The person who asked for the date and picked  the venue should be prepared to pay, unless both persons agreed, before the date, to split the bill.

Few westerners can appreciate the pressure put on the oldest girl of the family to help mom and dad. The dynamics are all encompassing emotionally, socially, economically, and spiritually.

Both of you seem to be confused about everything.

When I lived in the U.S. I paid for every date, not just meals. Tickets, movies, cover charges, gas, bills, tips. Same in Thailand. In the Philippines they call the silent treatment "tampo"

Your interaction with each other is endearing. I personally, feel happiness when witnessing. I have to say that I find value in traditional relationships and almost none in most modern relationships. Gender roles are natural and compliment each other rather than competing with each other, like is often the case when feminism is largely present.

I’m never surprised when foreigners say, “I’ve lived in Thailand for ten years and still don’t understand the culture.” Part of that is ignorance, and part of it is pure incompetence — because Thailand’s relationship system is completely different from the West. Thai women aren’t just dating you; they’re evaluating whether you can fit into the cultural structure of Boon Khun and Sin Sod, where love is tied to family duty and long‑term support. And sometimes what you think is love is actually a means to an end — affection that lasts only as long as the partner can support the family. If you don’t understand that, you’ll misunderstand everything about dating in Thailand.

Ying- you have talked about the dowry or Sinsod in other videos and again in this one. My understanding is that this applies to unwed young Thai women.  I found it strange when a sinsod was brought up to me from the family of a 40 year old Thai woman who was divorced and had 2 kids.  Not only a Sinsod, but family support that included debt repayments, medical bills, etc.  I said that no relationship was worth that type of demand and that was not what a sinsod was about. In this situation it was clear the purpose was to  advantage of a farang.  Maybe a video on that topic would be good and get views since that is becoming more common.

Yours is the best advice I have found by far. Good manners and chivalry will never be outdated between educated individuals. My pleasure and thanks!

When you mentioned how meeting a guy at a bar means he'll always want to go out drinking, it really resonated! Environment sets the tone for everything. That’s why I avoided the nightlife scene entirely and met my girlfriend on thai love - we bonded over quiet coffee dates instead, and it set us up for a amazing, real relationship.

Thank you, girls!

Once you understand how Thai culture works — especially the expectations around family support and relationship roles — it becomes easy to protect yourself, set clear boundaries, and fully enjoy your time in beautiful Thailand.

So very nice to see you making videos again!! :-)  I've heard that many Thai women will not tell their foreign boyfriends that they are angry with them but will act strangely instead.  How can a man tell if their Thai woman is angry with them and how would you suggest that they can have an honest conversation and address the problem without causing tears or a break up?  BTW  many western women expect men to also be psychic and just know how they are feeling without being told and that can cause relationship problems...Ying that top you are wearing looks very good on you!

I find the debate about who should pay on a date interesting because cultural expectations differ. In my culture, traditionally, a man is expected to take the initiative—pick her up, pay the bill, take care of her, and make sure she gets home safely. If he invites her on vacation, he would generally pay as well.

Regarding Sin Sod, I personally feel it can sometimes become a financial expectation justified as tradition. If we accept traditions simply because they are old, we may overlook whether they are actually fair—especially when sons may still receive majority of family assets.

Since moving to Bangkok, I've been surprised by how many women in their 20s and 30s are divorced or single mothers. I know it's just my personal experience, but it makes me wonder whether some traditional relationship expectations need to be reconsidered.

Another great video! thanks !👃

Good cultural discourse and expectations- thanks ladies!

Interesting conversation ladies.

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It's a top topic with Ying and Top. 3:07 Lose face means to suffer a loss of respect, dignity, or status in front of other people

It's always the man who foots the bill 😂

Awesome, thank you for sharing great wisdom and understanding about your lovely Country and Culture!