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So basically what he's saying is, why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. Have options, high standards, set boundaries and stand on them. Got it!!

Ladies: beware of toxic men, this is how they think.

I truly feel for my heterosexual sisters, and 100% understand why so many are actively choosing to stay single. This is terrible.

I would never want a man that would use me like this.

1. Emotional control level- can they push your buttons and make you do stuff they want
2.self esteem- confidence, you know what you bring to the table and what you deserve in a relationship
3. Naive or not- gauging what they can get away with, how much crap they can make you believe
4. Out of their league- you have more options to choose from, if you have high standards regarding potential partners- eligible men will try to meet your standards
5. intention-date men with intention, men also look at your dating intention, don't waste time on the wrong things, set deadlines with defining the relationship...(Clear definition of where the relationship is going)

As a 20 year old virgin who’s waiting for marriage, you’re saving me so much trouble! My own father never tells me this information about men. This channel is a blessing ❤❤❤❤

The "still on dating apps" scenario happened to me.
I was on a date with a guy that I reeeaaallly liked, all butterflies in my belly!
So we sit facing eachother, drinking beer, when he picks up his phone and like, looks thoroughly, as if reading something.
Well lucky me! Because
his phone screen reflected on his sunglasses that were hanging on his sweater, on his chest, I saw it all!

He checked out a girl on a dating site.
I can not with words describe the total dissapointment I felt. I pretended like nothing but left very very shortly after and sent him a message that I wasnt feeling well.
I couldnt think straight. But alteast I left quietly 👸

Ya, I'm looking for a man that does the right thing even when no one is looking.  This video just reminds me that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.

Opportunist is another word for a Predator

I think I’m too detached to be desperate. It’s as if my nervous system detects a threat and does an emotional shutdown 😂

He reassures us, "Men arent evil"
😂😂😂

These games are why dating is so tricky. I don’t deny its effectiveness…it’s psychology. Just seek people with good moral character, values & principles who align with urs. Believe little of what they say and relay more on what’s SHOWN! Anyone playin these games is insecure and immature….not worth your time!

The only thing I disagree with is this: “Men aren’t evil; They are opportunists.”

Good people don’t take advantage of those in a weaker position; if anything, they use their strength to protect the weak. The opposite of good uses that same leverage to do the opposite action… Therefore, evil is by definition opportunistic.

Dating is exhausting. Even when you believe you deserve more, they spend so much time trying to short change you and break you down.

No wonder more women are forgetting men

Thanks bro, for teaching the ladies how to navigate relationships with malignant men! Of course, the best advice to them would be "If you see any of these signs, walk away and never look back!"

I am 50... trust me on this: Do what they do and don't lose your mind... just play their game... because  we both are humans and can play the field.... Watch them not knowing what to do to trigger you... play the player and stay a slayer.... I learned my lesson... 👏👏👏 (and it works!)

This is The Player's Handbook. He's 100% spot on.

Yes a man can control a woman that has no friends, uses men as a coping mechanisms for her traumas and problems, doesn’t know herself, and doesn’t know her own self worth. That use to be me and I felt like I wasn’t really getting much out of a relationship. But now I don’t use guys for money or my own happiness and let them be free, I feel like a much clear headed person that don’t need a guy’s validation and plans for the future to make me happy.