, it was a waste of time, as one of the women decided to make the experience horrible for me.. - She would make faces of disgust when looking at me,, went out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable.. - And here I was,, grieving my husband of 29 years, and having to go through this.. - I am a kind and friendly woman,, I should have never been treated like this.. - What a joke.. - Anyway,, God Is Helping me, and I couldn’t do this without Him…

@lindadroege5564 2 months ago

It will be 25 years this December since I suddenly lost my husband of 24 years. So, I’ve now been widowed the same length of time I was married. I still miss not having him here. Finishing each other sentences and understanding each other so well. Someone who knew ME. I’ve recently retired and I’m grieving all over again because I have no one to retire with. No one to travel with to all the places we always talked about visiting. I did the dating scene and that was not fun. No one can ever be what he was to me. And last but, certainly not least, I did leave the church for a while and have now gone back but, it’s VERY lonely going by yourself. Especially when you see others attending with their spouses. Being a widow is simply a lonely lonely world and non widows DO NOT understand whatsoever what you’re going through. 😢

@carolynmullins283 2 months ago

My husband and I had known each other since we were five years old. Married young and he passed away one year ago this February. We were sitting on the side of our bed. He had his arms around me and said to me ""honey do you know how much I love you "" at that moment he was leaning into my shoulder and he died right that minute. We were approaching our 60th Anniversary. Grief beyond measure. We were retired and always together. I am grieving myself physically sick. I rarely leave our home. I am so lonely missing him. We were each other's best of everything. Two grown children and one Grandson. I am beside myself. I am a complete loner. I do not sleep at night, I have lost so much weight but not big to begin with. Petite and about 100lbs. I am so broken and sad. I care for my family, but my lifetime partner is gone, I will see him in Heaven but this life is completely over as we knew it. I do need Prayers. 🙏🙏

@carolabecker8219 2 months ago

Wow, I’m pretty sure the Lord sent me to your channel. I am going on 4 years of widowhood after the suicide of my precious husband of 31 years. It has been a devastation like no other. I feel as though the shock to my system will never end. As you say, your world changes in every way. I had to also leave our church, mostly because they abandoned me. I rec’d one phone call and after that.,,nothing. My husband’s family abandoned me as did my best friend of 45 years. I have basically no family, no kids. All the people I’ve loved are in heaven. It’s where I long to be as well but I guess the Lord has other plans for me. I could say so much more but don’t want to get long winded. Thank you so much for your advice and wisdom. God bless you❤

@Linda-mj2wv 2 months ago

Grieve last for at least 2 years. Do not expect it to dissipate quickly. It takes time.

@marjiepompey8002 2 months ago

Thank you! Yes I have experienced all of those! My story is different but grief is the same! I was mad at God for awhile but thankful HE didn’t give up on me!!❤

@laurawright7477 2 months ago (edited)

I'm 10 years into this. You are exactly right on every point. Prayer and the Lord got me through my devastation. At first I tried to go on being as I was used to. But I knew I wasn't the same person anymore. My husband died and so did the life I had with him.
Then I realized Isolation and reevaluating your life is necessary to heal and move on.
I'm still trying to figure out who I am now. The Lord is guiding every part of my new path..including bringing in new Christian people into my life. It does get better.

@brigitteevens851 2 months ago

It can still hit me hard even though it’s been 4.5 years, but I also lost my only child just 13 months later. Both were unexpected and tragic medical conditions. My husband died of a heart attack on vacation when he was out on a snorkeling excursion. There are days when life feels bearable, and some where I can even smile and have fun, but then there are the dark, gut wrenching times when I feel cheated of time with them both. My husband was 59 when he died and my daughter only 21. I moved to a new state 900 miles away, which we had wanted to do all together, and it has been good for me. The memories living in my old home without them both was too much. God has gotten me through every day, whether I cry or not. Don’t give up on grief groups! I am now in an over 55 community and this one feels best, for we are all of a certain age and looked forward to our golden years with our spouses. Life can have meaning and joy again, but it doesn’t come quickly. I pray for those who are new to grief and hope you experience God’s comfort!

@Sue-b8p 2 months ago

My husband died suddenly eleven months ago today. It's a living hell. We were together for 61 years. Fell in love when we were kids.

@ejack4961 2 months ago

Never say never, has been
One of my go to phrases for many years

@kerrycusack9262 2 months ago

I lost my husband and my mother in the same week. I was obviously devastated but I am still here. A miracle really when I think back to how broken I was. I did go to grief counselling for a few weeks; but, never did feel like I wanted to go to a widow's group. I found it very, very overwhelming because I could not deal with others' grief, intense feelings, etc. I needed to feel it all on my own, and believe me, my own grief was intense enough without having to witness other's grief. I am saying this because not everyone will want to share their grief with others nor will everyone feel comfort through religion. I believe everyone's 'religion/spirituality' is such a personal thing. The only thing I can say is trust yourself, if you need to isolate for a while, then do that, if you need to speak with someone who understands, then do what is right for you because you will know in your soul what you need to do to navigate your way through it. Grief is a time when you need to listen and honor your needs. And, you are right, no one understands unless they've been through it and even then, their experience may be different due to their own personal circumstances.