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Beauty standards are so unrealistic we became bullies

Bryony Claire

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Beauty standards have shifted so much that people think even attractive women are ugly. And they're more than happy to tell them all of their "flaws" they should "fix" - even when they aren't asked. Milly Alcock is the new supergirl and suddenly she's compared to a caveman. Brooke Monk does a video with her boyfriend and the internet says she's like some hideous troll. People have been calling this year's contestants on Love Island chopped. Lupita Nyong'o is cast as Helen of Troy in the new Odessey movie and people call her hideous. Season 3 of the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders documentary just came out and people are calling them mid and unattractive. Then we get onto the Ariana Grande situation and Skinnytok is reaching all new levels of hell and girls and women everywhere are feeling insecure and like it's better for them to just hide away and not be visible at all... and maybe that's the point. Lots to get into today, lovelies!

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Timestamps:
00:00 intro to online hell
05:56 the pedestal is a trap
15:05 fandom's "expectations" and the racism elephant in the room
18:40 women don't deserve a platform
22:46 shrinking pressure (TW ED discussion)
33:13 wrapping up

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Tiktoks etc referenced:
Noelle: Instagram: DRnqVVxjsad

Brooke Monk: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookemonk_/v...
Miss Colorado: Instagram:
Sam : Instagram: DWReGXkDqH1 Instagram: thesamprevite
Lucybyoga: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucy_byoga/vi...
Spenser barbosa : https://www.tiktok.com/@spencer.barbo...
megan grubb https://www.tiktok.com/@meggangrubb/v...

Sources:
https://www.kidspot.com.au/lifestyle/....
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cly...
https://www.news.com.au/entertainment...
https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/n...
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2026-04-2...
https://www.poynter.org/reporting-edi...
https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/m...
https://www.theguardian.com/music/202...
https://www.cbr.com/kelly-marie-tran-...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Es...
https://www.glamour.com/story/why-do-...
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2...

https://www.rnz.co.nz/news/political/...
https://www.1news.co.nz/2025/04/08/it...
https://www.acute.org/resources/osteo...
https://www.acute.org/resources/impac...
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.o...
https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/c...

Nikki Glaser: Nikki Glaser Calls Out Beauty Standards in...

https://www.health.harvard.edu/stayin...
Studies referenced:
halo effect cross cultural study https://link.springer.com/article/10....
Online hostility towards women: https://link.springer.com/article/10....
study bones older https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...

20 Comments

@BryonyClaire Creator 3 months ago Pinned

Kelli, Judy and Charlotte bullying Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders for decades and taking pride in that fact saying it "makes them the best" acting shocked when people do the same 👁👄👁
Anyone else feel beauty standards have shifted so much that nobody is good enough?

@bean-qf1nd 3 months ago

the irony in telling the cheerleaders to get stronger while also expecting them to rapidly drop weight

@akaErma 3 months ago (edited)

I feel so bad for how Britney's body was picked apart. She was never fat, she's just a naturally muscular, athletic woman.

@Jedidiah_McCain 3 months ago

Remember folks: If you live for people’s approval, you’ll die from their rejection.

This includes your body.

@LunalPotato 3 months ago

We're all tired. Just let us exist

@chocoeuxlatier 3 months ago

"It's not my responsibility to be beautiful. I'm not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me."

Love this quote by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie ❤

@SF-kc6zv 3 months ago

All of it is pure gaslighting. All of the women mentioned in this video are all gorgeous. If these women aren’t beautiful, none of us are. That’s intentional. They don’t want literally any woman feeling good about themselves

@TheReaperofHades 3 months ago

It’s time to ditch the “sticks and stones” bullshit, and accept that words can hurt people.

@juliajs_1177 3 months ago

Wearing a cross necklace and calling people "gross" - yeah, great example of love and caring!

@demonbanjo 3 months ago

It’s like Ferrera said in the Barbie movie—we as women just cannot win. We either are letting ourselves go or trying to hard. We’re either a basic bitch or a pick me. We either are fishing for compliments or full of ourselves. At the end of the day the truth is misogyny, people just love to hate women

@donotlendbookstome7923 3 months ago

As a woman who weighs around 160 lbs, I think that the slender young lady who says I “better not be coming for her” needs to review Newton’s laws of motion. Momentum is on my side here.

@Ahora_misa3099 3 months ago

It’s all Misogyny and internalized misogyny…it’s ALL MISOGYNY

@HorsesRWeird 3 months ago

At some point we’ve gotta ask: does anyone actually like anybody else?

@hatchet1013 3 months ago

I have 2 wolves inside of me: one is haunted by diet culture and negative self talk. The other knows that more body means more tattoos

@queenglimmer444 3 months ago

hate that society is regressing to the sexism and fatphobia of the early 00's, it's like we learned nothing

@SquiglySquid 3 months ago

15:42 60% of the world are Asian, and roughly 50% are women. Litteraly how is having an Asian girl in a movie "forced diversity"??? It'd be more forced not to have her in the movie 😭

@PrincessCramps 3 months ago

Sadly these people will only praise you when you end up in a hospital bed, on a drip, a skeleton and dying because you starved yourself because of their constant criticism and bullying.

@Taiga_11_loafmarshy 3 months ago

Like why do you care that I'm ugly? I'm the one that has to carry that face.
People just really want to find something and someone to judge, no matter how reasonable or logical it is.

@DrNanite 3 months ago

I need Brook Monk to know she is pretty and she is only being called "more ugly" than her boyfriend becasue of sexism and society has higher standards for women.

@DaxG-qp3jf 3 months ago

look, its time to just admit that larger noses and women's natural figures are beautiful. these strict standards are just water carrying for fascism and patriarchy.