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When “Begging” Becomes Harassment: The Dark Side of Estranged Parents

BUT SHE'S YOUR MOTHER

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20 Comments

@yolandaponkers1581 6 months ago

“We’re not therapists.” Babe, we can tell 😂

@yolandaponkers1581 6 months ago

“My child blocked my number and profile and told me she wants me out of her life forever, so I kept finding ways to contact her and drove by her house constantly and I can’t believe she got a restraining order.” These people don’t hear themselves at all.

@MermaidMakes 6 months ago (edited)

I just wanted to share a funny thought I had while watching.

I’m a recovering alcoholic (sober over 10 years!). I have substance abuse disorder and one big part of my healing was AA….can you imagine if AA was just a bunch of active alcoholics telling each other that we aren’t alcoholics, that we don’t have a drinking problem, that the world did this to us and that we should just keep drinking?!? We’d all be dead!!!

Sorry, that’s where my brain went with this “support group” and it gave me a good chuckle.

@Moekristie 6 months ago

I find these two so vile ...

@EsperanzaR23 6 months ago (edited)

Everytime I start to miss my mom and think about reaching out, she will bombard me with text or sending me reels talking about ungrateful children and then I remember the reasons I cut contact

@sheila1366 6 months ago

You can turn off the feature on both iphones and androids that notifies a texter that they text has been read. The feature is "Read Receipts", It can be turned off for everyone or just for a selected contact. I had a sibling who needed to to this with an abusive relative because we suspected that it was fueling additional abusive texts. She eventually had to block him because he attempted to shut down her voice mail by maxing out her inbox.

This was a very illuminating. It really is as bad as I feared.

@airenmoonwolf2520 6 months ago

Why do they believe we should pay attention to their begging when our begging was met with contempt, physical abuse or just pushed aside. We were told to grow up and stop acting like a child (even if we were children) but they are just "scared", "hurt", and "afraid". We were scared, hurt and afraid too but that didn't matter because we were just "difficult" and "demanding". The DARVO is so strong in these two and the weird thing is they dance like ballerinas so close to REAL understanding that it is maddening to listen to them.

@wiyaka788 6 months ago

A lot of these women or parents show no respect for their estranged children

@SoThatsGoot 6 months ago

The freeze frames of their faces that you use for the static images 😂😂😂
Love the pettiness

@helenbotha2050 6 months ago

Toxic parents and missing missing reasons. Name a more iconic duo

@angier2858 6 months ago

Some of them think apologizing to God is apologizing to their offspring, it is not the same

@lovenicky714 6 months ago

I'm so grateful that you are talking about the use of cell phones to harass. It is not talked about often yet it is so prevalent in these relationships.

@Makanalani888 6 months ago

So the deranged is saying that not giving into someone who is begging you for somethig is holding a power trip, inferring that every time someone begs we should give them what they ask for? I'd like to see these two clowns apply that logic, they already admitted they send their estranged adult children to voicemail when they call, and they can't associate their own behavior as power trip. This is a ridiculous Tit-for-tat tactics that they try to claim as boundaries.

@X_EYE_RA 6 months ago

This is so weird. I wish my mom would get on here and do this it would take the rest of my guilt away 😂

@alura5376 6 months ago

I am cringing at the idea that NOT sending a text for 24 hours is seen as nigh insurmountable for them.

@yolandaponkers1581 6 months ago

It never ceases to amaze me how all of these estranged parents instantly make it clear that they’re the entire problem in their estrangements. I don’t need to hear anything else from them or hear from their children. It is clear after about ten to fifteen seconds it’s totally the parents.

@callingallcomas 6 months ago

Why is their advice to stop begging if it's hurting YOU - maybe stop if it's bothering your offspring? And the way they casually imply that the offspring should CHANGE THEIR NUMBER if they really don't want contact 🤯 Lady at that point I may as well assume a new identity altogether, it would take a serious physical threat. Imagine suggesting someone should change their number if they don't want you to harass them and still thinking you're a nice, normal person.

@crwonshe 6 months ago

They are always competing about their pain is greater than their offspring...though they were the grown ups, they endurance have to be greater than their child, the child who were totally dependant on the parent but their selfish parent put always their emotional needs first and above their own child's because of the lack of self awareness and empathy for their own child, who are separate from them and not an extension of themselves.

@lyra2282 6 months ago (edited)

"We're not therapists, we're lived experience". Lived experiences, when left unexamined and unprocessed, offer no value whatsoever. In fact, they can and do become weaponized to perpetuate harm, just as these two women demonstrate.

@ErinLokken 6 months ago

Mine never asked. They came close. Once. What they asked was if I felt that they had pulled away from me because I moved to the South (they live in the upper Midwest). I said no. What I didn’t say (because I did not feel safe enough emotionally) was that I felt that my mother liked my sister more and would always take her side, even if I was hurting. Their response to my simple no? “Good. Because it was your choice to move to the South instead of up north with us.” They did respond to my emotional distance one more time. Only it was all my fault and all the work had to come from me. I tried. And then went back to gray-rocking because I had to beg for responses and felt the emotional goalposts move again.